Where does one begin on a subject like this...? I mean what does a teenager know about anything..? Think about it. Quite a few of us didn't seize the opportunities that High School presented. I have memory of quite a few girls who didn't have good homes getting into trouble early on
It is not easy growing up and having more questions then answers. As a teenager, you don't even know the right questions either. Teens need to be looked after, watched, nurtured and protected until their common sense kicks in. Unfortunately, a lot of parents were not up to the task.
I am not blaming anyone involved. The pressures that come about from having a home, responsibilities, expenses, and difficult choices abound for everyone. Add to the fact that our parents never parented before either. Neither did their parents or their parents, parents.. parents and so on...Consequently, the majority of parents learn as they go.
I remember good friends of mine having children and not knowing what to do to raise them. They had poor role models themselves and wanted to raise the bar. They resorted to books on how to raise their own child. It was very tough on the children as the book was written by someone else and not their parents. One day I go over to my friends house and find that his wife put their 3 year old in the closet to discipline her. That's what the book said to do. I had trouble with that......
There are many reasons why teens have sex:
- everyone is doing it...is not acceptable
- curiosity is a factor
- hormones which remain misunderstood drive erratic behavior
- misplaced love i.e. sex is substituted for genuine deep caring and sharing
- escape from a not so good life
- boredom
- rebellion
- temptation
- opportunity
- rape or molestation
To be introduced to such a mature subject at such an early age is traumatic. It also has you growing up before your time. We are children for such a short while...speeding up the process does not make sense...unless it does...
Of course the dreaded consequences of getting pregnant and having to learn that the hard way just breaks every-ones heart involved. Some teens want children sort of like having dolls so that they can love them and more importantly...be loved by them. Of course the responsibilities that go along with that become overwhelming
Growing up is an interesting thing. Some of us have had the most pleasant memories and opportunities and others pure hell with everything in between. My counsel to anyone going through hard times, confusion, doubt, growth factors, dysfunction, and NEED should NOT add the dynamics of sex..... to their problems
For anyone that already did the deed, STOP doing it right now. Be sorry for getting ahead of yourself and you can create a fresh start. When the time comes to visit or revisit this subject, you will know and then you will be ready for it emotionally, mentally, phsycally, spritiually and psychologically.
Best you you on this....
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