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Reblogger Barbara Hensley

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October 29, 2010 01:11 AM

More Than Enough Already!

Read this post...it is not acceptable to bully any one.

There are other ways we can BULLY someone. It is not only what we say. Following are a few other ways that someone can be a bully resulting in another person feeling pain....

Roll your eyes
Exclude someone from a conversation
Fail to make eye contact - make them feel as if they are not there
Laugh as they are leaving the room
Sigh deeply when they have said something

A roll of the eyes, a look, a shrug, a sigh, a laugh....you never know what may push someone in distress over the edge.

If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. Why can't people live by this simple rule? You don't have to be everyone's friend. You don't even have to accept their choices or lifestyle. All you have to do is leave them alone.

Why do some feel the need to tease and bully people who are different? There is no reason for it and it should not be tolerated. It is not your problem to fix or your job to hurt and humiliate. Just STOP IT NOW!

If you are a victim of morons who are causing you pain... SPEAK UP. There are many who will help you. We can't sit by and allow one more person to feel so abused that they end their life whatever the reason. There is too much in the future for you.

This post is way off topic and was written after hearing of the death of someone who was still in high school with so much life still ahead of them. I am not even sure of the details of this senseless death but it made me want to lash out for all people who have been the brunt of jokes and the victims of ridicule.
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Bob "RealMan" Timm

Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND

Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Barbara, I'm not sure I would label all these things as bullying but they all do fall under being rude and unexceptable. I hope my fellow believers in Christ take note and think about it if they feel tempted to engage in these actions.

Bob

Oct 29, 2010 01:33 AM

Charita Cadenhead

eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL

Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

I'm familiar with the story that Paddy relates in the post and it certainly never had to happen. It saddens me deeply what kids have to endure.

Oct 29, 2010 01:36 AM

Lynda White

Bluegrass Homes & Farms Realty, Agent Know How - Louisville, KY

Admin. Mgr., Keller Williams Realty

I agree with Barbara to a point. I think those behaviors can be construed as bullying. If they are done consistently over time it can hurt the person who is victimized by it, especially those who are sensitive. I used to be like that but I've learned over time not to wear my heart on my sleeve. For one thing, the comments, looks, etc., are not always about ME..I just told myself, "Get over yourself."

I understand what you are saying also, @Michael Lissack (#1 comment). If a laugh pushes someone over the edge, then they may have serious issues in the first place.

Most of us could be a little more understanding when it comes to laughing at others' expense.

Oct 29, 2010 01:40 AM

Dennis Duvernay Broker/Owner

Hillview Realty - Northbridge, MA

I must say that if you have ever been bullied then you would not truly believe the listed items as bullying....unacceptable yes...bullying ..NO

Oct 29, 2010 01:41 AM

Don MacLean

New England Real Estate Center Inc. - Easton, MA

Realtor-Homes for Sale- Easton, Mass 02356

It's unfortunate that some people feel the need to be superior in their own minds.

Not realizing they are not, but just reacting to their own insecurities

Enjoy the day

Oct 29, 2010 02:20 AM

Paddy (Patricia) Pizappi

Better Homes and Gardens Rand Realty - Pine Bush, NY

Real Estate Associate Broker Hudson Valley NY

The behaviors mentioned I beleive to be a form of bullying. Just as domestic abuse is occuring where there are no physical scars, treating someone in these ways is bullying them. Great points Barbara

Oct 29, 2010 02:38 AM

Sorry to chime in again but the High School case mentioned is far from the rolling of eyes. These were teenage girls who ridiculed another girl so severly that she took her own life. NOT ONLY THAT they actually went to her funeral and openly mocked her in the casket in front of her grieving family. I'm sorry, that just has NO comparison to a deep sigh.

This story shook me up enough that my wife and I went to our kids school and visited with the principal about it. Our kids are in 3rd and 5th grades. The principle said they do not tolerate any bullying and are very on guard about it. She also said that they only have trouble with the girls where as the boys may have a scuffle now and then but corrective measures are made and it's over.

I also have been the victum of domestic violance (yes men are often victums) How nice it would have been if my ex would have rolled her eyes instead of stabbing me on numious occasions or waking up in the hospital because while I was asleep she took a hammer to my head.

Oct 29, 2010 03:12 AM

Barbara Hensley

RE/MAX Properties - Rockwall, TX

Homes for Sale in Rockwall County, Texas

Thanks for all your comments.

I did not mean to imply that a roll of the eyes in any way was the degree of bullying that happened in this story. I meant we can be a bully in small ways, such as a roll of the eyes, when we are being rude to someone.

We never know how someone in pain will react to some rude things. Rudeness is a form of bullying. I do not mean rolling your eyes when you are teasing a close friend or associate, but doing it to belittle someone.

I think that a child that will be a bully often picks up habits from parents at home, thus we should all watch the small ways we may bully. I am sure that being a bully starts off small in most people and rises to higher levels.

True - if a laugh pushes someone over the edge, they already have problems, but do we want to add to those problems if it with a rude, mean laugh?

Thank again for your comments. Interesting and all true.

Oct 29, 2010 03:37 AM

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Great post to re-post and I wanted to thank you for visiting my blog

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Oct 29, 2010 08:10 AM

Thanks, Charles. Nice to know a RE/MAX man in Charlolttesville.

Oct 29, 2010 09:06 AM

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