Do you work hard? I don't! I never want to work hard again. I work persistent, but I can't say I'm a workaholic. I put in hours, even when I'm not 'Putting in Hours.' When I die, they won't say Jason Sardi was a hard worker, they'll say I lived hard. I know this now because I have an 'In' with God. God loves me, I think! I do this cause I love it. Through the uncertainity, through the chaos, through the good times & bad, I can honestly say I adore what I do for a living. Believe me, it isn't because of the money. In 6+ years in this industry, I would of made more coin being a prostitute for any other cause. I have no regrets though, I love this. Because of Active-Rain, I fell in love with it all over again...

I first joined this forum in the very fruits of its beginning. I dare say that I was one of the first. I didn't become Active until later, yet it was to become a destiny & epiphany all unto itself. Adam asked, I'll answer now. Because of Active-Rain, I fell in love.....all freaking over again.

On Active-Rain I've met and am meeting some great people. It makes me wonder where they were for the past 31 years of my existence. But this isn't about that, because its about somebody else I loved and adored. The love and adoration of loss.

I lost a gal because of my committment to writing on this forum. Love to me, is never conditional. I lost my life because I like writing too much, on this forum. Nobody will ever change me! If you can't live like you write, what good is writing? It's like teaching and not being able to be the student. I want to live & lose, and write what is on my skull every step of that way. That was lost along the way, I have learned to live with that notion. I lost, which leads me to being able to love again.

Because of Active-Rain, I fell in love with my chosen profession....all over again. I also fell in love with life, because I encountered those who chose to share that same adulation. Because of Active-Rain, I fell in love with living and knowing that I will always be tested & probed & prodded until I give in. Yet, I'll never give in and that is where Active-Rain comes into play, I fell in love with my purpose to this strange world all over again.

That is Because I answer Why....

Posted by Jason Sardi, Mortgage Banker on 09/07/2007 01:47 AM

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Originally posted at: Real Estate Financing...: Because Of Active-Rain, I Fell In Love All Over Again...

100 Comments on Because Of Active-Rain, I Fell In Love All Over Again...

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Did you read my mind?!? I've been through a really tough summer and I was about to throw in the towel a couple of weeks ago. If it werent for ActiveRain, I probably would have. It helps me connect outside my own little world and realize, things are great, this is a great business and I do love it. Thanks or summing it all up in this great post.

Jason... interesting.... I love what I do also... and Active Rain even made me appreciate what I do even more, in so many ways. But as of today, the wind has been let out of my sails. I have lost blogging at this point and I am besides myself. Long story and I guess I am semi venting.

But getting back to what we do.... we both love it, both during the good or even during the bad times. I just love helping people and educating them. Good post...

jeff belonger

Hey Chrissy - I don't read minds, I only interpret them. Sounds like you are the type of person we need in this industry! Stay alive, breath deep, you'll be fine if this is your notion.

An interesting post Jason. I would agree with the trade off. I was cautioned to love only that which has a capacity to love you back. There was wisdom in that. Material things and abstract things can't love you back. So don't love material or abstract things. Money can't love you back so don't fall in love with it and on and on.
I love ActiveRain to, not in the abstract but in the realization that beyond all the words are real people. These real people can and do love you back so I guess to fall in love here is Ok to do. But a non intimate love can not replace your need to be fulfilled and realized in a personal one on one way.
Maybe you can have both. Hopefully so.

Belonger - Bro, call me man. Vent away, my speciality is listening and interpreting. I've sensed things in your writings lately, I don't mean to sound like an A$$ here, but let's talk. You are too good to let other things bring you down. Geez, I sound like Dr. Freaking Phil, but the wind is still blowing....

William - If there was ever a soul I'd love to talk to live & in person, it may just be you. I get misunderstood at times in what I write (my lack of communication factors I'm sure) yet I want what I can't have. Love is never conditional William, never! I have purpose because of people like you.....

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Jason-

I can totally relate with caring so much for the AR community, and you write some of the best posts with some great writing skills keep it up.

Jeff- I am sorry to hear your AR flu. I hope you will continue to write some great posts. I have learned so much from your posts and feel we all can help each other. keep up the good fight.

Good deal Gary, you said it well.

Lil Bro....I doubt you have lack of communication skills or factors. Semantics at its best.... lol!

Listen to William lil bro...he has great in depth meaning when he writes...and true to his words...literally. You have different writing but you are far from loving work or "stuff"....that is not your nature. You're searching for something and have not found it. Stop searching and let it fall in your lap. Whatever falls in your lap will be your reward for letting it come....

Okay...how was that for deep...you know you're an addict to writing for the same a lot of us are. Expressing ourselves. And gee is it fun and educational and surely keeps the mind stimulated. (I don't drink)

You and active rain need to get a room... just kidding...come on, someone had to write it....glad to see the passion...

Hey Jason,

great blog, having a balance on life it is better than to be addict on something :) well done !!!! hope that many rainers learn from this.

Ray Saenz

Jason - How wonderful to love what you do and appreciate it in the now! I love the passion in this article.

And, you are so right about William. To meet him live is an absolute treat! What a great man. He can make every person in the room feel like they are the most important one there.

Jason,

You're a thinker. I too love AR. And I love balance too. I try to maintain that sense of equilibrium in my life, but I can't juggle, and it's hard. I just keep going straight ahead. Thanks, Fran

Jason Dahling, I agree with Sally and William, but I have to add my two cents here (of course). I don't think that you lost a gal because of your writing commitment or your AR addiction. I think you just didn't find the right girl. If you find that special one, you'll be more addicted to her than AR.

BUT WITH THAT BEING SAID...listen carefully here, this is the important part... If you're using AR as an escape and you're not putting yourself out there (for whatever reason, prior hurts or ??) then you need to tame the addiction.

A virtual life is nice, but a real life is sooo much better. You CAN have both in harmony. It's all about BALANCE!!!! It takes work and a commitment to balance your life.

Do you understand?

ActiveRain NEWSFLASH!!!

Longstanding ActiveRain blogger Jason Sardi became the first member to 'Fall in Love' on the popular real estate network. Mr. Sardi had been dating other professions off and on throughout his career, but commitment always seemed illusive. It wasn't until he took a cruise on the AR Blog Boat of Love, that the feelings for his current occupation truly deepened. The two lovebirds will be honeymooning this weekend while attending the Affordable Mortgage Lending Seminar hosted by Fannie Mae at the Holiday Inn Holidome near Lehigh Valley Int'l Airport. Our Best Wishes to the newlywed couple!

Man, Jason, what a tease of a headline!!

I was hoping to read my first-ever, "I met this incredible woman here on Active Rain. After exchanging complex, yet organized, thoughts on my busy mortgage business and her thriving real estate business, we connected spritually and just had to meet....." You get the idea.

I guess I will still have to wait for that post. You know its coming, if I havent already missed it.

I get it.... I really do... the longer I am a part of this community the more passionate I become about my business

I think I love Rich Jacobson. That was the funniest comment I've read today! OK, I just started, but that one's going to be hard to beat.

Jason, Tracey's right. She wasn't the right girl. Love isn't conditional, as you said, but someday there's going to be a girl that makes you want to compromise a little. That's not changing yourself, that's working together.

I'm not going Dr. Phil on you. MWA!!!

Jason, that is cool, I agree you have yet to meet the right girl. I'm always telling my kids that. Don't doubt that God loves you. He does, no thinking about it.

Activerain is like coming home from a hard days work where you have friends and family to greet you. I think you summed it up perfectly.

Congratulations on your wedding Jason! I FedEXed a gift certificate to you for Yocco's Hot Dogs so you and your bride could partake....but hey do they even have a wireless connection there?

I just came in here to say...I saw that headline and immediately wondered if Ms. BadPress and you had reconciled. :)

Lil Sis - My lap is an open pasture, let things fall as they may. You can be deep my dear and are always stimulating.

Rondel - If that is the case, I hope I don't have to sleep on the couch:-) Adam Waldman's contest was kind of the inspiration for all of this.

Ray - Balance & moderation are key. I'm not good at either, but I know the drill.

Marlene - I have many goals in this lifetime. Two of them seem simple and are in no particular order. One, to meet William Johnson. Two, to meet Marlene Bridges!

Fran - I'm bad at juggling myself.

Tracey - Comprehendo amiga. Virtual life is cool, but I've always and will always appreciate and love real life better. You are a wise soul and I love that 'dahling' bit:-)

Rich - First off, that was one of the funnier comments I've ever saw on any thread. It was even funnier than your comment on the one sentence post that was so very freaking profound (inside joke folks). It is a different kind of market out there, and the AR Blog Boat of Love will help us sail the seas with ease. Just ask AR if they are willing to pay for the Hotel Room.

Aaron - Yep, I'm a stickler for the art of misdirection and marketing headlines. That article you mention is coming, but not from me....at least I don't think:-)

Thesa - I figured you would my dear, I figured you would.

Sarah - Agreed on Rich's comment. And you love everybody by the way! That is part of the reason you are the heart of this place. No going Dr. Phil on me!

Missy - It's amazing the people I've met here and their reactions to good old me, I never would of thunk it.

Tracey - Thank you, Thank you, Thank you very much! I'm sure they/we have a wireless connection there but get a rebate on the gift certificates for Yocco's and just get me a Russian Bride. It's that 'Just in Case it don't work out' present:-)

Chris - Yes, Al & I are on good terms again.

Jason - You never cease to amaze me! One of the reasons I love being on AR is people like you. You come alive in your writing. I just don't understand why you hold back??? You need to be a little more transparent.. LOL

Love your posts! You're one of the first one's I look for when I get up in the morning! Great way to start my day!

I already am loved by enough...I told my wife I can't afford her so how could I afford a girlfriend:)

Jason, your writings always express so much passion and are almost raw in that you share so openly and honestly about your feelings, your fears and joy. As I have said before, you were given a gift of sharing through your writing and it is truly a gift to all of us at AR that you have chosen to write for us! Thanks!

Jason, two of my favourite Matt Groening quotes come to mind after reading your heartfelt post.....

Love is like racing across the frozen tundra on a snowmobile which flips over, trapping you underneath. At night, the ice-weasels come.~Matt Groening

There's an empty spot I've always had inside me. I tried to fill it with family, religion, community service, but those were dead ends! I think this chair is the answer.~ Matt Groening

The metaphorical and many invisible layers nature of your writing digs under a person's skin cells.......

Dating.com has nothing on Caleb and the boys! Dr Phil move over. Jason is in the house. Rich's observation dead on..LOL.

Again another deep profound piece...Not Stephen King material...maybe Danielle Steele. jk.

Keep up the good work

Linda - That is very much appreciated Linda. Have a great day and thank you for being you, it makes me a bit better I hope!

Neal - I'll take the pigtails out of my hair then, I thought we had something darn it. Does this mean I don't get roses the 14th of Feb 2008?

Diane - It's unreal sometimes to think that people appreciate brutal honesty and transparency like you seem to do. What's more unreal is the talent I see who enjoys me. You are a major talent, thank you.

Jo - Wow, and I thought I was deep. Loved the Matt Groening quotes you cited, especially the latter!

Carney - Where is Chuck Woolery when we need him? I loved Rich's observation, freaking classic!! As far as this piece, I'll settle for J.D. Sallinger or Julia A. Moore for that matter.

Jason...

I should probably fess up...Before Blog Boy (Broker Bryant) and I found AR I was somewhat bored with our Company.

I had the..."Same deal...Different Day...With a twist"...Syndrome.

Once I started on this site my interest in our Company went through the AR roof :)

AR has helped to spark the life back into me and helped us to see the different paths that were open to us.

Some day I will write a blog about all of that :)

TLW...ROAR!

OK, that's it. I'm going to look up Matt Groening quotes.

OMG, Jo-Anne, thank you!!! LOL!!!

Jason, you may have your post back now. I'll be busy for a while ...

Hi Jason,

It seems as though you've found your voice through AR. It does take time and commitment but in the end it's all worth the effort

Jason,

You are too awesome!! and I agree with you A/R has really been great, I feel the love everytime you comment on any of my posts, obviously because you don't have too, and you do anyway!! Dude you rock!!

Tom Weiss

Too mushy for me:)

Jason,

Keep doing what you feel is right. That is what makes you different.

Shaun Wren

Finally, she admits it! MWA!

Sardine, we've set-up a bridal registry for you two at K-Mart. I popped for the His-n-Hers NASCAR T-shirts. Also, when you check into the Holidome, there'll be a Newlywed Welcome Basket filled with Hot BBQ Pork Rinds, a jar of pickled eggs, some Moonpies, and a copy of "Talladega Nights." We've spared NO expense, my friend!

TLW - I believe AR has been a spark of life for many of our businesses.

Cooper - Great, I'm going to look him up soon as well.

Tracy - I found something:-)

Tom - You aren't bad yourself amigo!

Bryant - Face it my friend, there's mushy in there you big lug!!!

Shaun - That's probably not the only thing that makes be different, but it certainly is good advice for all.

Rich - No more MWA's on my post!:-) Pickled Eggs, Yummy. It's going to be a rough honeymoon though:-( You guys and gals are the best!!! By the way, who exactly is the bride?

It's a good thing AR loves you back!! (and we DO)

Awww, thanks Jennifer. I still need a bride, are you game:-)

Does anyone want my Grannyda's family heirloom recipe for pickled eggs ?? Came over on the ship all the way from Ireland in the 1700s.....

good for what ales ya

Sarah- Matt Groening rocks....I fell for his brain a long time ago

Your lap is an open pasture...you have such a way with words....

love the post. very heartfelt and uplifting.

Well I am sorry I am late to the party here............ I have to say... "well said myFREIND". Because of active rain and because of you're way of expression, I was confident enough to refer you someone who trusts my word without question.

That is huge my friend... for anyone who knows me ... can tell you I hold people to a very high standard and expect nothing less of them or myself. My dad has another term for it "one way bitch"... it always makes me laugh.

You are accountable... passionate and flawed............ all of that makes you A+ in my book...

Go Ahead I dare YOU!!!

Jo-Anne - I would love the recipe!!!

Sis - That could be construed wrong:-(

Thank you Joshua, I was hoping it would be just that.

Dez - Love your Dad's saying. And your thoughts on me are truly appreciated. I am honored and we still need to go out on the town one day.

In regards to the button.....why not, here I go>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Jason - you haven't even left for the honeymoon and ALREADY you're hitting on other chicks!

Who is the bride????....spoken like a typical guy. You're such a PLAYER!!!

Don't hate the player, hate the game!

Does this mean I'm not getting the Basket?

It's true Rich, but with a mug like that, he can get away with it.

Here's the recipe, Jason~ Don't consume the whole batch at one sitting...and they are better after they've aged a few days :

Grannyda's Pickled Eggs.

24 small eggs boiled appox. 20 minutes

4 1/2 cups vinegar

1 cup water

5 tbsps sugar

garlic powder or garlic cloves

red pepper

Boil and simmer all ingredients 10 minutes & pour over eggs. Seal and refrigerate.

(you need one of those giant jars for these....you know the kind)

You sound like a very passionate Realtor and that is great. I have enjoyed reading your blogs, thanks, keep it up.

Thanks Jo-Anne!

JR - I am very passionate, but obviously not too good at marketing. I do Mortgages for a living my friend.

Hey Jason....sorry to be the one to break the news to you, but your bride just got downsized. Blame the sub-prime.....

OH The Volatility!

Hey, Rich -- MWA!!!!

Don't tell Jason, OK?

Jason, conviction to serve with always keep you in business with a smile because for every one that does not like what we do their is another 10 that really appreciate it. Nice post.

Jason- with that passion, I can't imagine any girl would ever let you go! I think passion for what we do is crucial, but i can be difficult through the ups & downs in our business. Go ahead, be dr. phil. Sounds like our buddy needs a lift.

I too am so grateful to have found this community. It keeps me going in these challenging times.

Great post, Jason. I felt as if you wrote today's post specifically to me. ActiveRain definitely gives me a sense of community and caring--even on those days when my world feels like it's being turned upside down!

I love what I do as well and that is why I will never give in either. If you give in, you cheat yourself. Great post.

Jason, AAaaaahhhhhhh..... One thing for sure one day we can all love our work and the next day we want to be taken out back and put out of our misery.

Cooper with the MWA's.....Shocking:-)

Gary - Nicely put!

Ginger - Lol, thanks Ginger. No matter, it will give me the chance to meet Chuck Woolery. It's a rollercoaster ride, I'm growing a mustouche and grabbing a pedastool.

Mr. or Mrs. Not sure Whom - It is a great community with some wonderful people.

Awww, I'm hoping things get better Darleen. It's a rollercoaster at times, for sure.

Christi - Right on Christi, right on.

Matthew - Lol, that's a fact. One day you are the hero, the next day you are the goat.

Loved your post, Jason. Keep it up, although I'm sure I didn't need to say that.

Thank you very much Dan. Have a great weekend.

Love is all you need

Enough with the "shocking", Sardi. Tsk. I've been "shocking'ed" enough for one day!!

(So start again tomorrow, OK?)

MWA!!

Jason~ This post is great! Everytime I have a day that I feel like burnt toast, I can log into the Rain and get inspired by a post like this...but nowhere can I be inspired and then be laughing hysterically by the comments...too funny! Thanks;)

Rich..you're a riot!

Jason,

We let go of our blow up dolls when we found AR. Wasn't even a choice. Then we found all of you, and some of the real characters hereunto, and we haven't looked back. Sold the redhead inflatable in a yard sale, and the blond one missed the sale because of a busted air escape valve. She, if an air bag has gender, couldn't stop squealing.

Seriously, now, this is a great post. We are seriously having a great time with this, and learning leaps and bounds from all of you. We've had an hell of an excellent, extremely tiring week, and the foolishness above just popped out.

Cheers

Jason - this was great! It is what it is and we are who we are! Like the Beatles once said, "Let it Be"! :-)

Sorry that wasn't as deep as Bis Sistah Sally's! LOL! Luv ya Sal!! ;-))

Nice post--Yes, AR has made many of us more enchanted with our daily jobs.

I don't know if this is a serious post or a funny post? But either way I kinda of agree with you. I have not had the connections and don't have any real friends off of AR but I am learning a lot from the variety of posts.

Maybe...

Michael - Apparently, you are a Beatles fan as well.

Cooper - I like my 'Shocking' comments....and you still 'MWA' too much. Yet, we can start over tomorrow...

Laura - Sometimes the comments make the blog, this is one of those times.

Gary - LMFAO!!! Well, if you aren't using the doll, you got a friend in Pa! Definition of humor....Tradegy + Time...it keeps us all, no matter what industry we are in, Sane....

You are deep Brad, you can't fool me!

Diane - That is great, I hope it did and continues to do so.

Rebecca - Kind of both. Your comment intrigues me because I would probably say something similiar if someone wrote this exact post and I were to comment. Call me and color me a friend.....

Jennifer - That sure beats, "Nope."

It IS great, loving what you do!!!!

This has to be one of my favorite posts. I especially liked the part where you said "I lost a gal because of my commitment to writing on this forum." Being committed to something and being obsessed are two totally different things.

MWA!

"I will always be tested & probed & prodded until I give in. "

Dude, my cattle prod is runnin' outta juice.

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Jason,

You are right, your name remembers me the movie Friday 13th :) just kidding !!! haha.

Ray Saenz

guess I'm busted then! ;-) Have a great weekend Jason!! Hope you're never too busy for people to "Leave You A Loan!! haha

Fun post, i enjoyed it, and I do enjoy AR (not enough to marry, but enough to commit). i love the variety of Posts. It's like a big superstor....just go to search and poof there's what you need :)

Barbara-Jo & Bill - It is very important in the end, for sure.

Paco - I guess you are alive. Ok, this is a toughie and you know why. I won't totally disagree with you, though believe me...those days are gone. I was on a 'hiatus' if you will from that 'obsession' and found out a lot during that time. If I could write a poem to explain to you, well, I already have. Yet, nothing speaks louder than actions...I wish I could speak again to you. MWA!

Fire it up Rob! I can take it, ya know:-)

Ray - That mask would come in handy on 'Dates'.

You do the same Brad. Witty you are there chap:-) You do make me grin!

Kathy - Good analogy and you are probably right on the marriage thing.

Jason, it's a new day.

MWA!!

No more MWA's Cooper!!! You'll cramp my Mojo:-)

:oP

Jason - I came over here to tell you I think I love you..... there.

What is "MWA"? I just wanna know!

Since Neal will be too cheap to get you roses on Feb. 14, 2008, maybe you can plant those pickled eggs like they're bulbs and see what grows from those...... maybe?

Ann

Sarah used to be sweet ;-)

Ditto Ann, Ditto! MWA is a cyber-kiss. I'll see what I can do about the pickled eggs, that's next weekend's project. Neal is such a player:-)

It certainly gives you a new way to think about real estate and a forum to learn from some great people out there and always "ouch" a reminder there are mean people.

Yvette - There are mean people, people will be people. We are an interesting breed:-) You are right Yvette, we can learn a lot from a bunch of people on here.

I love A/R too.. It's great meeting so many people that share your interest...... Great Blog

... "used to be sweet."

Hmpf.

I have a listing appointment on a Million $ property next week...the lead came from AR...my first!

Sometimes we feel like the "lone ranger" or (lone agent?) out there, even when we have an office community. AR is a great source for swapping stories and getting help. It's a great resource!

You've captured what so many of us feel in this post and you did it with such grace. Congrats on your Feature and thanks for sharing so unselfishly. We all appreciate you!

Thanks for the post. Good information.

Thanks Donna, it is amazing how this forum opens up one's ability to meet and get to know a wide variety of people.

Ok Cooper, let's get this straight. No tsking or Hmpfing on my posts! You are sweet, there, I said it!

Excellent James, let us know as things progress. Congrats!!!

Very true Al. Not too many people can truly handle being alone...

Lisa & Robert - I would like to admit here, that the grace on any post I write is typically because of the commentary itself, not the written words I write. I appreciate the fact that this seemed to strike a cord with people, I also appreciate the fact that I'm a person...I write accordingly. Thank you!!!

Bob & Carolin - Anytime....

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What an interesting story. You have a lot of commitment. that is very commendable.

AR is new to me, but I don't know if it can be called a honeymoon quite yet, maybe just an infatuation. In either case maybe I will buy AR a room soon and see if I can make magic.

Take care!

RJH

Thanks Don, I think you have to, in business and life.

Lol Robert, let us know how it goes.

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Jason, I'm with BB, too mushy. Is that what it takes to win this challenge?

I hope not. I've still got time to get in.

Bill Roberts

P.S. You'll never guess what graphic I got - lovi-lovi. Is there a message there?

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Jason! Love it! I totally understand you on this one and love your writing style! Glad your back!

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JASON: Great job on this entry. Perhaps the most poignant quote of the whole competition for me was "if you can't live like you write, what good is writing?" This is so true, and something that we should all aspire to. Lately I've been doing the living and then writing about it afterwards. I'm not sure that I've ever fallen out of love with the profession, but Active Rain has surely made it much more enjoyable. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to read your writing and for our good-natured sparring session on your blog. You know what was missing from your entry....but that's ok. I really enjoyed it anyway. If only I could find a way to read more of your very well-written postings.....hmmm.....I guess I'll find them somehow :-).

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