Life has a lot of cause and effect going on all the time. Kind of like a you reap what you sow principle or Newton's laws of motion or something, some things just happen from an initial choice. But I have observed in real estate with clients or more broadly with people in other areas of your life
You Can't Unscramble Scrambled Eggs.
This can be taken for the consequences of our actions or just the feelings emoted from our chosen words. I would like to concentrate on the latter cause though we do put thought often into our actions our human nature is so frail at times the consequences of our actions are often trial and error and we don't see their effect for awhile.
With our WORDS however, once you cracked the eggs and scrambled them up in the frying pan, well you are done. They are out there. Loose lips sink ships. Well loose with our language and the EFFECT it has on another is a slip of "the mind." The reason I say we can control this probably much better than the effects of our broader actions, is the word effect is often immediate. In clients if you say to them, "Oh you can't afford these homes, we won't go into that neighborhood," not only is that steering which is illegal, you have insulted someone's economic status. How do you KNOW they can't afford that neighborhood?
Two other BIG areas to SLOW DOWN and put that brain in gear before the mouth in motion is in the written word and with people departing you. In the written word in Social Media like blogging, email, Facebooking or Twittering, BEFORE you hit that Submit function THINK, re-read what you are saying and ask yourself what the recipient of the message will FEEL about what you said, not just the plain text meaning of it. Do not be sloppy with your presentation and CLEARLY COMMUNICATE without hurting people. With the departing of people, think of people leaving your house, your car, your office, that departing nightly email exchange with someone you love, that LAST PARAGRAPH of an email or Facebook comment you are communicating with someone. Do not leave them hanging with a question, making them feel hurt or angry or confused, or like going out the door without an I love you. This follows the same marriage line about don't go to bed angry. Your LAST parting should always be a good one, uplifting, encouraging, hopeful, someone that feels you are really a good gal or guy that the other wants to connect up with the next time.
Those that never got to say that departing I love you but instead had some fight, then the daughter or son died in some horrific car accident know the pain of not ending things, even all our mini endings in life positively. Probably an exaggerated case but positive endings in ALL FORMS are a good thing.
So before you unleash your "cracked and smashed eggs" into that skillet, remember once out, they are out there, scrambled for eternity. So put nothing but tasty morsels from you the skilled chef out into the world.
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