Abnormal or unhealthy personal or professional behavior....perhaps you have seen this before..? People who have had a rough start-up or abusive parents usually are the product of a dysfunctional environment which in turn creates and supports dysfunctional behavior....
IT'S WIDESPREAD and a COMMON MALADY OF MAN
It is nothing to be ashamed of or to hide if you have it....Oh, you will know if you have it especially if you are willing to look and observe yourself without laying blame on others...To listen and receive feedback and input. To be still..There will always be the nagging sense of something is wrong or incomplete in everything you do...
WE CAME INTO THE WORLD INNOCENT
You were not born this way...this is a learned, programmed behavior and can be unlearned when you are ready to do so. It can be so ingrained in you like a hypnosis that you perceive everything wrong to be outside of you. You are quick to point out and even create problems where there were none..... so that you can play the POISONED PART... the dysfunctional part that you have been taught and agreed to play..
THE HOW and THE WHY OF THIS INTRUDER
Resentment is the glue that keeps it active and operating. You see, there was an injustice, a trauma and an event that you were part of.... that didn't go well. In fact, it went badly for you. Your innocents was tried, pried, loosened and then stolen leaving behind a bitter memory kept alive by your judgment of what took place.
YOUR RIGHT...BUT EXPRESSING IT WRONG
You have every right to express the wrong, but no to play God when doing it. Realize that there was an intrusion, a loss performed on you , on your inner child and it hurt deeply and thoroughly. Realize also that there was not much you could do about it at the time...or you would have.
YOU HAVE BEEN LED TO THIS MOMENT
What is important and what should be our focus is..... to expose this intruder within ourselves, to stop resenting the episode that created it and locked it in and by doing so, we free ourselves....The perpetrator remains in hell along where this came from getting their just deserts. You no longer have to play God by judging and sentencing someone. They have done that to themselves already..
WE ALL GET WHAT WE DESERVE between now and the end......BET ON IT
Be advised that WRONG CHOICES produce GUILT...That is the way the soul is structured and the spirit of a human being is acted upon from within. If you err, there is no escape from the error until true repentance kicks in. Meanwhile, the person who carries the guilt suffers the most. I know it is hard to believe, but being in a state of unrest, little or no joy or happiness with evasive temporary peace is an effective punishment. The Lord saw to that and...... to the solution too
WHAT TO DO
Don't run from this behavior, don't try to hide it, don't add or take a way from it....but expose it to as much light and reality that you possibly can...God's truth will judge it and send it on its way...if you let it happen.....
I want you to be free, innocent, whole, and well....right now
7 Comments on DYSFUNCTIONAL BEHAVIOR.....you are being robbed
It would be nice if people had a "reset" button. But we don't and it takes work, first to recognize what needs to be changed and the to initiate the work to overcome it.
Luckily for us, we CAN change patterns and decide to live differently. Easy? No. Possible? Definitely.
Glenn....my friend......it is all doable as you say when we are ready to take it on...painful yes....necessary yes too...so that we can have the lives we were intended to have.....Glenn.....life is good.....
Lottie...I just commented your comment...You and I are in the flow.....I wonder what we would really be like unspoiled with all the programmed nonsense removed......thanks for coming by....
Such a great post for all to live by...we all want our wronged rights made right but it's realizing that getting even doesn't do the trick...one may not forget but getting even is not the solution...
Growth is hastened by finally giving up any hope of a better past.
Lisa
Ginny....what a good point...Movies have been made on getting even and people find them very satisfying...In all your wildest dreams, you could not imagine God's perfect justice and I would fear and love that the most....Leave it to God who will finish what was started and see to it we all get what we deserve....and that includes tons of mercy and grace....to offset all of our nonsense....
Tom & Lisa....Lisa...well said. We were not meant to carry baggage around...All we need to have and know is inside of us....and that is sufficient....thank you