Or should that read "People who are always late are Liars? "
Guess what my Pet Peeve is?
LIARS ? ? ?
Nope, but they do come in a close 2nd!
LATENESS DRIVES ME INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I bet the face of someone popped into your head when you read that though.
I hope it wasn't you yourself!!!
There is no excuse for being late . . . NONE . . . NADDA . . . end of story.
If you think you can come up with one, that is actually believable, you're lying to yourself!!! The response will always be "You should have left earlier!"
What makes a person habitually late? Is it just in their genetic makeup or is it how they were raised?
Nature or Nurtureis a question that can be applied to every behaviour including lateness. It seems to be affecting more and more people every day. Children of parents who are always late, seem to follow in their footsteps, thinking that is the way of the world. (It is not!)
There is even a website titled "Im always late" and they state on their first page:
"We all know that being always late is actually a bad habit. It is closely linked to many other bad habits like being lazy and avoiding responsibility, being unable to estimate own time, being unable to understand that making other people waiting is not good, a lack of proper motivation, procrastination and putting things off all the time, ineffective time management skills and many many more."
They then go on to try and glorify it or pacify some people by saying:
"However, have you ever thought that such a habit as being always late can be actually associated with something quite positive, like increased responsibility and desire to be perfect in everything?
I'm sorry, being a perfectionist is not a positive thing either, IMHO. And I am the Queen of Delegation so the 'increased responsibility' bit also doesn't win me over!
If you are not at least 10 minutes early, you are late!
You need to allocate enough time to handle 'unforseen circumstances' because life just has a funny way of happening.
Do you often wonder why everyone else can make it to the meeting on time?
Do you catch yourself creating excuses in your mind before you arrive at your destination, LATE?
Do you wonder why people seem agitated when you finally get where you're supposed to be? (or are you so far gone you don't even notice - self absorbed comes to mind!)
IT IS BECAUSE YOU ARE DRIVING PEOPLE INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cannot abide by others actually waiting to begin a meeting because someone is late. I will not wait transport for someone who is late. I will not wait dinner because someone is late.
To me that is just encouraging them and rewarding their selfish behaviour.
It is a 'look at me' syndrome that I will not encourage in anyone. If someone who is late is that desperate for attention, I'll pity them, but not provide the attention they're craving. I don't do it for 3 year olds and their tantrums either - it isn't any fun when no one is watching.
People who arrive contstantly late always try to make a grande entrance and want all the attention drawn to them whilst they share their elaborate tale - All you can think is, "What's that smell? What's burning?"
No one believes you, did you know that? Do you want to be seen as a dishonest person?
Latecomers expect people to share what has happened so far in the movie/ in the meeting/ on the tv/ in the conversation . . .
DON'T DO IT!!!! Do not be an enabler.
Drive away if they're late.
Serve the meal to others or yourself if they're late.
Start the meeting on time and show those that are present that they valuable to you.
Lock the door if they're late and re-schedule the meeting for another time that will be convenient for you.
And most importantly, EXPLAIN to them WHY their behaviour is UNACCEPTABLE to you, why they are seen as RUDE, SELFISH, UNTRUSTWORTHY and INCONSIDERATE. Let them know they are not CUTE and being late is NEVER fashionable!
I hope this is a TIMELY post to help some people with their resolution of taking control of their life! Make time your friend and you may find you'll have more of both: Time and Friends!!!
PS - Even Donald Trump is a stickler for being on time and once had his jet take off, leaving his wife behind as she was ALWAYS LATE!
Get over yourself and make this your focus for 2011
Isn't about time?