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Choosing a Good Negotiator for Your Real Estate Deal

By
Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President

 When selecting your Realtor to represent you in the purchase or sale of a home in Northern Virginia there are several criteria that you may look for in terms of that agent's skills:

 

  • Knowledgeable about the area and your selected neighborhood
  • Understands and can explain the real estate purchase or sales process
  • Connected to and can recommend other local service providers such as lenders and inspectors

But, above all, you should look for an agent who is skilled in negotiations.

 

 According to a survey by the National Association of Realtors, today's home buyers and home sellers want a real estate agent who can skillfully negotiate better terms and price for the sale.  This is the number one thing that people want in their agents.  Yet according to the same 2006 survey, only 36% of home buyers noted that their agent helped them negotiate better sales contract terms and only 29% said their agent helped negotiate a better price.

Negotiation is defined as "a discussion intended to produce an agreement."  

In the process of purchasing or selling a home, there are numerous instances when negotiations occur. 

 

First, negotiations are involved before an offer is even submitted on a home to determine a strategy for offering price and terms.  Next, there may be negotiations regarding counter-offers.  Once a contract is ratified by both parties, there may still be negotiations based on items that turn up in a home inspection, home appraisal results, termite and radon inspections,, and other issues that may arise from time to time.  Almost every clause in the real estate sales agreement can be separately negotiated.

This is why it is crucial to hire a Realtor to represent you who has been trained with good negotiating skills and has experience with successful negotiations.  

 

 

Any Realtor worth their salt can put a home listing on the MLS and place a sign in the yard.  Similarly with today's modern GPS systems, very few Realtors will get lost on the road on the way to finding you your next home.  But, the one thing that can really distinguish one agent from the next is their skill and knowledge of negotiation strategy.

 

In Northern Virginia, an area where even the smallest condo costs over $200,000, and the average home price is around half a million dollars, negotiations are very important. 

 

 

 

 

Before hiring your next Realtor, please ask them the following two questions:

"When is the last time you took a course on negotiating?"

and

"What books about negotiation have your read in the last 6 months?"

 

 

Here are my answers:

 

As part of my training as a Certified Residential Specialist (CRS), the most elite designation awarded to less than 4% of Realtors, I participated in an intense two day course entirely on negotiating skills at the end of January 2007.  This course taught the art of friendly persuasion and effective negotiating strategies.  Ed Hatch, the teacher, has trained over 100 audiences a year for the last 17 years and spoken on negotiations internationally throughout the U.S., Brazil, Canada, South Africa, Sweden and the U.K.

 

Additionally, as an attorney, I am classically trained in negotiating skills, both in law school and through practice in court, mediation, arbitrations, and client settlements.  I bring this expertise from the legal field to my work in real estate.

 

Over the last 6 months, I have studied the following books on negotiation:

 

"Getting to Yes" -- this is the seminal piece on negotiating skills by Roger Fisher, William Ury, and Bruce Patton.  This book presents the concept of the "Win Win" Negotiation which helps to ensure that both parties walk away feeling like they won and are happy with the results. Negotiation is NOT manipulation.  This is key to understand.

 

 

"You Can Negotiate Anything" --  this classic book by successful lawyer and negotiating expert Herb Cohen is a must read for anyone involved in any form of negotiations whether in business or in life.  The fact is that we are negotiating almost every moment of every day without even realizing it in our business and personal lives.  This book helps to distill the key strategies of achieving the results that you want.

 

 

"Getting Past No" -- another book authored by William Ury provides further information on how to negotiate with difficult people without losing your cool and getting flustered and still achieving a positive outcome.

 

 

 

Currently, I am reading sales expert Jeffrey Gitomer's "Little Green Book of Getting Your Way" which teaches the power of persuasion in the fun, easy-to-read and digest format for which Gitomer has become known.

 

If you ask your agent these two questions and they don't have a satisfactory answer, start stuttering, or can't remember the last time they read something on negotiations, it may be time to run the other way and find an agent who can successfully negotiate on your behalf for one of the largest financial transactions you may ever have in your life. 

John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes
Brian - Wonderful and timely. I have never been the best at driving around. My GPS has been a God-send. I don't get caught up in the cosmetics of a house, prefering to make sure I note possible structural areas of concern to be addressed by an inspector. I have no doubt, my success is directly related to my ability to negotiate. I appreciate the reading material suggestions. I have relied on past reading and experience and believe your admonition to stay abreast of new techniques is on target.
Sep 28, 2007 11:48 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Brian - This is a terrific post, and I like the books you listed. Gitomer is someone I just discoved last month, but I like his writing style as well. 
Sep 28, 2007 12:05 PM
Ginger Wilcox
Sindeo - San Francisco, CA

Brian, I didn't know there was a CRS course on negotiating.  I am going to have to find that one!! I am working on earning mine right now.  SO, if you had to pick one of the recommended books on negotiating above to start with, which would it be?  I want to add it to my Amazon list!

I don't think very many agents do know how to negotiate.  In our crazy market over the last few years, there was no negotiating, who ever threw the most money on the table got the house.  Now is the time for negotiators to shine.  

Sep 28, 2007 12:33 PM
Cindy Jones
Integrity Real Estate Group - Woodbridge, VA
Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News

Brian-in grad school I took two courses with a federal mediator called "Negotiation and Conflict Resolution".  They were fantastic courses and we were actually divided into teams the second semester, Labor & Management, to try and develop a WIN/WIN solution to our problems.  It was some of the best training I have ever had and I've used it well in RE.

Sep 28, 2007 12:41 PM
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island
BRIAN:  Can you write cliff notes for each book and turn them into blogs?  My AR time has prevented me from reading actual books (LOL).  Interesting post, and very true.  My feeling is that the real work starts once an offer is presented, however, may people think that things like open houses are the real work.  The things that homeowners can see are not nearly as important as the work that goes on behind the scenes.  A good reminder for us all, Brian.
Sep 28, 2007 08:20 PM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
JOHN:  Thanks for your comment.  I think the GPS is one of the greatest new tools for Realtors.  At my first brokerage, the broker's mother who founded the company 45 years ago used to say that when she retired she was going to become a cab driver because she knew all the streets.  Well, she doesn't need a GPS, but it's great for the rest of us.  I am sure that your negotiating skills have made you a success.  All these books I've mentioned are excellent resources and I've learned something from each.
Sep 28, 2007 11:30 PM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
JASON: I met Jeffrey Gitomer at a live seminar in D.C. about 5 years ago.  If he ever comes to your area GO SEE HIM!  He is funny, extremely entertaining, and an amazing sales trainer -- take all your agents too!  His seminars are like a rock & roll concert of sales.  I've read just about all of his books and he is a no-nonsense guy with a keen perception of human nature.
Sep 28, 2007 11:32 PM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate

GINGER:  The CRS course was not one of the standard courses, but a 2 day add-on workshop to the CRS Sell-a-Bration convention earlier this year in Las Vegas.  Good for you on working on the CRS!  I believe the classes are top-notch and it's the best designation out there.

In terms of the books, I'd recommend starting with "Getting to Yes" or "You Can Negotiate Anything"

 

Sep 28, 2007 11:35 PM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate

CINDY:  There is no substitute for practical hands-on negotiating practice.  Every class I've ever had on negotiations involves practical one-on-one and group negotiating practice sessions.  It doesn't matter if you are negotiating for a piece of candy, a real estate deal, or a peace treaty, what you are learning is about strategies for dealing with other people.  While the thing that you negotiate for may change, human nature does not.  Thanks for your comments.

Sep 29, 2007 12:06 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Brian - That's very cool.  I will make it a point to go see him if he is ever near the Austin area.  I can't imagine that he would be anything less than entertaining.
Sep 29, 2007 02:02 AM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate

ADAM:  I've been thinking about doing some mini book reports.  I've already posted two on some other books that I've read.  It's true, with more time here, I've spent a bit less time actually reading printed material.  The real work does start at contract time and shepherding the deal from contract to closing.  I make sure that I tell all my clients that fact and explain to them all the work that goes on behind the scenes.  Thanks for your comment.

Sep 29, 2007 03:03 AM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
JASON:  Thanks for coming back to this post.  I just checked Gitomer's website and he'll be in Dallas/Ft. Worth on Tuesday, October 2nd.  But that's about a 3 hour drive for you.
Sep 29, 2007 09:14 AM
Rosemary Brooks
BMC Real Estate - 209-910-3706 - Stockton, CA
The Mother & Daughter Realty Team
Great post and thank you for putting it together and sharing it with us.  I love the negotiating part because with all the short sales, this skill is coming back to life.
Dec 15, 2007 09:58 AM
Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate
ROSEMARY:  Thanks for your comments.  Negotiating is one of the most important skills that we bring to the table as Realtors.
Dec 16, 2007 03:09 AM
Harrison K. Long
HomeSmart, Evergreen Realty - Irvine, CA
REALTOR , GRI, Broker associate, Attorney

Brian ... I like your post on being a great negotiator.  Keep up the good work. Best wishes. Harrison

Oct 11, 2008 03:08 AM