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Everything You Say Can And Will Be Used Against You

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Real Estate Sales Representative with Fieldstone Real Estate
Do you really understand "AGENCY" in the real estate world?  Probably not.
To me, the number one duty of a real estate agent (when you are in an agency relationship with them) is to protect your confidentiality.  If you are a buyer and have a written buyer agency agreement with an agent, then you have your very own buyer's agent and they are required to keep their mouths shut and not share with others the things you tell them, except on a need to know basis and with permission.  If you are a seller and have a written seller agency agreement with an agent, then you have your very own agent, and the same thing goes. 
HOWEVER, when you meet another agent, whether you're a seller and you meet the buyer's agent or you're a buyer and you meet the listing agent, be forewarned:  Everything you say can and will be used against you later in a negotiation. 
I think real estate agents get a bad wrap for this, but it's our job.  Unless you have a written agency agreement, then we don't represent YOU.  We owe you no duty of confidentiality. And, in fact, we may owe another party an obligation to share with them everything we know. 
I sort of touch on this a little when I explain in this post why I like to do my own open houses and show my own listings.  This is the sign of a good listing agent (in my humble opinion).  But, a smart buyer won't open themselves up to it... at an open house they will be courteous, give the name of their agent, look at the house and leave.  Why?  Because in addition to selling the home, my job is to get the highest amount of money and best terms for the sellers as possible.  Yes, to be a spy for my clients.  I am supposed to seriously check out the buyers, watch for body language, listen to their phrasing, hear their questions and even more importantly their statements.  With casual conversation I am usually able to determine how qualified the buyers are, how motivated, how our home compares with others they have seen and maybe even just how much they're willing to pay.  It's called sales.
I'll admit I haven't (yet) sunk to the level of checking the facebook page for the "other party" (be it seller or buyer).  But, after reading this story out of LA, it may be going on my list of reconnaissance activities
This post is not intended to make you afraid of real estate agents.  We're not evil people, we're nice people (most of us anyway) and once we're hired to do a job, we do it.
Representation in a transaction makes a difference.  I recommend every buyer and every seller have their own agent and be very careful when talking to someone who is or may become the "other" party (or that party's representation) in a contract situation.  This goes for new home sales, too.  A salesperson, whether a listing agent on a resale or a builder's rep, does not represent the buyer.  Buyers need to have their own agents if they hope to be on an even playing field with the builders.
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Vicky Chrisner
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Virginia Hepp - Mesquite NV REALTOR
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Just doing your job!  I looked on Facebook once, at a buyer's page.  Very interesting.  He was not as serious as I thought.

Apr 04, 2011 08:42 AM
R. Michael Scott
Weichert Realtors-Synergy - Boston, MA

Discretion is always smart even without signed agency, it is just a good habit to reinforce.  You bring up a good point, the signed agency disclosure protects the buyers/sellers.  Nice post.

Apr 04, 2011 08:47 AM
Vicky Chrisner
Fieldstone Real Estate - Leesburg, VA

Virginia - really?  wow.  I might really have to start doing this!

Richard - discretion is a quality I admire. 

However, if you are the listing agent and a buyer shares information (that would impact the sale) with you at (for example) the open house, then you are under obligation to share it with your client... discretion is not an option in that case. 

The same is true if the seller shares information... just the other day I was previewing and several sellers were home.  One guy told me his mom had a stroke (she was the owner, he the executor of the estate).  I of course asked about his mom, chatted a bit about when my mom had a stroke... the details of that discussion weren't really important.  However, he went on to say they just want the house sold quickly and told me they didn't really care what they got for it if it was going to be an easy sale.  The family has money, so it was of no consequence.  I didn't pump for the information.  I liked the guy.  But he said that to me and I have obligation to share it with my buyer client if they write on that property.  Discretion is not an option.  Agreed?  This is the kind of thing I am talking about specifically.

Apr 04, 2011 10:06 AM