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INTERNET IS AMAZING: OLD HIGH SCHOOL GIRLFRIEND GOT A HOLD OF ME

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

I read about it happening to others. I was not interested when I did. Some of what I read suggested that old feelings were awakened and things happened even though the now two people are married. I thought this would not be possible if it was not for the Internet. I also thought , what would you do? I got an answer to my question

THE PHONE CALL CAME IN

It is quite an incredible experience to journey back years (40+ for me) on a subject that came and went so long ago. I received a phone call one day from someone who started asking me 5 questions. Is this Richie? Did you go to blank High? Did you live on blank street etc etc. After so many questions, I interrupted and said, look, I have to go and I am in the middle of something

ITS ME...REMEMBER?

Don't you recognize my voice? Don't you know who I am? I said no with all earnest and slight impatience. Its your old girlfriend and my whole world flashed before me and stopped at about when I was 16. I instantly was transported back in time and now joined the ranks of others who did as well.

I WAS TONGUE TIED

I asked if we could communicate via email because I was swamped at the time. She said sure. It began. I want to go on record that I knew nothing at that tender age. Of course you think you know enough or maybe you don't think at all, but now I know for sure that I knew absolutely nothing back then

I FORGOT IT ALL...SHE DIDN'T

I was fascinated at how much I had forgotten while growing up but she did not. I was her child hood sweetheart and she recorded every incident emotionally. Women (girls) do that ya know. Consequently she brought things up that caused me to reminisce. What price do you put on that? We talked about everything 

I GOT ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS

After several weeks of catching up and filling in the blanks, I asked her if she wouldn't mind sharing intimately. She was eager and so was I. It was like a Hollywood movie in a sense. She filled me in on what happened to everyone and some of it pulled on my heart strings. I now remember people differently than when I left them

 WE WILL ALWAYS HAVE THAT

She lives in one state and I live in another. She had business in my state and wanted to meet up. I said with all earnest, respect and clarity, this can never be. It is best that we leave each other this way. I want to thank you profusely for sharing with me and filling some gaps and answering questions long forgotten. I never imagined anything like it

FIRST LOVES DIE HARD

She told me that I was her first love and how she has since told all her children and grandchildren that I was the one she wished didn't get away. I said to her, at the time, you were my delight and I looked forward to every moment we got together...let's leave it at that...

So what happens? I get an email from another girl...Are you the same Richie that used to.......

Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Yeah, I'm a "late bloomer" as well.  And... it's gettin' later and later.  Perhaps I need some Miracle Grow or something... LOL.

Apr 30, 2011 04:13 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Tish...amazing expereince that words cannot cover...I found myself asking a lot of "whys" and so did the other person. You see, now we know what to ask and that is the way it goes.....You know Tish, well you know Tish...

Apr 30, 2011 04:15 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Karen...I am going the other way....I had my fill besides, I am not sure I could handle the excitement. The not eating part and staying up late would kill me right off...LOL  Too much Karen

Apr 30, 2011 04:17 AM
Ernie Steele
Lebanon, PA

What a great story Richie...I live in the same town I grew up in and see many of my oldest friends, male and female, on a regular basis...I guess I'm fortunate in a way...Enjoy your day.

Apr 30, 2011 04:28 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Ernie...You are fortunate from my point of view because I moved around a lot when I was younger. I made sure none of that for my kids. They all went to the same school system and have lots of life long friends...it is one of the rewards of having been here which is to interact with our like kind in an intimate, decent, and honest way so that we leave each other better for it...thank you Ernie

Apr 30, 2011 04:37 AM
James Loftis
RealEstate911.com - West Palm Beach, FL
RealEstate911.com

Interesting article. Something that has most likely happened to a lot of people since the Internet.

Apr 30, 2011 04:42 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

James...to be able to go back in time and have knowledge now that you didn't then is the theme for some great Sci-fi and fantasy stories out there today. However, we must remain responsible and good stewards of this ability to do so and preserve its innocence.....Thank you James....

Apr 30, 2011 04:52 AM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

What a hot tamale you are Richie my friend...your wife better put a leash on you considering all the women who want a connection with you...what was then is usually not now i've found...very cute!

Apr 30, 2011 08:46 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Gin Girl

I was the the "lotta" in the enchilada....but I did not know it...Thank God too because that is a big responsibility to have over others...Fast forward to today. I finally figured it all out and BTW, directed this secret knowledge and the energy that comes from it into my next book...Pearls for Girls   Dating Waiting & Sex...In seeking Cupid...don't be stupid. Stangely enough my dear Ginny, I think men will want to read this book as much as women...

Ginny...I am thinking you were probably lots of fun as a kid...

Apr 30, 2011 09:05 AM
Don MacLean
New England Real Estate Center Inc. - Easton, MA
Realtor-Homes for Sale- Easton, Mass 02356

Richie, How many first loves are there. Apparently you knew more than your letting on lol

Enjoy the day

Apr 30, 2011 09:26 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Don...they had something I never heard of at my high school one day during my sophomore year called Sadie Hawkins day. On this particular day, any girl in the school can go after any boy without consequences or stigma. My innocence couple with ignorance had me running away all day long from screaming girls in just about every hall way or passage there was. I spent the day in hiding with all my guy friends telling me that so and so is looking for you. Many years later, I found out you were supposed to run toward them, not away....it worked out for all concerned at the time....but remains a smile on my face to this day...

Apr 30, 2011 09:38 AM
Cindy Marchant
Keller Williams Indy NE 317-290-7775 www.marchantteam.com - Carmel, IN
"Cindy in Indy" , Realtor, Fishers Real Estate

That a very interesting story...and one I think you handled well...I have a close friend that didn't stop with calls and emails and is now going through a divorce...sometimes the internet makes it too easy...

Apr 30, 2011 01:13 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Ahhh...unfinished business getting finished. I understand those dynamics but at what price?  Timing is also a consideration too. We are not animals although sometimes I wonder. When a man can enjoy a woman without having to have her, a different love presents itself. In the absence of that, selfishness prevails and is not satisfying in the short or long term for either party...You know Cindy, my modesty, shyness, ignorance and caring-ness spared a lot of young girls from trauma and me from regret and additional repentance...My spirit remains whole and thankful for this. Of the past, I will say this.... We had our time...I am thankful for it..no regrets or looking back for me....Thank you Cindy who is safe in Indy and rules with a gentle hand

Apr 30, 2011 01:40 PM
Michelle Gibson
Hansen Real Estate Group Inc. - Wellington, FL
REALTOR

Richie - The internet is amazing.  I've reconnected with some old friends, but not boyfriends.

Apr 30, 2011 04:36 PM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Richie,  Your post harkens a favorite Garth Brooks song, "Thank God for Unanswered Prayers".  I am impressed, but not surprised, that you knew when to hold and when to fold.  You remain an example of "man - kind" that rekindles my faith,  Thank you.

Apr 30, 2011 06:20 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I am pleased to see you DD...When anything... be it nature, man or beast stands for what it believes ....the Universe takes note and the world is never the same for it.....When people are involved...going the extra mile is assumed...deep and pleasant thoughts your way.....dear lady

May 01, 2011 03:26 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Michelle...it can be extremely deeply rewarding, satisfying and beneficial (mine was) when it is pleasant and reciprocal. I am still waiting to hear from my English teacher who suspectted heavily that it was me who left a bottle of scope mouth wash on her desk during class. At first glance, this was funny, but the look on her face and the failure for an English teacher to find words said otherwise....

May 01, 2011 03:31 AM
Fred Hookham
Keller Williams - Milton, WI

These same thoughts have been circling around for quite a while - when I was young, I was pretty stupid - and worse yet, i dated all the smart girls. Years went by as I slowly figured out my mistakes. Leaves me wondering if maybe I'll get it right in the next life - certainly not enough time to fix all those errors in this life...

May 01, 2011 03:29 PM
Fred Hookham
Keller Williams - Milton, WI

Wouldn't it be great if we had a "do over" button? But then again, we would have to have sense enough to use it!

May 01, 2011 03:34 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Fred...#1....There is a blindness that comes from innocence, a sort of what you don't know cant hurt you, that when left to bloom in its own time, gives good "sight" and will come naturally with things making sense. When you are thrust into something before its time, you get the "they know not what they do" factor at work. "Hindsight" is birthed out of that. We want insight which is optimum seeing in the moment. Mankind suffers as a result and as you say correctly..."not enough time to fix all those errors"....

Fred #2...your second comment makes a very good point...Sure, "do over" would correct some issues and at the same time present a new set of errors and not the perfect existence we all seek. We know its there, but it alludes us...

 

Fred...I asked this young girl some questions that I didn't know at the time. What I found out too was neither did she...a couple of kids that knew nothing about everything and were happy at the time about it too..What a mystery life continues to be...thank you for sharing Fred....good stuff

May 02, 2011 03:39 AM