So often with relationships as they develop along we go from the big picture about knowing someone, kind of looking at them from a distance say like with a telescope, to ZEROING IN on them with all their fine details shifting to another kind of viewing instrument. With all our relationships I would caution us to go slow with this other approach and
Avoid Turning Into A Microscope With Others.
All of us are flawed in some way from our development and what individual path we have traveled. Quite normally our behaviors and actions, at least some of them will eventually be contrary to what another wants out of us. But whereas that telescope viewing of us reminded people of all the good in us, and they counted us as "blessings", the microscope view MAGNIFIES those flaws, and they nit pick us apart, as "no good." It is a huge error in not being "somewhat tolerant" of others, giving them a degree of acceptance as just being human. We also should show some patience with others and not walk off in a huff at the least bit of discomfort that we don't like their ways. Who knows? We might adapt and change to their way of thinking if they are PATIENT and give us a little more time cause we truly respect their feelings. Everyone can't just flip a switch and be like you want them to be in an instant. And what about YOU? Are you remembering what a blessing they were to start with?
Do not micro-manage a person and their every little word, attitude, behavior, and issue. We are biological, we are not machines. Above all we are human, and very fallible, with good days and bad days, like we all have.