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Wasted Day

By Cindy Logan

Real Estate Agent with Mark 1 Real Estate Advisors BRE# 1053918

May 11, 2011 04:13 PM

Today, with my daughter being in court, trying to get a restraining order, it was a COMPLETELY WASTED DAY! I got absolutely no work done. I feel drained emotionally, wrung out like a wet washcloth. I ate "bad for me" stuff. Nachos with extra cheese. Totally ignored the celery and watermelon.

I can't even imagine how my daughter feels. She had to stay in the "Sheriff's Safe Room" at the courthouse to avoid her stalker. That's keeping the victim confined. He started yelling at her in the parking lot. And he was blowing up her phone with hate texts. Threatening her, upset, angry. Why do I feel that she is now in even more danger since taking her plight to the police? He's attempted choking her, he's hit her. What comes next?

I suggested to her dad that she stay with him for a bit - you know, be the provider/protector. He has to check with his wife. See if it's ok to be the provider/protector for his daughter.

I'm grateful for her coach/mentor, who went to court with my daughter. Having the mentor along gave my daughter the courage to take the action she needed to take.

And I called the police, because of the escalation I've seen in the past 6 months. Of course, they can do nothing except put on extra patrols in the neighborhood, because he hasn't threatened me.

Well, tomorrow will be productive! It must be.

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Deborah Byron Leffler BzyBee Real Estate Lady!

Keller Williams Realty Boise - Nampa, ID

Bless your heart! I hope they can get it figured out!!! that has to be scary!!!

May 11, 2011 04:15 PM

Susan Haughton

Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA

Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

I cannot begin to imagine how scary this is...you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers - no one should be at the mercy of someone like this. Hope her dad can see his way clear to helping protect her. I won't even comment on his needing to ask permission. Sheesh.

May 11, 2011 04:17 PM

Joy Daniels

Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd. - Harrisburg, PA

Read my post - 13 things to remember. . . I hope it helps you have some hope! I am sorry for you bad day, tomorrow is a new one.

Rama Mehra

Asante Realty - San Ramon, CA

TOP 1% REALTOR IN THE TRI-VALLEY

Sorry to hear about the problems ! hang in there and yes tomorrow will be a better day. Please keep your daughter safe

Samantha Davault

Alexander Chandler Realty - Fort Worth, TX

Fort Worth, TX

Cindy, it sure sounds like you and your daughter are having a tough time right now with this stalker. That is a scary thing to have to deal with. I am hoping that you both have attended some self defense classes. They can definitely help you to feel a bit empowered and not so much a victim. One form of self defense that could be very helpful is Krav Maga. It is like self defense on steroids and will enable you both to be able to hopefully keep yourselves safe in most any situation. Being aware of your surroundings is the most important self defense though and don't hesitate to call the police at the first inkling of any trouble or if you just feel like something is not quite right. You never know when your intuition might be what prevents something more serious from occuring. I wish you the best and please stay safe.

May 11, 2011 04:22 PM

Cindy Logan

Mark 1 Real Estate Advisors - Huntington Beach, CA

Deborah, it is scary. Thank you for the blessings.

Susan, can really use extra prayers right now. thank you. I won't comment either on her dad needing to ask permission.

Joy, thank you. I shall read your post. Can use a little uplifting right now.

Rama, thanks for the encouragement. She's 22 and thinks she's invincible, so it's challenging to keep her safe. I'm still praying that her dad, who lives in a gated community, will let her stay there for a few days.

Samantha, I'm former Army, and have taken Karate and a bit of Ai-Ki-Do. I do like the sounds of Krav Maga; I've never heard of it. Just looked it up; it's what the Israeli Army uses. And they're one of the best trained Armies in the world.

I've called the police, requested additional patrols. It's scary. Thanks for the info.

May 11, 2011 04:49 PM

Dennis Burgess

AmeriTeam Property Management - Mid Florida, FL

Orlando Property Manager and Realtor

Hi, Cindy: Don't call it a "wasted day". A wasted day would've been one spent elsewhere while your daughter was wishing you were with her. But you chose the path of great parenthood- one far too many people stray away from. Make sure your daughter stays strong, choosing empowerment over victimhood.

May 11, 2011 05:29 PM

Sheila Goulart Siegel

Synergy Financial Group, Inc. - Mission Viejo, CA

Hi Cindy I am so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. Unfortunate position about dad checking with his significant other. YIKES. What a society we have become... so desensitized to our families. I think you did exactly the right thing yesterday being there with your daughter and showed your own congruency! Stay strong!!

May 12, 2011 05:38 AM

Well said, dennis. Thank you. I'm working on empowerment with her; somehow it missed her.

Sheila, thank you. I'm really working to have her know that she is valued. It is a challenge that her dad isn't there for her. I guess I can say; it's getting better.

May 12, 2011 10:15 AM

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089

Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI

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What a creepy story! If I was her, I'd pack up and move somewhere, get a new phone and start a new life. i hope it doesn't escalate any more than this!

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