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You May Think You're in Love, But Don't Get Emotionally Attached.

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels

You may think you're in love, but don't get emotionally attached to that house!  If you're buying your New Braunfels, TX home and think you've found the perfect home for you, remember this is the one you're going to marry, not the one you're just casually dating.  This is NOT the "friend with benefits"...this is the ONE you're bringing home to mama!

All too often when I work with buyers in Central Texas, my buyers are drawn to the "pretty" houses because of the emotions the pretty house evokes. It's love at first sight! But is it?  Or, is it like dating the girl who is a knock-out but has zero personality? You know what you do with zero personality??  You fall asleep on the date!  How about going for the cute girl with the sense of humor that keeps you laughing and the intelligence to keep the conversation going?  That's someone you should marry.

When I first meet with buyers, I interview them extensively about their needs and lifestyle. From there, I strive to match them not just to a house, but to an area that will fit their lifestyle as they've described to me.  As a real estate agent, my primary goal is to protect my client's investment.  I know the neighborhoods and areas which hold their value. Finding the right house is an equation that comes together in an effort to look out for the buyers' best interest.

So, where do buyers go wrong? They see a "beauty" and they want to marry it before they've even had a chance to get to know it!  They see a house that is staged, smells pretty, has a nice yard...all those things that can change. What will you do when you've been living in the house less than a year and realize you don't like the fact that the nearest grocery store is 7 miles away? Or, your commute to work is 45 minutes long? Or, the train behind the neighborhood keeps you up at night? You became so emotionally attached to the house when you were "dating," that you failed to see all its flaws!

There's a reason why listing agents advise sellers to de-clutter and stage their homes prior to listings.  There's a reason why we bake cookies at an open house or place flowers around the house our client is selling.  There's a reason why buyers in new home neighborhoods most often buy the same floor plan as the model home. It's because more often than not buyers are emotionally driven by what they see and sense while in the home.  They go on a feeling that is only affected by the senses. 

It's fine to want a nice home, but try to look past the decor, paint colors and pretty scents and look at the floor plan, the condition and the location.  Then ask yourself, "Ok, so, even if it isn't perfect, is it perfect for me?" If the answer is yes, don't be led astray by the "beauty" of another house that may be all wrong for you.

Keep your emotions in check and you will get a perfect home that will meet all your needs for years to come!

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Laurie Jarrett 

Keller Williams New Braunfels

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Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Very well put. Emotions can often lead to poor decisions..in life and in buying a home!

Jun 07, 2011 01:12 AM
Marianne Pittard
RE/MAX River & Sea - Gearhart, OR

Great, thought provoking post!  Love the analogy to dating. Cheers!

Jun 07, 2011 01:37 AM
Bina Yajnik
Watson Realty Corp. Palm Coast, FL - Palm Coast, FL

Laurie, very interesting analogy, I loved it! I have always been told growing up to think with my head & not my heart.......

Jun 07, 2011 01:40 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Laurie, sometimes its hard to keep those emotions in tact. Good point buyers should keep in mind.

Jun 07, 2011 01:51 AM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Laurie,

Good stories have emotional hooks, and this one is great!

Mike in Tucson

Jun 07, 2011 02:11 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Laurie, good post. I always make sure the client checks their wish list against the value they are looking at and what on the list is no longer important. It usually grounds them after we talk a bit.

Jun 07, 2011 02:14 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I actually dated the knock-out with zero personality (twice) sorry. Of course she probably thought the same about me. Seriously, emotions and truth are like oil and vinegar. They just don't mix....thank you Laurie

Jun 07, 2011 02:45 AM
Ilan Bracha
Keller Williams NYC - Manhattan, NY
KW NYC/The Bracha Group, Manhattan

Great post, Laurie.  It's sometimes difficult to see past the "glitz," especially a home that's been staged beautifully. Clients have to love the home for what it will bring them--not just the "picture" it presents when first viewed.

Jun 07, 2011 03:03 AM
Anna Tolstoy
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Natick, MA

Laurie, 'xactly! Looking at houses is like dating, but finding a house to buy is like getting married... 

Jun 07, 2011 03:44 AM
Ruthmarie Hicks
Keller Williams NY Realty - 120 Bloomingdale Road #101, White Plains NY 10605 - White Plains, NY

This is very true.  It's also why the "fixer-upper" doesn't sell well.  I may be the diamond in the rough -but most buyers I have right now only want a home where they don't have to lift a finger.   They miss the trees from the forest...

Jun 07, 2011 04:13 AM
Adam Mallory
eBroker Real Estate 619-566-ADAM - San Diego, CA
Broker, ABR, e-Pro

Great post Laurie!  I'm glad you wrote about this because it reminds me of builder's model homes and what a "fantasy land" they are. 

Jun 07, 2011 05:42 AM
Lora "Leah" Stern 914-772-4528
Coldwell Banker, 170 N Main Street, New City NY 10956 - New City, NY
Real Estate Salesperson

Laurie, I love your analogy and so true.  Buying a home is like getting married to it.  You're attaching yourself to it for better or for worse - better so make sure that there's more that's better for you!  You've got to look past the glitz!!

Jun 07, 2011 05:42 AM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Laurie:

That's why we do inspections.  To investigate the house more thoroughly and to give the buyers a chance to see the house again in a more critical way.

Jun 07, 2011 05:51 AM
Jim Gilbert
Samson Properties - Fairfax, VA
The Gold Homes Team

Laurie, I disagree,

For most buyers houses are like cars.  They are things we acquire, make payments on for a period of time, and eventually sell when we move on because of changes in our life circumstances.  You can verify this by looking at the national statistica on how often people move on the average.

So I tell my buyer clients that it is more important to make an adequate, not disasterous choice which will be straightforward to sell that distant day in the future when they need to do it, than to find the perfect house for forever.

No one stays anywhere forever in this life.

And most people move in 7 years or less.

I have made the mistake of buying an unusual house that appealed very much to my family's needs and tastes but was atypical for the area.  It was much harder to resell than we had hoped when we needed to move.

 

Jun 07, 2011 09:44 AM
Laurie Jarrett
Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels - New Braunfels, TX
REALTOR - New Braunfels, San Marcos, Texas Real Es

Ed- Yes, but it is discouraging to lose out either because the offer was not strong enough or there are multiple offers.

Ann- Thanks, I try to take my fiduciary responsibility very serious.

Doug- You're right.  I hate to pressure buyers.  Many are losing out on great houses because of dragging their feet waiting for price to go down.

Ron- Thank you and that's true.

Alex- I can see why.  It is discouraging, but if they are so emotionally attached they should be prepared to come with a strong offer.  A good house priced competitively will draw many buyers and offers.  Buyers need to come in with a strong offer on these properties.

 

 

 

Jun 07, 2011 11:58 AM
Laurie Jarrett
Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels - New Braunfels, TX
REALTOR - New Braunfels, San Marcos, Texas Real Es

Donald- In one sentence you summed up my entire point of this post.

Mike- I want my clients to love the house, but not because of things that are easily changed.

Michael- We all do it.  You shoudl see how emotional I get about shoes.

Mike in Tucson- Thank you!

Ed- makes perfect sense.  It's easy to get swayed from the original wish list.  Especially, when they see a very nicely staged house that knocks their socks off.

Richie- How'd that work out for you?

Anna- They gotta find that keeper.

Ruthmarie- Exactly!  I see so many that need a little bit of cosmetic work that are tremendous values and the buyer can't see it. 

Adam- It's easy to fall in love with the model home!  I've done it a few times!

Lora- That's the point,  getting emotional about a house that doesn't meet your needs is a FAIL.

 

 

 

 

Jun 07, 2011 12:08 PM
Laurie Jarrett
Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels - New Braunfels, TX
REALTOR - New Braunfels, San Marcos, Texas Real Es

GOLD Team- I think you missed my point because you're rebuttal is basically the point of my post.  Regardless of the amount of time you stay in the house, find the house that will meet your needs and hold it's value and don't be swayed by the house that looks pretty that's in say....Timbuktu. And, buying a house that is completely atypical for the neighborhood was kind of an emotional purchase, wouldn't you say?  It looked cool, was different.  Not a smart choice to buy the most unusual, biggest or smallest...imho. I wasn't meaning a buyer should stay married to it forever. I just want buyers to think that a purchase is more permanent than renting.  If you make the wrong purchase based on things like staging, then they could end up pverpaying or having a hard time reselling. Go for the good value that meets your needs. Many married people get that 7 year itch, too. ;) Read it again, and I think you'll get it.

 

 

Jun 07, 2011 12:14 PM
Laurie Jarrett
Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels - New Braunfels, TX
REALTOR - New Braunfels, San Marcos, Texas Real Es

Erica- As always, thank you for reading and taking the time to comment.  I hope you had a great day! :)

Jun 07, 2011 12:14 PM
Michelle Gordon
JH Realty Partners - Ada, MI
Finding Your Place

Hi Laurie!

I thought you should know my client sent this blog to me.  We had a discussion about her needs and situation.  After we spoke she went on line to do some searching and found this blog, and it pretty much covered what I had discussed with her.  I was please to see this written by a KW family member! 

 

Thank you!

Jun 08, 2011 01:28 AM
Laurie Jarrett
Keller Williams Realty Heritage-New Braunfels - New Braunfels, TX
REALTOR - New Braunfels, San Marcos, Texas Real Es

Michelle,

 

That just made my day!  Tell your client I said thank you for reading and I hope she finds a keeper!  Sounds like she has a good agent watching out for her.  Take care! 

Jun 08, 2011 06:55 AM