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A Tribute To My Dad

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Grants Pass, OR 199909023

A Tribute To DadA Tribute To My Dad.  It was Black Monday, the day the stock market crashed in October 1929, plummeting the world into the Great Depression.  Terror filled the hearts of many that day.  Yet, my grandmother's heart was filled with joy at the sight of her newborn baby boy.

He was the youngest of four brothers, born to a single mother living in a one-bedroom rented home in Los Angeles.  His early childhood was marked by hunger and loneliness.  By the young age of six, my father was selling newspapers on dirt streets in the wee hours of the morning.  He earned a penny a day and often slept in an apple cart on the street corner so he wouldn't miss a single sale.  From there, he scavenged odd jobs to make a few cents a week so he could eat.  His mother worked sixteen hours a day, which left my father and his brothers to fend for themselves.  Many days, when they were hungry, a neighbor's apricot  tree was a frequent source for meals.  It wasn't long before State officials stepped in and removed the boys from their home, placing them in the care of the McKinley Home for Boys.    

My father was a handsome lad.  He stood five foot ten inches tall with looks that could melt a girl's heart.  His blue eyes, curly blonde hair and golden tan were striking, and he was often mistaken for James Dean.  He married young, had four children, built his first home by 21 yrs old and paved the way for a successful career as a mason.  By all accounts, he was a self-made man.  But, he was terribly unlucky in love. 

With several failed marriages, and many more relationships that never made it to the alter, my dad lives alone today.  He's 81 yrs old and still a handsome man in my eyes.  He worked hard his whole life to provide for his loved ones.  He acquired many things... things he never had growing up... things that mean something to him.  His 'Depression Era' mentality was to never throw anything away as it might come in handy some day.  Perhaps I've inherited a little of his frugalness ;)

I love my dad with all of his quirkiness.  He never made it past the 8th grade, but he is wise beyond his years.  He's a little forgetful now, and sometimes struggles to finish his sentences.  I tell him not to worry, I struggle with that too!  I call him 'Pops' and he smiles.  We reminisce about old times.  It's the simple things that matter now.  I know our time is short, I can just tell.  So I cherish every moment that I have with him... marinating in happier times.  And, on this lovely day... my heart is filled with joy as I am reminded that I am my father's daughter.  A Tribute To My Dad.    

Mel & Mel

Incidentally, we both share the same name... Mel ;)

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Mel Peterson

 Melinda Peterson, ABR, CRS

 Oregon Principal Broker

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Cindy Jones
Integrity Real Estate Group - Woodbridge, VA
Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News

Melinda-a wonderful tribute to your dad.  Thank you for sharing.

Jun 19, 2011 09:26 AM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

Melinda, did you and Mimi powwow on your blogs today?   Papa and Pops spawned families with  extra lovely girlies!  

Jun 19, 2011 09:30 AM
Donald Hester
NCW Home Inspections, LLC - Wenatchee, WA
NCW Home Inspections, LLC

Melinda,

 Great story. I miss my dad, he pasted several year ago now. But he still is in my thoughts often.

Jun 19, 2011 09:34 AM
Jim Hale
ACTIONAGENTS.NET - Eugene, OR
Eugene Oregon's Best Home Search Website

Mel -

What a sweetheart of a daughter you are lucky enough to have!

Jun 19, 2011 09:37 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Thank you Cindy, glad you enjoyed it!

No Brian... but I went to Mimi's post after you commented... and saw an unbelievable surprise... now do you believe me KS?

Thank you Donald... I do believe they remain in our hearts forever!

Too kind Jim... I'll tell my dad you said so!

 

Jun 19, 2011 09:45 AM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

Melinda, if I didn't believe it before, I do now!  B

Jun 19, 2011 09:51 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Melinda-Such a terrific tribute to your Dad. He has a nice smile and a twinkle in his eyes. In the bottom pic he looks somewhat like Mickey Rooney. Send him Happy Fathers Day's wishes to him. Have a wonderful week.

Jun 19, 2011 10:48 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Very sweet, Melinda.  Every father would like to have such a wonderful tribute!

Jun 19, 2011 11:34 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Brian ~ Just believe ;)

My father still has a little twinkle in his eye, thanks for noticing Sharon =)

Thank you kindly Mike... my 'Pops' is a real sweetie!

Jun 19, 2011 11:36 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-739-3843

Miss Mel--the way you wove his story was simply glorious. His looks reminded me of my dad's....handsome blonde and blue-eyed. My dad was 19 when he got married, and had to get the okay from his parents. My mom was "older" at 21! (He used to say "I was born married", just to give my mom crap). He and mom were married for 45 years and days away from 46 when he died.

Our dads--so so important! He would've LOVED my husband, and I truly believe he was completely instrumental in finding him for me. (Larry's birthday is on my parents' wedding day, that was a pretty clear sign, huh??)

Thank you for sharing your Pop's life with us.

Jun 19, 2011 04:27 PM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Needless to say, it was just another indication of heart waves that connect.  It was a beautiful story.  I looked at the posts that the three of us put up yesterday (you, me, and Gayle ~ all of whom I see on my screen right now ;) ), and it is so easy to see how similarly we think, how similarly we feel.  I don't seem to be too articulate this morning, more overwhelmed with the feelings.  I love you girls.  I love the way your hearts and your minds work.  And I'm so glad that we've found this season.  Thanks for a beautiful story about Pops.

Jun 20, 2011 12:45 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Thank you Miss Gayle ~ 45+ years of marriage is a tribute to your parents love for one another... how very special.  You don't see that too often today.  It sounds like your father never met your hubby?  My pops has survived all of his wives and girlfriends too!  It's sad that he never met his soulmate... if there is such a one... I do believe!

Miss Mimi ~ First of all girl... what are you doin' up so early?  It's obvious to me (and others) that your stories come from a very deep and special place and you pour your heart and soul into writing them.  I cried several times yesterday... from reading several heartfelt posts, including yours and Gayles.  I'm very sentimental, although I rarely wear that quality on my sleeve for all to see.  You do... and it's a joy!  Perhaps you're shining example is helping me overcome my fear of letting it all hang out.  I can't wait to see you this fall.  Gayle... wanna join us girl?

Jun 20, 2011 02:55 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Melinda, This is a beautiful story and a wonderful tribute to your father. If I had it my way, I'd give you a feature or at least a gold star. This post is a true "Chicken Soup for the Soul," type of story that's real, genuine, authentic and soulful. For me, it's the stories that come straight from the heart, true stories, stories that aren't duplicated and repeated with different words, and in my opinion, you deserve more than a feature or a gold star, you deserve the love from the most courageous man alive that is closest to you - you got that! Be proud.

You are clearly your father's heart; he is your soul. He is your heart; you are his soul. Your father was born with courage. He did not have an easy life, but he had you and I can tell by the photo of the two of you, that you are his greatest achievement. This story you told about your dad is about courage. Courage comes from the French and Latin words for heart. He may have slept in an apple cart, but he was born with a big heart, a big red apple heart of gold and you inherited it!

Your father may not have been lucky in love, but I beg to differ - his love is you. With you, he did not fail. Courage is in his genes and he passed it on to you giving you the courage to write this beautiful memoir,

CONGRATULATIONS MELINDA! YOU ARE ONE LUCKY DAUGHTER OF A VERY COURAGEOUS MAN AND I RECOGNIZED YOU AS A PERSON BORN INTO NOBILITY, HUMILITY, FAITH, HOPE AND CHARITY. FOR ME, THAT'S BETTER THAN ANY GOLD STAR.

Patricia

Jun 20, 2011 03:39 PM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Patricia ~ You are one sweet human being... and someone who cares so deeply and understands humanity with all its frailty.  You are so lovely, you give so freely and you never expect anything in return.  I would have relished having a sister like you!  You made me smile a big smile this evening... and your comments are better than any gold star imaginable!  Thank you Kindred Spirit for making my evening... and be blessed my sweet friend =)

Jun 20, 2011 07:32 PM
Kathleen Vetrano
RE/MAX Gateway - Falls Church, VA
Helping YOU Achieve YOUR Dreams

Melinda,  A beautiful tribute to your Dad.  Enjoy every moment you have.  And....he is still as handsome as ever. (I know he will love hearing that.  I knew someone like him.)  Thank you for sharing such a warm and beautiful story and photographs..

Jun 20, 2011 07:40 PM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Thank you for your comments Kathleen ~ It's nice to meet a new face in the rain ;)

Jun 23, 2011 06:04 AM
Anonymous
Lillie Dominguez

Mel, Beautiful Tribute to Your Dad......Your words are touching and heartfelt.  It's great to read about Father & Daughter friendship as you have with Your Dad and that you're enjoying time together....Continue to enjoy your times....lots of patience and love is needed with family members dealing with dementia...You are a Wonderful daughter, wife and mother, friend......AND Broker.....Remember to take time for yourself.....Great Pictures.....

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