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Living Small: Bring out the GOOD Stuff

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Industry Observer

As many of you have already heard, I plan to be living in a much smaller place in a few weeks, and putting my big house on the market.

Do you remember the email/tale/tear-jerker story that went around a few years ago, and crops up now and then that goes something like this . . .

" . . . woman dies young, leaves small kids and family behind. While cleaning out her stuff, they find a drawer of really nice linens and lovely clothing, labeled "for good"."

You know, the things we tend to squirrel away, to keep them nice, and use them only on the best occassions, or maybe just holidays. Linens, crystal, china, silver, our best dresses and shoes.

And sometimes, we never pull them out, and our families have that sad task later, and too frequently sooner than expected.

So, as I sort through cabinets jammed with dinnerware, stoneware, lunchware, serveware . . . I've been thinking . . .

 . . . we're going to use the china for everyday, even with small kids. It might not survive until they leave the nest, but they'll sure be learning how to set a nice table, take care of the dinnerware and so on. And we have enough to host buffet-style dinners, even without a formal dining space, without having to haul stuff in and out of storage, without having duplicate dishes that serve the same purpose. And the china takes up WAY less space, even with so many place settings, than any stoneware would.

Even as toddlers they never had plastic plates, so this won't be a big change for them. They know the "don't drop the plate" look from Mom! Even MY mom knows that look when she sees it on my face!  :-)

So, when you downsized, if you have recently, did you go super-casual, or keep your upscale pieces and lean towards a more refined lifestyle, albeit one with less actual STUFF?

Are you happy with your decisions? If you had to do it again, what would you do?

Do tell.

Linda K. Mayer
License # 01767321 - La Verne, CA
Realtor, SRES, SoCAL, A REALTOR YOU CAN TRUST

Alison, this is so true.  We save them for the "special occasions" and then we NEVER take them out!  I'm with you!

Jun 27, 2011 01:49 PM
Cindy Jones
Integrity Real Estate Group - Woodbridge, VA
Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News

I have one set of dishes, one set of silverware and one set of glassware.  It's good for any occassion, except maybe a State dinner but I don't throw many of those.

Jun 27, 2011 01:54 PM
Allen 2222
Austin, TX

Hi Linda - isn't it so true? Imagine all the lovely wedding gifts that are still in their original boxes - 20 years later - for so many people. My mother still has gorgeous crystal on display that she never ever uses, lest someone break a goblet. If I inherit them, they'll probably come with a stiplulation to protect them from use! :-)

Hi Cindy - perfect - one set you like and use! Love the State dinner comment - maybe some day!

Jun 27, 2011 05:55 PM
Peggy Hughes/pha logistix, inc.
pha logistix inc - San Francisco, CA
SF NYC LA

Alison .... 12 years ago, successfully beating cancer, I decided to ONLY use the good stuff!  It's way better to enjoy the use of it than looking at it in a cabinet.  And, if something should break... so what, it's only stuff!!

Jun 28, 2011 05:43 AM
Christine Smith
Buyers Brokers Only LLC - www.BuyersBrokersOnly.com - Canton, MA
Exclusive Buyer Agent & Attorney, Canton, MA

Alison....I had to laugh....my kids are way past being toddlers & are still using plastic plates!  I need to change that!

Jun 28, 2011 07:00 AM
Allen 2222
Austin, TX

Hi Peggy - thank goodness you beat your cancer. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. And seriously,if it breaks, it's only stuff!

Hi Chirstine - that is too funny. I've offered mine plastic but they always wanted what the big people were using (of course!!!)

Jun 28, 2011 10:16 AM
Maggie McFarland
RE/MAX Pearland - Maggie McFarland - Pearland, TX
Pearland Realtor, Homes for Sale in Pearland Texas

Really good post Alison! It really puts things in perspective.

Jun 28, 2011 11:50 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, RealtorĀ®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Alison, When we retired I wanted a nice ranch home 3BR 3.5 bath..... instead we built a 2 level house with 5B 4.5 BA .... too much house too much too clean.  I have seven sets of dinnerware..... and I keep saying I am doing to downsize.... really :)  Great post!

Jun 28, 2011 04:10 PM
Christine Hooks
Pino Agency - Pennsville, NJ
Celebrating 25 Years in Real Estate!

We all have so much 'stuff' as George Carlin spoke about many moons ago.  He makes it funny, but is it really funny?  Do we need all that suff to take care of and move around.

Good for you that you are downsizing and simplifying!

Jun 28, 2011 06:06 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Great idea, Alison and you're so right--why don't we use the good stuff on occasion?!  And, what do we need ALL of that 'stuff' for anyway?  We can't take it with us!

Hope you have a fabulous Fourth!

Jul 02, 2011 03:45 PM
Allen 2222
Austin, TX

Hi Maggie - thank you!

Hi Rebecca - seven sets of dinnerware! I bet you set a really nice table!

Hi Chris - LOVE that George Carlin routine - not only do we HAVE too much stuff, we insist on taking it with us when we go on vacation!

Hi Debe - we need to use the good stuff. It is such a waste to have it tucked away, gaining years and not coming out to play!

Jul 03, 2011 01:41 AM