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Listings Are Like Lovers and Buyers More Like Boyfriends

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Charlemagne International Properties BRE# 01147470

I've ended several listing relationships this year.  Like most relationships they ran their course.  Some were longer than I wanted but I stayed for the duration and saw them through to the end.  It felt really good to close them and move on.  Any relationship worth having requires work, right?  Others were whirlwind affairs that were over and done with in a few short weeks.  We did not actually move in together, but we were in touch with one another almost daily.  One particular pleasant little affair went from listing to closing with the zest and excitement reserved for those too good to be true connections.  It was short, sweet and left nothing but good memories in its wake.  I think I have a photo somewhere...

 

On the other hand I met some boyfriend type buyers this summer and they were definitely infected with the commitment phobia that seems to be so prevalent in unattached homeowners. Simmer down guys, some of them were women.  Yes, I was ditched, stood up and dropped by text message this summer.  I was let down lightly and dropped like a rock.   One guy even changed his email address--guess he was afraid I would continue to stalk him or maybe he lost his job.  That's okay, because without a commitment (in the biz we call it buyer representation) I can't give you my best either.  If you're going to play around with other agents, I have no problem losing your email address.

 

Before you start feeling too sorry for me I was also showered with gifts, received glowing testimonials, delicious lunches and a few paychecks from buyers willing to take the plunge.  By the way, Stan, you still owe me a promised review on Angie's List.  I don't mind if you tell the world how happy I made you.  Really, I don't.

 

 Today I'm out with someone new.  We're getting to know each other and testing the relationship on our first outing.  I also had a call from a past client interested in rekindling an active relationship to puchase a Palos Verdes home.  Real estate abhors a vacuum and when one transaction falls away the space is soon filled by another buyer or seller.  I always marvel at this natural rhythm and  I give thanks for it too.

 

In a more serious vein, my client database grew this summer and I must admit I'm very fond of the new additions.  We created many new memories, racked up some great buys and successful sales, and judging by the notes and emails all my 2011 lovers and boyfriends sellers and buyers had a wonderful summer.  Whether our relationship was long and arduous or short and sweet they're happy, and that's the most satisfying part of my job.

 

Comments (11)

Laura Pearlman Broker Associate
Gold Crown Unlimited, llc - West Palm Beach, FL
Excellence Through Experience and Resourcefulness

Great post Norma! The title got my attention but as I read your post, I was relating to your experiences and agreeing A LOT. Thanks for an enjoyable read.

Aug 31, 2011 10:46 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Laura - Thanks.  It was a fun post to write.

Aug 31, 2011 10:49 AM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Norma:

Buyers and sellers, lovers and boyfriends, yes I can see the similarities.  Hope those new relationships blossom and leave more good memories.

Aug 31, 2011 10:50 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Evelyn - I was in a lighthearted mood and decided against doing a hard-core real estate article today.  Somedays a girl just wants to have fun...

Aug 31, 2011 10:57 AM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

Great analogy, Norma.  The listing with its inherent signed contract is much like a marriage with a pre-nup, but you take your chances with the buyer representation which generally has no commitment attached to it.

Aug 31, 2011 03:40 PM
Deborah Nance
Orange County, Corona, Riverside, Los Angeles - Corona, CA
Southern California , Reverse Mortgage Specialist

Adorable post Norma.  In my line of work I get aunts & uncles, and a few older boyfriends.  LOL!

Aug 31, 2011 05:56 PM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Norma, I love this post! You said it all.

You are featured in Positive Attitude for the Weary Soul!

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Sep 01, 2011 12:22 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Jane - This post began to "bake" in my mind when a friend told me her new ex-boyfriend changed his email address and I said, "Gosh, that just happened to me, but it was a buyer not a boyfriend."

Sep 01, 2011 03:54 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Deborah - Our real estate families keep work interesting as each day unfolds.

Sep 01, 2011 03:57 AM
Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities
Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Andrea - Thanks for the feature--and I'm happy you enjoyed my little foray into real estate relationships.

Sep 01, 2011 03:58 AM
Malcolm Johnston
Century 21 Lanthorn Real Estate LTD., Trenton, Ontario - Trenton, ON
Trenton Real Estate

Yikes, maybe that's why I struggle from time to time Norma. I've never had a boyfriend before.

Sep 02, 2011 08:04 AM