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What does being an American have to do with real estate?

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Real Estate Agent with Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty

Writing on this blog about being an American and all that it means to me would have never crossed my mind. I sell houses and write about Princeton, West Windsor and Montgomery real estate. What does this post has to do with real estate?

Since I started writing on AR, I discovered that sometimes my best laid out plans for the next post just go out the window because the words have a mind of their own and jump out onto the keyboard. This morning I read Brad Anderson’s post and realized my profile s-s, I mean it has challenges and needs a lot more work. I decided to do that, and then I read Kathy McGraw’s post and before I knew it my heart was pounding and I am writing this.

Why? Because it is so important to me.

I am an American –because lucky stars, American students’ protests, American higher political interests, and some risk taking on my part have all come together to free me.

I know oppression first hand. Since the day I can remember myself I knew, we were different.  In Kiev, where I grew up, parents did not make play dates- kids just went outside and played. They did not mess with me much, probably because I went to a special English school, or because I was considered “smart” and they needed help with their homework. My poor little sister got the brunt of it. She was taunted, teased and humiliated. She was told, “Go back to your country”. That was our country –all my ancestors were born there. My father faught for that country when he was only sixteen. My sister and I used to play with his medals.

Fast forward to high school graduation and college.  The authorities did not give me a gold medal upon graduation, which I was entitled to - I was #1 student with all straight A’s.  To enter college under Soviet regime students had to take entrance exams at one University of their choice. If you did not get in, you had to wait till next year.

I (and others like me) was given a special exam – a much harder one –on the level of math competitions. I knew ahead of time, it was going to happen, so I prepared by studying the problems from those competitions.

There were only 3 of us admitted. We were told we couldn’t study during the day –only at night and work during the day.  I could not find work without someone putting a word in for me.

I went to work at 6am-5pm, to school -6pm-12am, got home at 2am. This went on for 6 years until I got my MSEE.

When I found out that I could escape, I took the risk. My ride out of the country can only be described as a dark movie, with searches in the middle of the night and running in the rain literally to catch the train to freedom. I arrived in this country with a baby, a suitcase and a baby's potty.


I am in this country and was planning today to write about Princeton, West Windsor, and Montgomery, and Hopewell real estate. Instead I am writing and crying (OK, I am emotional) with pride about being an American and never tolerating injustice and bigotry.



The voices of my grandparents murdered by the Nazi, with many neighbors standing by and watching, are in my head as I am writing this.




Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Missy - I very much appreciate what this country has given me. Thanks for your thoughts.
Nov 02, 2007 11:21 AM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Lane -you don't need to thank me - as I said, I am the lucky one. As to the appreciation, I try not to forget how I got here. Thanks for you kind words.
Nov 02, 2007 11:24 AM
Lisa Hill
Florida Property Experts - Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Beach Real Estate
This is a powerful post. I should be featured. I'm glad you're speaking out about the discrimination you and your family endured. And to think that there are those who claim the holocaust never happened.
Nov 02, 2007 11:43 AM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Lisa - thanks for the feature thing suggestion. It's hard to tell if something like this post, with the topic so far removed from these shores, can resonate with others on AR. May be it's to "hurray -hurray" for some. It's not for me and I am glad it wasn't for you. Thanks.
Nov 02, 2007 12:18 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Faina- I just came back and even before I read Lisa's comment I sent my flag for a feature on this....

you stated: " It is very easy to forget how fortunate we are to be in this country and it's still a miracle that I can find understanding from people I never met."  

Miracles happen every day....open the door and people will come in........ 

 

Nov 02, 2007 01:14 PM
Cynthia Tilghman, RealtorĀ® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC

Oh Faina,
You have touched my heart tonight.  I know that those of us who were born here in America and have never experienced what you went through cannot begin to understand and I do not pretend to.  I admire your courage and bravery.   I am very proud that you are my fellow American. 

 

Nov 02, 2007 01:31 PM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Kathy - you are going to send me crying again, friend. Thanks -I showed your comment to my husband, he is right here by my side. He now understands why I am glued to the computer.
Nov 02, 2007 02:06 PM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ

Cynthia - this must be magic -I can feel your heart too. I wasn't that brave - I was very young and had to get out to give my baby a better life. My baby now teaches law at Northwestern.

Thank you so much for the heartfelt comment. I am happy to have you as a friend.

Nov 02, 2007 02:12 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital
Faina, I am so moved by this post.  I read it late at night and exhausted after getting home from The Turning Point.  Brian Buffini said so much about being a first generation immigrant, and throughout the two days, he often made points by citing the amazing things that his fellow first generation immigrants contributed to this country.  I'm so glad you're here!  Thank you.  OK, Faina, I've got a little tear in my eye!
Nov 02, 2007 03:22 PM
Laurie Manny
Long Beach CA Real Estate - Long Beach, CA

Faina,

I sit here with tears streaming down my face and don't quite know what to say other than this country is blessed to have you here. 

Nov 02, 2007 05:25 PM
Paul Slaybaugh
Homesmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Scottsdale, AZ Real Estate
Unbelievable, Faina.  What an incredible story, and an even more incredible spirit you possess to risk everything for a new life.  You may be fortunate to be here, but we are far more fortunate to have you.  Thank you for sharing such an intensely private story with us.
Nov 02, 2007 05:58 PM
Katerina Gasset
The Gasset Group & Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Provo, UT
Amplify Your Real Estate & Life Dreams!
Faina- What a touching, emotional and heart wrenching story. You were supposed to write this story. It was supposed to be heard just as my stories are supposed to be heard. This is all part of the healing. You are blessed to be an American and people who take it for granted need to go and see how the rest of the world really lives. You are so strong because you could write this story. I have tears in my eyes as I share so much from the stories of my mom and her family and many others that I have met through my life. America is the land of the free and we need to keep it that way! Katerina
Nov 02, 2007 08:13 PM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Patricia - thanks and don't cry. I cover all the bases on that score. I plan to hear a lot of Buffini stories soon. Thanks for being a friend here.
Nov 02, 2007 10:46 PM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ
Laurie - please don't cry. Leave it to me - I am a real expert in that department, and getting softer by the day. Your words are way to kind, but I am very grateful for them.
Nov 02, 2007 10:50 PM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ

Paul - I don't know what's gotten into me to write this truly personal story. Somehow it just had to come out. My friends in the non-AR life never heard it. I must be getting old and soft.

You know - we do anything for our kids - so I took my baby and ran. Thanks for being able to hear words from my heart. See, I warned about getting soft.lol

Nov 02, 2007 11:16 PM
Dan Forbes
Bradenton, FL

Your post brought tears to my eyes as I thought about the emotions you must be feeling.  Your story is inspiring.  The sad truth is that most Americans don't appreciate this wonderful country as much as those who come here from other countries.

Also, thanks for reading and commenting on Bradenton Real Estate Investing: The Fixer-Upper

Nov 03, 2007 02:03 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic
Thank you for sharing a true life story. More people need to read this and understand the pride in being an american.
Nov 03, 2007 03:16 AM
Judi Glamb
Coldwell Banker Hearthside - Hellertown, PA
Associate Broker, ABR

Thank you!  You should write more about this - how does one get to be an owner of real estate in Kiev?   The little I know about real estate outside of the US, it is often not attainable.

I will always remember the double standard of living while my husband was working in Prauge - and this was not that long ago (12-15 years ago).  The tip he gave a day, maybe a tad more than he would in the US, was more than she made in a month.  

Nov 03, 2007 04:23 AM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ

Dan -what's up with all the tears here. I did not mean for you guys to cry. It's a great country and my true home.

Robert - thanks. I did not really mean it to be a life story. It's just I read about discrimination and before I knew it, I wrote this. 

Nov 03, 2007 04:47 AM
Faina Sechzer
Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty - Princeton, NJ
Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ

Judi - today there is private ownership of real estate in Ukraine and many former Soviet republics. When the communists were in power, people rented apartments from the government. When the regime collapsed the apartments were privatised, i.e.people could stay were they were. All of a sudden these apartments were worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. There are murders and all kinds of bad stuff going on to get the deeds to these properties.

I hope this answers your question a little bit. if you'd like to know more, please let me know. 

Nov 03, 2007 09:12 AM