Top 10 Things Parents Do To Add Stress To Your Real Estate Transaction
Purchasing a home is a huge undertaking and one that can be quite intimidating, particularly for first-time home buyers. As such, the parents of many home buyers often tag along to provide moral support and guidance and even a little financial support, if need be. Although the presence and assistance of parents are always welcomed, the reality of such an arrangement often creates a more stressful situation for all.
Before you begin your house hunting adventures with parents in tow, check out the top 10 things parents do (okay ... some parents) to add stress to your real estate transaction!
- Parents often misinterpret the buyer agent's fiduciary responsibilities, which are to the buyer client only.
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Parents often challenge the expertise, advice, and recommendations of the REALTOR® when in fact, most parents have no expertise in real estate sales.
- Parents often challenge the processes and procedures involved in the real estate transaction, although the sales contract dictates the facilitation of efforts.
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Parents often try and take over the negotiating process, although their wants and desires often conflict with the buyer client.
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Parents often disagree with the sales price suggested by the REALTOR®, although the price is fully supported by recent home sales in the area.
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Parents are often misguided into thinking that their personal experience in home buying uniquely qualifies them to doubt or question the expertise and experience of the REALTOR®.
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Parents often require the buyer's agent to request seller concessions beyond what is normal and customary or otherwise agreed upon in the sales contract.
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Parents are often emotionally charged causing a trickle-down effect as the transaction progresses.
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Parents consistently operate from a single perspective, thereby under estimating the sellers and the knowledge, skills, and abilities of the listing agent.
- Parents frequently make demands of the seller, but very few understand the logistics and contract negotiating procedures involved in today's real estate market.
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78 Comments on Top 10 Things Parents Do To Add Stress To Your Real Estate Transaction
Lisa, That sounds just about right. The best buyers parents that I have dealt with basically told their son and daughter-in-law to "Do what he tells you to do". I got along with everyone involved and the parents really liked me and my track record.
Mike, your stand among the lucky ones! Good for you!
Gretchen, you are absolutely right! Parents can clearly see when an agent is looking out for their child's best interest. And when they do, they should respect it and appreciate it! End of story ...
Good for you Steve! I have had some good ones and some that were not so good. I guess I should just be grateful that the good has outweighed the bad. :-)
Lisa - I have found that some parents can be very helpful, and yet, as you point out, many are not. Sometimes too many opinions without true knowledge can make things difficult.
Lisa:
I have only a had a few situations where parents tried to help their grown kids find their home. In one case, the parents were contributing to the down payment, so they felt that they should have a say. The parents were reasonable and easy to work.
You are absolutely right Christine! Some parents are very helpful through the entire process. But there are others who can definitely present some unnecessary challenges for everyone.
Good for you Evelyn! When the parents are reasonable, it helps make the entire transaction a much smoother process.
The best is the part time real estate agent, who happens to be a friend of the family and continually misinforms my client, each and every step of the way.
It has happened twice in my career and both times we just had to part ways.
Anthony, I have had this experience as well and it is definitely frustrating! Kudos to you for knowing when to part ways and not being afraid to do so!
Lisa, Being a parent helps to relate to other parent's behavior with their children. No matter how old they are and how financially well off they are, parents still feel like they know best, when it comes to their kids. It's often to protect them for making the same mistakes, that they made when they were the child. But, what ever their reasoning, it always becomes a challenge for the agents. Fortunately, I've not had this become a serious problem on any transaction, knock on wood. ;-) Best wishes always.
Richard, you are absolutely right! Parents can be very protective and for the most part, they are just trying to make the best decision for their children. Sometimes, however, the "best" decision might be the one suggested by the REALTOR and parents need to be comfortable with that. Often the children are ... but the parents are not ... and this factor alone can create all kinds emotions. Thanks for stopping by!
Lisa, when parents show up, my stress level elevates, for sure
LOL! Ed, you are too funny! Believe me, I know the feeling! :-)
Hey Lisa-this is one case when "the more the merrier" does NOT apply!
Lisa, great post! i have seen several parents blow a deal for home buyers.. its almost the kiss of death in a transacrtion...
Congrats on the feature and the good read! My nephew recently bought a home and my brother called me several times with concern (his) and thought I would talk to him about details...not! Some parents act out of concern but should stay their distance and allow their children to make decisions unless they're the ones buying. Ha-ha!
Marco, you are absolutely right! Thanks for dropping by!
Scott, I could not agree with you more!
Wanda, I would have done the same! :-)