In looking around in life at "getting something" sometimes at a point in time we fall short. It is especially hard to take when "another" seems to get what we want. You know always the bridesmaid not the bride. We need to learn to
Overcome The Sting Of The Bridesmaid Not The Bride.
We in general are happy for friends getting ahead but harder feelings come in to play with those we compete with or downright enemies seem to get all the spoils while we remain on the sideline. Surely we are not "as happy" for them. You see it in multiple bidding for a home you want when you lose out. Or a relationship you are working on leaves you the wallflower without the dance.
There is a saying in pursuing something too hard, that watch out what you wish for cause you might get it. Oftentimes what we think we want, at least right now, is not best for us. We really just don't want to be left standing alone missing out on acceptance of ourselves and even the recognition we think we deserve. We don't really mind the other person getting "theirs", but where is "ours"? Getting no acceptance and recognition is a very lonely and empty feeling and no wonder "it hurts."
The KEY to overcoming this feeling left out is to understand that "we are on our own path." Everyone's timing in life is different. That bride from a year ago may be pregnant and left by her deadbeat good for nothing hubbie a year from now while your long awaited Prince Charming King who was devoted to you in the shadows finally materializes and YOU are the one truly living happily ever after. That home you wanted so bad was not as good as the one you "eventually" landed. Go with the concept of accepting what is meant to be as good for you.
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