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The little guys on your shoulders

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Real Estate Agent with Falcon Property Company

The little guys on your shoulders

Some might call them an inner voice.  Some may call them good and evil.  Some may call them Holy Spirit and satan.  We all have an inner voice that speaks to us constantly if we take the time to listen.  I will call them Josh and John.

Josh and John'sJohn and I are not friends, we have never been friends.  John wakes me up in the middle of the night when business is bad and tells me that all is lost.  At 4:30 a.m. he tells me that if I don't get up and write a letter, make a contact, figure out how to sell a listing, lose 10 pounds, and generally make things completely different than they are, then life as we know it will be over. 

John is the one who prevents me from actually working because he paralyzes with a certain kind of fear, and the one who doesn't want me to succeed because that brings with it its own kind of paralysis.

I am, however, in love with Josh.  Josh is the voice that tells me that it doesn't matter what we are facing that day, that we have strength like few others to climb whatever mountain lies ahead.  Josh motivates me and pushes me to be better.  There are times when his voice frightens me because he is luring me to trust the unknown.  If I am still, and really listen to which one is speaking, then I know that if it's Josh, I can trust it.

One of the fastest ways for me to tell which one is speaking is whether or not their words bring peace or panic.  Josh will never overwhelm me with what needs to be done.  He will always take it one step at a time.  There will not be twelve things that we need to conquer immediately, it will be the most important that needs to be addressed first.

good and evilIn my household, John sometimes inhabits the voice of my mother who lives with us.  A product of The Great Depression, we are always on the brink of disaster no matter how good things are.  Even with four closings last week and this week, there is an absolute panic that the world economy is crashing and why am I not doing more? 

So I go to my Happy Place, and drown out John's voice.  In The Teachings of Don Juan, Carlos Castenda described something similar:

Look at every path closely and deliberately. Does this path have heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use.  A path without heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy, it does not make you work at liking it.

In my personal life what always comes to mind is, "Be still and know that I am God."  Today I would encourage you to be present in your life, to listen to your good voice, your Josh, your Holy Spirit, the one that motivates and challenges and champions you.

The little guys on your shoulders was written by Mimi Foster

Yvonne Van Camp REALTOR
To Buy and Sell Real Estate, see me at Southwest Missouri Realty - Springfield, MO
"Home"work, I have the Answers!
Mimi, I suggested your blog before even finishing it. Brilliant!!!! I hear exactly what you are saying! Be still, I will hear you, God!
Nov 13, 2011 12:51 PM
Pam Miller
Realty Associates - Conroe, TX
Broker Associate - Water Crest on Lake Conroe

Mimi - One of the most difficult things for me to do is not to "help" God.  He doesn't need my help and He never says mean things to me....like the things John tells you.  Kick him out of your head:)

Nov 13, 2011 01:10 PM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Thank you so much, Yvonne :)  It is so difficult, especially in this day and age of computer/phone/tv/information overload, to be still long enough to hear.  When I was younger I lived by the water and used to walk there daily to 'listen' and 'recharge.'  I LOVE those quiet times when we actually listen.

Right, Pam?  If we slow down enough to listen, He will never lead us astray.

Nov 13, 2011 01:20 PM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

We all have the good and bad voices and they are at constant odds.  No better comfort than being still and indeed knowing he is God!

Nov 13, 2011 01:42 PM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Amen, John.  We just need to make sure which one we are listening to.

Nov 13, 2011 01:46 PM
Kristine Ginsberg
Elite Staging and Redesign, LLC - Short Hills, NJ
NJ Home Stager

Meems - my Josh and John are my spirit and my ego. My ego is the lie, it will tell me I'm not good enough, smart enough, and that I don't need help. My spirit tells me I'm loved, gives me courage and peace even in the mist of chaos.

It's my choice which one to listen to and I have trained my self to stop as soon as the negative committee starts up in my head. I take it one day at a time and today my spirit tells me I'm right where I'm supposed to be and all is right with the world. Tomorrow - who knows, I'll only discover that when it arrives!

Nov 13, 2011 01:58 PM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Oh, Kris, that was so beautiful, and appropriate!  It is wonderful to see your beautiful face (and your magnificent hair LOL) . . . I'll work at being a part of the voice of your spirit.  You are well and truly loved. 

Nov 13, 2011 02:03 PM
Doug Bullwinkel
E Mortgage Capital, Inc. NMLS 1416824 - Roseville, CA
Mortgage Loan Officer NMLS #281609

Thanks a lot.  You chased John out of your head and now I realize that he's been trying to get in my head ever since.  I've noticed that John guy has been quite a pest for me the last few weeks.  Please send Josh over to help balance things out as I can use a little help here lately. 

Nov 13, 2011 07:00 PM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

John is a pushy little dude, I can see why you're not friends Mimi.  My money is on Josh to win every time with you!

Nov 13, 2011 08:07 PM
Virginia Dean
Keller Williams Tulare County - Visalia, CA
Real Estate Done Your Way

I needed to read this today.  Quite a beautiful and touching story. 

I have to write a highest and best offer this morning for a challenging client....woke up thinking about it several times during the night....reading this makes me feel calmer and more ready to face however it happens.

Thanks so much Mimi.

Nov 14, 2011 12:05 AM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

the nice thing about it, Doug, is that when you realize it, you can just tell John to take a hike :)

Good morning, Roger.  It's always so amazing to me that at times we give him such credence when he is, in fact, nothing but a liar.

Oh, good morning, Virginia.  Challenging client's and highest and best offers . . . those are the things Mondays shouldn't have to start with.  Hope you find today that YOUR best is good enough.

Nov 14, 2011 01:22 AM
Sherri Berry
Reliant Realty, Murfreesboro - Murfreesboro, TN
Murfreesboro TN Homes & Real Estate

Thank you Mimi!  I have struggled with my fearful side the past few weeks.  My life is changing and it is hard for me to let go and accept that God is the director of my life.  Some days that inner voice would have me doubt that God will take care of me and when times get uncertain it can be hard to fully trust in him.  I haven't been as active on The Rain lately.  I logged on and read this post and thought...God directed me here!  I really needed to read this today!  Have a great week!

Nov 14, 2011 01:23 AM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

I am so glad, Sherri.  Please feel free to contact me at any time.  All of my contact info is here.  Mimi Foster

Nov 14, 2011 01:33 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Mimi, I wondered if the little shoulder sitters were going to make into in post, I'm glad that they did. I really love Kristine's take on these two alter egos.

I'm working at keeping that panicky little voice quiet - for me a walk or run, anything in nature, gets me connected and grounded. Through activity, I find stillness.

I so love your words --

 
            So I go to my Happy Place, and drown out John's voice.

That's exactly what needs to be done. Hugs.

Nov 14, 2011 03:34 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Mimi- beautifully written.  My nieces have told me that they sometimes feel as if I'm sitting on their shoulders watching over what they do!  I think we all need to take some time to be just with ourselves and listen to that inner voice.

Nov 15, 2011 04:15 AM
Cal Yoder
Keller Williams Elite - Lititz, PA
Homes For Sale in Lancaster PA - 717.413.0744

Mimi, got to love that negative voice which is a tape probably programmed for generations. Here is to the positive voice who tells you that you can do it. One of my favorite verses is where Gods says, "I have a future for you." Be well.

Cal

Nov 15, 2011 02:37 PM
Anne M. Costello
Weidel Realtors - Yardley, PA

Mimi: Someone recently recommended meditation and I have to say I am almost afraid of the quiet. But we need to let the quiet in to be able to hear the voices (both Josh and John) and make the decisions to help us move in the right direction. 

Nov 15, 2011 10:37 PM
Pam Hills
Innovative Artistry - Kendall, FL
ASP/IAHSP- Stager Miami, FL, Creative Minds Innovatively At Work

Dear Mimi - I swear Roger is right...that John is a "pushy" boisterous little dude!!  I think that he has a twin or else he is very busy between yours, Doug's & my house...  Josh has gotten a little more breathing room in my head lately, but he had to swim up the stream of fear a little bit to get there.  I know it is all God's will...but he wants us to try & afraid of any more wrong paths.  The "paths of Heart" are ones that give us the greatest joy.....  I also love what Kristine said about John & Josh...  I am sure she is wise & on to something there.  I have tried to go with my spirit "Josh" sometimes & a couple of times & that "John" got pushy & a boulder fell on me & went splat.  Hugs & this is a great story....  I am all out of buttons, but will check back at midnight.  I already read the other blog & dancing in my seat on over to leave my comment :).

Nov 17, 2011 07:32 AM
Pam Hills
Innovative Artistry - Kendall, FL
ASP/IAHSP- Stager Miami, FL, Creative Minds Innovatively At Work

p.s.  I think mine are like Wiley Coyote & the Road Runner...which explains my headache

Nov 17, 2011 07:35 AM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor

What a beautiful reminder to stop and smell the roses! We have to think before jumping into things and enjoy each second as if it might be our last..............it just might be!

Nov 19, 2011 01:16 AM