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Are You An Overwaterer Or An Underwaterer?

By Gary Woltal

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

November 16, 2011 09:21 AM

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Are You An Overwaterer Or An Underwaterer?

It is not just about giving and receiving, we all do that. It is about CONTRIBUTION to another person.

An overwaterer like with plants, gives and gives. Maybe call them the Saint. The underwaterer does the minimum at times and we do think of them as the "taker" but their contribution is not even up to par. Over watering like with plants leads to plant death. Death to relationships too. Underwatering is plain neglect and insensitive to your partner. Balance is the key in life.

Shame on you if you are an underwaterer and either straighten up or be a normal waterer with others. Overwatering as a person you are taking emotional abuse from those that don't appreciate you. Stop this as soon as you can for healthy living.

The analogy with the plants is a good one. Most plants need normal watering for their type. Then as we all want to do in life what happens? We thrive.

Seek THRIVING relationships with everyone. It is the way we were meant to live.

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Susan Neal

RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks - Fair Oaks, CA

Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker

Interesting analogy, Gary. Another thing about overwaterers: I know someone who is always giving me gifts, doing all kinds of things for me unbidden (whether I want her to or not), and pretty soon instead of appreciating it, I start resenting it, then I feel guilty for that feeling. I just think that her actions are more about her than about me.

Nov 16, 2011 09:27 AM

Debb Janes

Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA

Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Geez, I get suffocated by the overwaterers...aka smother mothers ( or fathers, I guess). I agree with Susan, it's more about them.

The underwaterers are annoying too...self absorbed and can't be bothered with partcipating.

I'd like to think I have balance...my plants are all thriving anyway. :)

Nov 16, 2011 10:03 AM

John Cannata

214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com - Frisco, TX

Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance

With any good relationship, it should be 'give and take' from both parties.

Nov 16, 2011 10:17 AM

William Feela

WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN

Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Good relationships need a balance of give and take. To much of one or the other is a receipe for doom.

Nov 16, 2011 10:26 AM

Gary Woltal

Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX

Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Susan: It's pretty bad the overwaterer gets resented for their generosity but they do need to pull back.

Debb: Suffocation and annoyance. Good terms on each extreme. Shows something is lopsided and needs fixing.

John: That's the goal ~ a good relationship.

William: Even give and taking just feels right too. You just know when things are in balance.

Nov 16, 2011 12:04 PM

William Johnson

Retired - La Jolla, CA

Retired

Hi Gary, As I was reading this I was beginning to wonder how I would fit in. I neither over or under water my plants and I tend to try to learn their needs and then follow that. I guess I am same with people ( hopefully). Building relationsips and helping were I can but never smoothering.

Nov 16, 2011 01:13 PM

Myrl Jeffcoat

Sacramento, CA

Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I'm going to STRIVE to seek more THRIVING relationships, Gary! I think you are on to something! I'm fortunate to be part of the family and to have friends, who seem to cultivate a THRIVING environment. I'm blessed for that!

Nov 16, 2011 01:51 PM

William: I think you have this "balance" thing figured out based on just taking care of your plants. Taking care of people is the same way.

Myrl: Thrive is what makes life good, and you are on to it....

Nov 16, 2011 03:02 PM

Cathy Criado

Criado Realty - San Antonio, TX

Making Real Estate Profitable

In the blogging world this might mean that you make an effort to have a good balance between contributing comments and receiving comments. I seem to hover at a balance these days whereas I was more of a contributor before. I took off a week for a funeral then fell behind significantly, but slowing catching up.

In the real world, I try to give and probably am an overwaterer. Maybe its my need to be appreciated or maybe it's just my spiritual gift of enjoying giving. I am the host of our family events but from time to time I back out, just to let folks know its a gift not to be taken for granted. I love to give but don't apprecite being taken for granted.

Very nice Gary. You have a gift of insightfulness.

Nov 16, 2011 06:34 PM

Are You An Overwaterer Or An Underwaterer?

Seek THRIVING relationships with everyone. It is the way we were meant to live.

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