Blogs are the place for buyers and sellers in the Princeton area and elsewhere in New Jersey to find the real scoop about real estate. What would they see when they get to the blog?

With so few real estate people blogging consumers are not yet aware of what is in it for them. To get this information out in public and to engage consumers in a dialog I want them to come to my blog. My profile page could be their first point of contact. I decided it needs complete revamping or at least a major face-lift, no pun intended.

This is how I come to the conversation about dress. Working on my profile page, I got to see my photo a lot and this is what went through my mind “this jacket just got to go". The picture is current; it’s just the jacket, it's so 90-s.  In his book “ Blink: the power to think without thinking”, Malcolm Gladwell suggests that we only have that long – “a blink” to make an impression. Dress for Success

This conversation is about two things the importance of dress in real estate: 1. Dress in Photos; 2. Dress code in general.

Agent photos were always puzzling to me, before and after I started in real estate. To this day I look at the pictures of agents lined up on the pages of Princeton Packet and Town Topics (our local papers) and wonder  “Which face would I like to sell my house?” I don’t advertise my face – I keep the wrinkles all to myself.

Having accepted that photos are a special feature of life in real estate, I come to the question of dress. I am not talking here about pictures taken 20 years ago, that horse has been beaten to death. I am talking about what impression our current photos leave by way of dress. Blogs are a conversation with someone who we don’t know and don’t see. Photos in the blogs help the reader to engage in this conversation. Not because I am beautiful, but because they can “see” the person they are talking to.



Let me give you an example. I was commenting on a blog of a person pictured in a relaxed Hawaiian shirt on his profile (totally fictitious). I related to the person completely. I later saw the same person’s picture in a suit and tie – I also related, but it was not the same person in my mind.



Please don’t tell me, it’s not the cover it’s what’s inside. I agree - once you get to the insight. The photo on the profile is who the reader will be seeing in their minds eye and “talking” to. It should be true to who we are and to the image we want to project.  Are you the power broker doing multi-million dollar deals? Are you wearing suit and tie, so the market reports from you are received with more confidence? Are you writing for the relocating executives or vacation home owners? Are you dressed for the former or the later? Are you cool looking and therefore on the edge of all things new in marketing? Do you have a cartoon instead of a picture on your profile? What does the cartoon say to your readers about who you are? 

What we wear in the blog photos could be even more important then what we wear to meat a client – on a blog you may not get a second chance.

Which brings me to what we wear in our every day real estate agents’ life. Years ago I remember rows of white starched blouses and dark suits hanging in my closet. In my early consulting days I came in one day in a yellow suit – it was very conservative and yellow. Let’s just say, I never wore that suit again.

There are many dress codes now: casual, dress –casual, client meeting and others. Did you ever think why business attire uses the word “code”? Because it is a code of communicating corporate culture. Why do casually dressed guys and ladies, change into suits when they meet clients? Why so much fuss about dress? Is it at all applicable to real estate? What subtle message are we communicating?


Dress for SuccessThere are different schools of thought for real estate. There are those that dress “like their clients”. For example, a guy selling in Florida – would wear shorts and a polo shirt, because that’s what his clients wear. The idea is that the client will relate to them better.  

Another theory – if you are selling 2+ million dollar homes, you should dress the part, and I don’t mean expensive jewelry.

The third idea is to dress in the same style for all clients, picking the style from the two previous choices.

I know some big gun agents, who look like they just rolled out of bed. With this argument, I just wasted a perfectly fine morning writing this post. I am sure I'll hear it  - "we sell houses, not our looks."

 

Then what do you wear when you are “not working”? I was in a store yesterday and 2 people asked me for my card. Was I prepared for meeting potential clients? I was helping my sister choose a table. 

 

 

My clients will be buying and selling their homes in Princeton, West Windsor, Montgomery Township and Hopewell. I want to dress for their success.




 
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88 Comments on How to Dress for success in real estate

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Hi Faina,

Dressing for success is much like what we tell our Sellers in today's market!  Very nicely done!  Love your lady in this post!  She's very chic! :)

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I think when choosing a Realtor from a picture that circumstances of the prospective sell or move would come into consideration.  If I were moving from Nevada to Hawaii...I would look for the 'laid back' look in a Realtor...If I were moving from NV to New York City I would look for someone more professionally dressed.  People in NV are half way in between in my opinion.  I always dress in a suit or professional business for a first appointment.  I also make it easy to change out if the client is really uncomfortable with it or we are seeing 10 houses...i.e. I'll take my jacket off and change into flat shoes.
10:46am • #2
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Lisa - do you mind if I borrow your line?  The lady in "blue" somehow turned gigantic, after I posted. I just changed her back to normal. She could be my alter ego, dress wise. You look very business like in your photo.
10:47am • #3
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Marry - do you consider LV more "business" then "laid back and vacation"? I never had a client uncomfrtable with my business look.

I did not say it in the post, but my strategy has been - I can't go wrong in a business suit. I am not playing golf with a client, even if they are. I am selling homes -it's a business. I have dressed a bit differently with close friends for whom I am buying or selling. Even then it is business dress, not golf or tennis.

Thanks for your ideas. 

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I always wear business attire when meeting with clients. You can underdress but you can never overdress. Well, I suppose one could show up in a sequined cocktail dress and be overdressed. But I'm talking about wearing a suit, which I almost always wear. It never goes out of style. It also depends on the type of client I'm working with, as I dress primarily for clients first and myself second. When I am not working, nobody would ask for my business card because nobody would recognize me. Let's just say I pretty much resemble a homeless person when I'm not working. :)

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11:04am • #5
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Faina,

I dress very business when I first meet any "unknown" Client.  I always gauge it from there.  I have had many Clients who have asked me to dress casual since they would be.

Therefore once I get the lay of the land I play it as the Client would like.

11:39am • #6
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I wear a business suit every day at the office, and if I know a client well may dress down a bit when showing them houses. But I never wear jeans anymore except around the house. Even going to the store, I'm dressed in slacks and a blazer. 
12:03pm • #7
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I know people do look at photos and choose, my daughter at 27 has had several referrals this year from people who choose her because she looked "young and fun". Honestly, it has happened so much that we joke about me getting a face-lift.
1:06pm • #8
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Yes, I agree to dress to success. I was just not that person who would dress up going to school so I must stay on top of this task. I like the blue jeans and t-shirt.
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I agree with you. I think you should look professional. I think with some clients, though, you need to not look snobby.
1:20pm • #10

I dress casually yet not as I would on my free time.  I never wear suits and dress shirts with high heels, for one thing, I can't walk on those torture devices.  I will often wear a jacket with a shell underneath and dress pants, or maybe a sweater set.  I hate to be in anything stiff and if I'm uncomfortable I'm not going to be at my best.  I will say that in our small town market casual- business wear is the rule, not the exception. 

What I find amusing are the agents that only dress up for a closing, anyone can take a look at them and know they must have a closing today.  If your client has been happy with you all during the transaction in your normal business clothes, are they going to expect you to suddenly show up in a different persona at the closing table?  I think that makes it look like you are dressing up for the lender, but you weren't for the buyer.

1:47pm • #11

Faina,

I enjoyed your post. I have been selling Real Estate for about 22 years now. I have learned the hard way about not dressing proper. Although I must confess I tend to have a lot of Real Estate phots taken with my dog and I having a tee shirt on. I do think I could get a bow tie for Lars. 

Taking it one step further, I feel more like a professional, act like it, and am more productive when I look my best.

Great info

Tom Braatz

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Great topic! I guess I dress to the situation. If I am out showing dirt - I am not going to be in my suit. I will have a pair of Levi's and some hiking boots on. If I am at a new construction plat and the model is done but the rest of the plat is under different stages of construction I will be wearing something that I can "climb" up and down ramps on. If I am showing plain old residential I will be in a suit -usually a skirt. I do try to keep up with trends so the suits I have had for years will still look - hip for the younger crowd.  When meeting clients for the first time of course it is business attire in the office.
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Faina- WOW, congrats on another feature! YEAH! Now for the dress code.  I believe you need to dress one step above the people you will meet with. You also need to dress the part. If you are going to list a horse ranch, you better be wearing jeans and boots or shoes that you will be able to walk around the ranch with! IF they see you in high heels, you are not getting the listing here! If you are selling homes to first time home buyers who's income level is much lower than yours, ditch the jewelry and be casual or they will feel intimidated. If you are going to a Spanish home like we have around here, you better dress to kill! They want to see you with french cuffs, the tie, the whole bit on the first meeting. Nestor is such a good dresser! He always says that Ben Franklin says: " Eat for yourself but dress for others." Katerina

BTW, I love your red jacket in your photo, when I am looking at my list of blogs, you and Sally stand out, red looks good on both of you and I can find your blogs straight away!  

1:56pm • #14
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Elizabeth - I am of the same school. You can never go wrong in a suit. When I go out I like to wear stylish casual, which often is jeans. The example I gave form yesterday - I could have looked like a homeless person, but luckily I did not.

I was asked for my card, not because I am famous, I am not, and I don't advertise at all. I was asked because I asked the salesperson about how is she doing in her business. 

Thanks for giving us your ideas. 

2:04pm • #15
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Dan - it's interesting no one in my 25+ years in business has ever asked me to dress more casually. I never heard anything from my clients about my dress, only once long time ago -from my boss. May be it's different for man. Let's see what the ladies have to say. Thanks for the comment.
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Erica -I always look business-like. I  always wear a suit for Open Houses and high heels ( I am way too short with out) and the first time with the client. I relaxed a bit about the suit on other occasions -but it's still white nice blouse, trousers and jacket -just not so matchy-matchy.

On the weekends I wear nice jeans, if I am not working. Since yesterday, I am thinking a bit more about that. 

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Missy - the face lift on the blog is easy, it's called Photoshop. Hmm - very tempting. I would have done it, the Photoshop one I mean, except I want to meet the people eventually as clients, why scare them with the real picture then. lol
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Susan - I change the minute I am home, but business is business - I look "prepared to do business". Thanks.

Al  - I don't think anyone should ever look shabby in business. Not a big confidence builder -in my book. Thanks for your comment. 

2:34pm • #19
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Beth -the reason people dress more formally for closing is the same people dress more formally for any meeting. You have already established a rapport with your buyer and may feel comfortable dressed more casually. At the closing there are usually people you did not meet before -attorneys, bankers, title company. What do you want them to know about you through this non-verbal communication?

Also closing is a kind of celebration, and people usually dress up for such occasions. In Europe - it would be disrespectful to the host to be dressed not better then usual.

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Tom - may be you can write about "dressing your dog for success" - I bet there will be a lot of interest.

You are absolutely right,  dress does make me feel different -that's the paradox about it. Supposedly, I am the same person with and without the suit. It does not work like that.

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Jo - exercising caution is necessary in any job - it just would not be safe climbing the ramps in high heels, just like it would not be safe not to wear a helmet at the city construction cite. 

I am wearing more pants now then skirts -I just can't stand wearing stockings. Man think they have it bad with the tie.  

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Arizona is a bit different than other parts of the country, particularly in summers because of the intense heat. But that being said, it is just wrong for agents to dress in bare, halter tops and other risque looking outfits. Even if dressing for comfort, a certain business look needs to be maintained.
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Katerina - I am with you on dressing "above" the client. it was drilled into me long time ago. 

Earlier in the year I sold a 11+ acre historic property - formerly owned by the Ralston Purina founder. I wore suits and heels (special big chunky ones for such properties). I walked that 11 acres with every buyer.

I almost always wear understated jewelry, except for some occasions. I am now showing a client $3+mln homes - sometimes the listing agents for such properties, let's just say, may have a certain attitude. I wear more "substantial" jewelry to those appointments.

As for my red jacket, that was the only reason I used it for the photo, because of the color. I hated the dark suit ones. Katerina, friend, you are too soft on me, these shoulders look I am from another century. That's just doesn't go with our bloggy-edgy image. Thanks for the congrats. 

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Bob & Carolin - I don't know what I would do in Phoenix. I remember practically frying in NY in the summer in the suit. You guys must be jumping from the A/C in the car to the A/C in the property.

Halter tops -that's a big NO-NO. That's not about being uncomfortable, it's about being inappropriate. Thanks for your comment.

3:21pm • #25
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We sell houses and we also sell our looks, meaning we sell ourselves.

Personally, I would find a Realtor dressed in Polo and shorts unacceptable and I live in Florida. I try not to dress like my clients because my clients vary. I don't have the time to figure out what kind of clothing they would wear.

Last week I met with a greasy mechanic that smelled of beer. Despite the way I was dressed I was able to connect with him: while talking to his partner he used some pretty foul language and then apologized to me. I said in my best southern accent "Ain't nuttin' I haven't heard before!"

I dress in black, grey and brown accented with white and beige. I try to avoid loud colors and patterns because I want people to pay attention to what comes out of my mouth, instead of flower patterns on my blouse.

 

3:23pm • #26
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Hello Faina - I'll let others comment on what is "professional" and when causal attire is appropriate. My main concern is how we present clients on-line. Personally, I advocate leaving your photo off your blog unless you happen to be a "celebrity" agent and have built considerable name recognition in your market. If that's the case. play the personal brand strategy to the "nines"!. Otherwise, remembering the public's perception of real estate agents, I say shoot for the "Service Brand" strategy and leave you image off the site. It's better your site be viewed as the ultimate "information portal" and "subject matter expert" on area real estate and not viewed for your looks or your choice of apparel.
3:28pm • #27
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Great topic. I've debated over this since my profile has a nice shirt and a jean jacket.  My goal or "branding" is too attract a younger crowd and fit my personality.  I've heard good comments about it since I'm "me" but I do wonder if I'm missing out by not dressing professional.  What's funny is when I go out with clients, I dress to meet the occasion.  If I'm looking at land, I always look nice, but will probably be wearing khakis instead of a long skirt... it just makes sense.  Most of the time I dress professional... maybe I'm going against my brand.  I go with the way I feel at the moment.  If you have any comments, let me know.
3:34pm • #28
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I wear a uniform to work as I call it. I have nice shirts with my name on them. They are tax deductible and fit our hot humid weather just great. This is not a formal city and few agents dress up anymore except for funerals and weddings. You see what you get in me.
3:36pm • #29
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Great Post!  Really great responses... During the summer in Florida, I dress more relaxed to deal with the heat and humidity.  I dress in traditional business wear during the winter, what we have of it.
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Bobby - I am by no means a celebrity. I completely deffer to your expertise on the use of photos on the blog. For me as a reader it is helpful to visualize a person I am getting the information from, like right now I am addressing my response to your picture in my head, which has a very nice smile. For me it is harder to respond to cartoons instead of photos, and harder yet to respond to a blank wall. 

The difference I came to see in blogging is that it's personal. I can kind of talk and can look the person in the eye, in contrast to the web-site. I of course, I did not write the book on blog marketing and am speaking purely from my experience as a blog consumer/participant. 

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Tammy -I love your photo, but I don't wear anything jeans for business. I don't go with the feeling of the moment. I think about who I am meeting and where I am going and dress accordingly. That said, if you are making a ton of money in jeans, I wouldn't change. Thanks so much for your ideas.
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Eric - it's funny, I also call my suits uniform, because it's for business. I take it off the minute I am home. I love the tax deductible idea. Should I try it with my high heels? I'll just write my name on the sole.lol. Thanks for your comment.
4:15pm • #33
I try to look polished and put together, but never stuffy.  Professional doesn't have to be a suit, but we do have to be conscious of our image.  Good post! 
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Debbie - my sympathy on working in the heat. It's very hot here as well in NJ in the summer. I wear summer suits with pants instead of skirts (I hate stockings).
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Dana - "look polished and put together, but never stuffy" - I couldn't say it any better. No, it does not have to be a suit to be professional.
4:30pm • #36

I love this blog and your comments, you must dress fot success.

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Hi Faina,

Just wanted to clarify.  I don't dress in jeans for anything.  I do the casual professional, which in this case (my pic) was khakis, a white shirt and the jean jacket.  The younger generation really likes it... probably because it's different.

Love the comments!  Thanks, Tammy

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Tammy - if your audience loves it - go for it. I am from the geezer (as my kids say) generation - adjust my comments accordingly. Thanks for coming back.
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I agree. You need to dress accordingly. If you want to be sucessful, you have to dress the part.
5:57pm • #40
First of all I like your picture. I am new in the real estate business, but I always try to look nice and polished as others put it. In the fall and winter I seem to always wear pants and jackets or a suit. Summer in North Carolina can be hot so I try to wear comfortable dresses.
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Great post.  I've been waiting for something like this!  Actually, I have devised several rules for myself.  When visiting a seller, I am always either in a suit or professional attire (dress/blazer).  When working with buyers, I will typically wear a suit or professional attire for the first three meetings, then business casual, or if they're laid back and young, jeans.

NEVER SLOPPY, NEVER SNEAKERS.  If you're walking property, business casual and construction boots. 

I guess in essence one must use their best discretion.  But my cardinal rule applies:  always pulled together either professional or casual...never sloppy!!!

7:08pm • #42
I think how we present ourselves matters. We are responsible for the way we do that. I believe in a professional appearance, it sets the tone.
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I definitly FEEL more professional when I actually LOOK professional.  However I think it does depend on the client.  I have one pretty substantial listing in which I showed up in business casual and the owner told me quite a few times that they were "casual people". I really think she was telling me because she would be more comfortable if I dressed more casual.  Being new though dressing professionally gives me the confidence I need to fake it til I make it! Most REALTORS in my area are VERY casual.
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In our Princeton market we need to dress professionally at all times, especially with relocation clients. When I am selling in Montgomery or Hopewell areas, usually with younger professionals, business casual is OK, just never too casual. 
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Hi Faina,
Living on the coast, we are more casual.  I dress neatly, but casual.  That usually means slacks and sweater or blouse and in cooler weather, add a blazer or jacket.  No sneakers or flipflops for sure.
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I live in a very laid back community.  I always dress nice if I am going to meet clients, open houses etc..but if my day is free and I may just be checking flyer boxes, or something less formal..jeans are the way for me..especially if there is acreage involved..I think as long as we fit the occasion, all is well.
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John T. Molloy (the author of the "Dress for Success" book) did some of the most original research about dressing for success back in the late 1970's and 1980's.  His conclusions are as true today as they were then.  People do form an impression of you at first sight, and the way you dress is part of forming that impression.  People also form a first impression at the words you use, your vocabulary and even the tone of your voice.  And still others judge you by how you write, what your marketing materials look like and how well written your marketing pieces are.
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Our island is very much a laid back tourist destination.  Typical for a buyer/seller to walk in in flip flops, shorts, etc.
8:17pm • #49

Good post! I wear jeans hanging around town and running errands etc. (sometimes during the day) and I feel like a movie star wearing dark shades - I don't want anyone to recognize me. Why? Because I don't look professional. I would dress in slacks and blazers (usually sweaters), but I have a 2 1/2 year old and it's just not practical. One day maybe.

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This will always be a popular topic. I always dress business casual.
8:33pm • #51
In my neck of the woods, I dress like a professional, mostly business suits. Sometimes I do dress in jeans but with a jacket so I am not too casual. I think the way one dresses is determined by your clientele and the area in which you work. When I don't feel like working, I dress very casually and it affects my attitude. J
9:07pm • #52

I've had buyers select me by photo out of others because I look comfortable - honest.  I even got the non-realtor look (Ok?).  

This is one area I'm working on.  I am trying very hard not to go out in sweats even when doing errands.  Trying to stay one step up! 

9:19pm • #53
From what I've seen with my interaction with Real Estate Agents, business casual seems to be the way to go in Southern California.
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I am guilty of taking "casual" a little too far on occasion.  However, I live in a temperate rain forest and something has to be said about being practical.  It really depends on the weather.  If it's raining (usually is) the most important thing is shoes.  Athletic shoes are accepted here but they must be clean.  I keep rubber boots or work boots in my car much of the time.  If the wind is blowing, or course full skirts or dresses are out completely.  It all depends on what is scheduled for my day.  I've sold some expensive homes in jeans - but once again, they must be clean and neat.  As for hair, many times it's just pulled back into a "scrunchie" because of the wind and weather.  Practical is key here but your mileage may vary!
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Faina, congratulations on another featured post!  And, what an amazing post it is!!! 

I used to dress strictly in business attire, but after many, many years of business suits - cute as they may have been, I'm dressing more business casual.  It seems to work well in Pasadena.

Can't wait until your next post!  And, yes... I still plan on calling you - very soon, I promise.  My days seem to be running away from me.

12:54am • #56
Business attire never hurt on the first meeting. However you should not wear anything that make you or your client uncomfortable.
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Christy - I agree completely. Thanks for your comment.

Vickie -"nice and polished" seems to be the prevailing opinion here. Thanks. 

Antoinette - It's interesting that you wear " a suit or professional attire (dress/blazer)" to see the sellers. I do the same. If we were to use the theory of dressing like a client to the listing presentation in someones kitchen, I don't know we would have to wear then. Thanks for your ideas.

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Kim - you said "I definitely FEEL more professional when I actually LOOK professional". That's it true for me as well. Thanks for the comment.

Christina - you are right. Thanks.

Lisa -  your approach - "business casual is OK, just never too casual" seems to be what most comments reflect. Thanks for the local voice.

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Cynthia - I am sure you always look appropriate, in any climate. Thanks for your comment.

Shari -  you said "I think as long as we fit the occasion, all is well" - that is what many people think on the subject. Thanks.

Bill - I see you wearing a suit in the photo. Is it just for the photo? Thanks.

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Eric K. - this is what so interesting to me about blogs -people can't see us and yet they form an opinion. Stranger yet, the same written words are read by each person differently through the lens of their experiences and personality. Case in point - a hateful comment right on this thread. What in the world have provoked that? Thanks so much for your thoughtful insight.
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Stacey - it's funny about the glasses. With a 2 year old you just got to what you got to do. Thanks for your comment.

Gail - You said -"When I don't feel like working, I dress very casually and it affects my attitude." Same with me. Thanks.

Judi - I could never understood selecting an agent based on their photo, but you say it happened to you - good for you. Thanks for your comment.

Brent - seems to be the prevailing thought on this thread. thanks. 

Anthony - I agree about the first meeting. It has to always be appropriate. Thanks.

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Debbie -you look very professional in your photo. I am wearing more pants then skirts and it's not even windy here. Living ans working in Alaska is fascinating to me. Thanks very much for letting me know a bit more about Juno.

Irina - I am glad the "power" suits are out and that the business attire for women does not look like we all came from the same conveyor belt.  I know we will talk soon. thanks for the congrats.

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I used to dress pretty casually all the time, however I found that when I dressed in business attire I was taken more seriously!  I try to dress at the appropriate level for whichever client I am working with at the time...I find that most younger buyers like a casual style, while more mature buyers prefer business attire.

3:20am • #64

My style of dress doesn't seem to be a problem but my hair is. I have changed my hairstyle many times in the past few years (color, cut, lenght) and I am never sure which me they are expecting to see. With the internet its not like you can just get rid of all your old pictures... It makes for some funny conversations and has turned into a little bit of an ice-breaker...lol

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Erin - you said "I found that when I dressed in business attire I was taken more seriously!". That is so true. Thanks for your thoughts.

 

Ann - you look great on the photo on your profile and I assume it's current. I wouldn't change a thing. I imagine you are referring to some old photo floating on the Internet.I tell my kids - be careful - one day their kids could see it.lol

 

8:25am • #66
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I'm not a suit person so you will never catch me in a suit. I don't even own one. But I have several different jackets that I wear to dress up the more casual slacks or even (gasp!) jeans. It depends on the client or situation. I would never go to a listing appointment in jeans, but I will show property in jeans (nice, taylored & dark) and a nice blazer or jacket w/heels - people always comment on how professional I always look. If I wear more "dressy" slacks, I typically will wear a sweater set. I think that sometimes it is how you carry yourself, not what you wear, plus the right jewelry can dress up anything. You do always need to look clean and polished (and pressed), no matter what you are wearing. 

I agree completely that our pictures need to reflect current fashion! I tried to make my photo be as timeless as possible. I do have a caricature as well, which people respond very positively to...it shows a more relaxed and fun side I suppose. There is one agent that I know that sells only high end (over $1 mil) properties and she always looks schlumpy. But when she opens her mouth, her professionalism shows. She does around $30 mil/year.

What I find interesting is that all the new HGTV shows are showing agents that are much more casual (and younger not surprisingly) in jeans and separates, but always pulled together. I take my cue from that, because that will be the public perception most likely, and what the younger generation is looking for in their agent. Casual, comfortable, pulled together, and stylish at the same time.

Thanks for a great discussion!

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Faina, basic good information and comments. Thanks for the post. Important to have your visual self match your inner self, better known as "Dress for Success"!
9:27am • #68
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Kelly -you said "Casual, comfortable, pulled together, and stylish at the same time" - sounds right to me. What I didn't like about the jacket in my photo -is that it looked outdated to me. When I say suits for women -I don't mean the matchy- matchy top and button. To me that's what I wore in the age of the "power" man looking business attire. There are many more choices now, including a dress and a jacket, or even simply a dress (like the woman in my cartoon).
9:40am • #69

I actually have clients that have chosen me by the way I dress......most commercial agents are somewhat stuffy and I try to fly under everyone's radar.....and many clients use me just for that reason!!  Clothes are important and I have tested my theory.....business went down when I wore a suit.

I also believe that first impressions are important regarding the car you drive, the way you speak, the way your breath smells, if your hair is combed and then when you open your mouth.....YOU BETTER KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT!!!  Thanks for the reminder.

9:43am • #70
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Faina, I think you should always look professional when you are out in the public.  My family was in the drycleaning business and when I was young, jeans were in style.  My dad wouldn't let me wear them because at that time it wasn't a "drycleanable" item.  He said that famers wore jeans and that is not the business we are in!  He wanted me to dress appropriately for the business we represented.  Of course, at the time, I was mad but I understand now what he was teaching me.   Now, I get my jeans drycleaned! 
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Ryan - you must've found your niche.lol. I had a commercial transaction, my buyer and his whole  team were in suits, the listing agent wasn't. They ended up not buying -not because of the suit. Thanks for your prospective.

Roberta - dry clean jeans -wow. I only do it for a few expensive ones.  Thanks.

1:25pm • #72
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There was an earlier comment about dressing to accomodate your client. In orking with foreclosed homes and the investors who purchase them you dont want them to perceive your better then them. You have to see where their comfort level is and go from there. There are times when you do have to be a chameleon. You go with the flow.
1:28pm • #73

Faina – you're right. At first I thought this post was going to be about the way a blog looks, which is also very important. So in a way, the two ideas go hand-in-hand. If we are going to blog, we need to make all facets of it attractive and pleasant. A cluttered blog can make a negative impression in a "blink" in the same way a bad picture of its writer can. We should be mindful of all visual representations.

Brian Wilson, Zolve.com

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3:56pm • #74
I am new to Active Rain but I found this posting and couldn't agree MORE!  I have been the A-type person in my office who insists that NO ONE should wear jeans, ever, to meet clients or be on 'floor duty.' Two associates in my office look at me as if I have three heads!  What has happened in the business world where jeans are ever acceptable? I only own 1 pair anyway, maybe I am biased. Thanks for listening...
10:06pm • #75
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Faina- I read a few of the comments, but have my guard up, so stopped.....I have never worn a suit....and have one dresss,  (for funerals) only.  I learned a long time ago that I can't be something I'm not.....and I do wear jeans, shorts, etc.  I decided not to work in "Towns or Cities" because of the expectations.....and instead concentrate on the areas in the middle of nowhere......less expectations :) :)

I dress to fit my area, but I do have a "proper shirt" on for my Profile :) :)

9:38am • #76
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Kathy - I would do bisiness with you, if you wore slippers. Your photo looks great to me. You and me are "ladies in red." Thanks.
9:42am • #77
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Kathy - I would do business with you, if you wore slippers. Your photo looks great to me. You and me are "ladies in red." Thanks.
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Fiana- Great post. I think one thing to consider is dressing appropriately for your age. I have always thought it less than professional when someone in any profession dresses like they are 20 years younger or older than they are. For example very young men dressing with suits and overcoats that look like they should be worn by senior level bankers (stodgy) =) Or women wearing clothes that look like something a 20 something would be wearing. By dressing classy and with a neat appearance we can look professional and have our own style.

Best wishes,

Scott Cowan
Rainier Real Estate
www.scottcowan.com

1:39pm • #79
Are you a Mike Ferry student.  He preaches upgrading and it makes perfect sense.  I'm from the southwest and BUSINESS casual is very accepted in any price range home.
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I like to dress like my clients, but just a bit more together if they are too casual.  Think that should be obvious.  I mean we are professionals here...

6:09pm • #81
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Scott - you are absolutely right. i totally agree with what you said "By dressing classy and with a neat appearance we can look professional and have our own style.". thanks for your comment.

Marry Ann - I am not Mike Ferry student. I come from the world of management consulting. it was drilled into us - we are not supposed to look like our clients, we were supposed to look like consultants, which usually meant more conservative and better quality attire. I am not sure how it fits with Mike Ferry. I would be interested to know. Thanks for your comment.

Troy - as you can see from this thread people have different ideas, judging by the number of comments. Thanks for yours.

7:14pm • #82
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When I speak with Realtors, I'm actually more comfortable talking with someone in jeans, blazer and a nice shirt, but at the same time, if I wanted to sell a property, I'd expect they be in their best attire at the open house. I guess either or works, but obviously the dress code is dependent on the situation.
1:30pm • #83
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Vero - I agree that different profession have different "uniforms". I am not sure what it is in the SEO world but my guess that it's pretty informal. Yes, being professionally dressed for the Open House is important, otherwise it may look like the agent does not "respect" the property they are marketing. Thanks for your comment.
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09
2007
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Faina- You now have me thinking....I've considered my blog an opportunity for folks to see a more relaxed side of me -  still professional, but relaxed.  Yet, when I meet with clients, whether they be investors, real estate agents, home owners or lenders I am in a suit.  I want them to know I meanbusiness about their investment and what I bring to the real estate transaction table.  I'm going to have to think about that picture on my blog.  Thanks for the post.

Jackie

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Jackie - I saw your picture. it seems you were going for the "more relaxed side of me". May be it goes with the "creative type" that stagers are assumed to be. On the other hand, if that's not how you dress usually or what you want to prject, I can see why you said " I'm going to have to think about that picture on my blog. " Thanks for your comment.
12:21pm • #86
Should dress the way you feel.... ie.. do you feel successful? trendy? then dress in that manner.
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Rod - I would imagine that as an Inspector you have a certain "uniform" to wear. I wouldn't think it would be 3-piece suit.
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