Ladies...do you ask questions when you don't mean too? (ok..maybe some of you guys too)

Hi Cheryl, Almost all of our Prudential NW Property offices have this once a week..and is manatory for new agents as part of sales skills.

Hi Jennifer, I find it very interesting about it coming across in writing as well. I'll have to take a closer look to see if I do this as well. Good that you picked it up though from the responses you were getting and asked for feedback.

Hi Barb, I have always been told that I come across as strong....so was at first take back when this agent pointed it out to me that my voice did this. It was though a really good gift that he gave me and I really did appreciated him telling me this. All it really takes it for you and another person to role play scripts and record yourself like Susan suggested.

Hi Judi, I hear that all the time as well. I think most use it to make sure the other person "gets" or is hearing what is said...but it often sends that message that the person has a choice when in most cases as with children it's not so. Now I'm going to see if I say that as well!

Hi Margaret, It was valuable advice given and I'm glad he mentioned it to me years ago.

Hi Richard, There is so much to tone and body language...and as Jennifer mentioned above...in writing as well that so often we are saying/writing one thing and others are hearing or reading something else completely.

Hi Brian, I wonder where we get this from? Most of us are unaware that we do it until someone brings it to our attention. I'm thinking like any speech pattern learned, it's emulating the ones closest to us.

Hi Gary, try taping yourself in a conversation and see if you hear it. I know I'm more in tune to it since it was brought to my attention years ago.

Hi Joy, You're very welcome!

Hi Cyndi, I used to say "ya know" quite frequently....you're right, we don't hear it ourselves, and sometimes we say things a lot that make us sound silly! Thanks to good friends and those brave enough to tell us these things.

Hi Michael, You're very welcome..figure it helped me a while back..so why not pass it along!

Hi Mark, My hubby is like that to an extent..used to kinda the "short hand" way of getting things done and can come off gruff at times when I know he's far from it.

Hi Kathy, so true..and well said!

Hi Barbara, I'm just glad someone didn't shy away from pointing it out to me years ago!

Hey Kat, and if it ends on a high note...in can make the listener think your asking a question instead of making a statement of fact.

Hi Jared, Let us know how it went!

Hi Richie, if said inquisitively, you're right, it can draw the listener in, but when one is making a statement and ending with the voice going higher...it can sound like the speaker is unsure. In our business, that wouldn't be good..well..in any business for that matter.

Hi Jill...LOL, no cure for the fast talking...well..wait a second...move to the South or Texas..or just anywhere out of NY and your speech will automatically slow down. I go back east and wow...everyone talks so fast now!

Hi Mary, I've heard you talk, and don't remember you doing it..so think you're in the clear. You have a lovely voice!

Hi Chris Haynes?? Exactly! http://youtu.be/KmDgl-Y-kiU

Hi Sandy, I hear it lots in young girls as well and hope it's something they grow out of. We need lots of self confident young woman out there!

Hi Ann, Hmmm..I've not heard that, but will try it! I'll have to practice it first though!

Hi Justin, Oh boy...there is always some improvement to be done!

Hi Donna, Open ended questions are great and they do get people to talk about their wants and needs. This is more when you're making a statement...but your voice goes up at the end of the sentence making it seem like you're unsure of your statement..or asking a question.

Hi Brian, as some mentioned, often times we don't even realize we do them until someone points them out to us.

Hi Elizabeth, LOL...and gag me with a spoon. They are obviously copying the speech of someone they admire..sad.

Hi Carmela, the good thing is that you do hear it in others..so you probably don't do it. PS: Welcome to AR!

Hi Bill, good for you for pointing it out to your daughter now..so she can correct it. Well done!

Hi Michelle, sounds like you had a great boss and one that truly gave you some good constructive advice! I was lucky as well..I'd probably still be asking questions when making statements!

Hi Chris...ok, I'll admit that I had to google it..but it was exactly the tone I was talking about..but Will Farrell did it with humor.

Hi Jacque and Larry...oh, I remember that show.. Said in a loud whisper " the password is....." I used to have the game! You're right, it DOES remind me of that!