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WHY BOTHER WITH INTEGRITY? IT'S SO YESTERYEAR!

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Real Estate Agent with Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 NRDS ID#641625055

WHY BOTHER WITH INTEGRITY? IT'S SO YESTERYEAR!

 

IN OUR LINE OF WORK, houses come and go everyday. 

THIS STORY WOULD BE COMPLETELY UNREMARKABLE were it not for the individuals involved.   

I will let the emails tell the story.

Dear Jill,
 
We hope that all is well with you. We are leaving today for Florida (until March) and will be placing our home on the market for sale in January.
We have listed it with XYZ Agency through our attorney who recommended, coincidentally ,a long time acquaintance of ours _______________ (insert name).
 
We thank you for your kind interest and wish you and your family all the best for a joyous holiday season.
 
The Homeowners
 
 
Dear Homeowners,

I read with great sadness and disappointment your email to me summarizing your decision to list with another agent. Since March, 2010, when I came to your home for the first time to present the CMA, and in the many related conversations that we've had since, I looked forward to the challenge and the honor of selling the residence that belonged to our community's "spiritual leader" of many decades.

Your decision to go with above stated agent is an interesting one. I just recently completed a deal with her and I'm sorry to say it was a transaction that almost didn't take place. One would expect a certain level of commitment and attention to detail by an agent with 30 years of experience in the real estate field.

Real Estate 101 teaches us to be aware of permit issues that could potentially hold up a sale and cause an untold amount of stress to the prospective buyers, as tax implications for renovations pending approval remain unclear until the issues are settled. Although we were repeatedly assured by the listing agent, that all paperwork was in order, it was no accident that the 4 or 5 outstanding C/O issues this house contained did not come to light until closing dates were being discussed, thus throwing all interested parties (especially the elderly homeowners) into a state of near hysteria.

A listing agent's fiduciary responsibilities are always to the homeowners. The best interests of the homeowners cannot take place if the property has not been properly prepared to be put up on the market for sale. Prospective buyers which are difficult to come by in this rather poor economy can easily become discouraged if "time is of the essence" for their own move or their "fear of the unknown" clouds their decision-making process.

In any case, in anticipation of shortly receiving your home's listing, based on a conversation we had that ended with, "we'll call you next month," I prematurely ran by the Town of ___________, Department of Buildings, the last time I was in the area to check what was on file. Since you have also made several renovations to your home that will conceivably cause a problem with its future sale, I will put the papers in the mail to you. Perhaps, you will find them helpful as they are of no more use to me.

Have a wonderful holiday season and a joyous new year. Enjoy your months in Florida. As with all of your critically acclaimed speeches, your timing is perfect.

Regards,
 
Jill
 
 
Yesterday was an extremely difficult day for me. The Homeowners pressed send on this email literally as they were getting on a plane to Florida for the next few months so they wouldn't be around to face any unpleasant reactions.

In this line of work, we lose houses everyday. It's to be expected. This situation was different, not only because of the honor and privilege associated with selling this internationally renowned speaker's house, but also because this man had repeatedly promised the listing to me for the last couple of years and was only too happy to accept all the preliminary free labor that I provided.

So now I'm left wondering, if even my spiritual leader is dishonest, who is left in the world to tell the truth? Other similar and distressing thoughts have been plaguing me since early yesterday morning.
 
You won't normally hear me criticizing anyone's else's work, but in this situation, I felt it was warranted. Through their attorney's recommendation, the Homeowners felt they were getting a top-notch agent but my experience with her had proven otherwise.
 
I was deeply affected by yesterday's unfolding of events. I know there will be other houses to sell but this scenario bothered me in ways I could never have imagined and in ways beyond the norm.
 
As a person of faith, I was literally shaken to the core. I'm not naive by nature and I've been around the block a couple of times, but I did not see this situation coming. Instead of getting right back to work, I chose to take some time off.
 
The pain comes in waves; as in the months following the death of someone you loved.
 
At this point in time, the sadness has nothing to do with the listing, the sale or potential commission. I took the news hard because I suddenly realized that someone I, very much, looked up to for inspiration and guidance has no personal integrity, after all. 
 
 
 


 

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Jill Sackler

 

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Jill Sackler, NYS Real Estate Broker Associate based on Long Island's South Shore
 
 

Sunny Isles, Fl 

       Specializing in Lifecycle Real Estate 

"When your family doesn't fit your family home, I can help."
 
 
 
 
 
   

   

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Comments(13)

Pam Miller
Realty Associates - Conroe, TX
Broker Associate - Water Crest on Lake Conroe

Jill - Bless Your Heart!  This is a kick in the stomach.  It is obvious that you are a very good agent!  I might have left out the part about the other agent, but I understand you were truly hurt.  Feel free to use my favorite real estate word...."NEXT".

Dec 15, 2011 06:39 AM
Belinda Spillman
Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado - Aurora, CO
Colorado Living!

Jill,  That is so frustrating.  I would certainly email them back and ask them to honestly tell you why they chose someone over you when you had the long time relationship with them.  What would be great is if you could bring the buyer and show them all!

Dec 15, 2011 07:18 AM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

No matter how long you have been in busines, it sucks when that happens. I'll share something similar, so that we can both fell bad.

This young lady contacted me a couple of years ago. She was referred by her parents. She had indicated, that she wanted to get prequalified for a mortgage. When I ran her credit and it was very bad. I coached and worked with her for 18 months, getting everything fixed and to a point the credit scores were good enough, so we could get her for a mortgage.

She had told me that she already had a Realtor, so I sent both of them a preapproval. She went to an open house with the Realtor and loved the home she saw and made an offer that was accepted. There was a loan officer at the open house and ended up doing the mortgage with him.

The only way I found out was, I got a call from her parents, thanking me for helping their daughter and to tell me that she went somewhere else to do her mortgage.

Unfortunately, it happened.

Dec 15, 2011 08:12 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Jill, I am so sorry for this situation.  Unfortunately, even people of faith take bad advice sometimes and inadvertantly hurt others.  Sadly, people hurt us, but our hope is in the living God and not His frail creation.  So, we lick our wounds and move on.  Believe me I know about hurt and pain while living a life of faith.  I've been on the other side of that pulpit and most of the pain I've encountered in my adult life came from the other side of it, and not from the outside.  Be at peace my friend.

Dec 15, 2011 11:11 AM
Cindy Westfall
Premiere Property Group,LLC Portland Metro & Suburbs Oregon - Tualatin, OR
ABR,GRI Your Tualatin & Portland Metro Real Estate

Hi Jill, sounds like this trusted leader didn't keep his word...which hurts on many levels. I've not had to deal with this on a business level (yeah..clients..but not trusted friends), but have dealt with this on a personal level. It does and can cut you to the core. Take your days off to re-group. You're a strong person that will get back on the horse when you're ready.Trying to insert a smily hug...but not going through, so consider yourself hugged!

 

Dec 15, 2011 04:40 PM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Hi Erica - I'm kind of wondering where their "long time acquaintance" was when they needed a CMA, a listingbook account and information on all the sold properties in the area, I can very well imagine the scenario with their attorney, but someone with integrity says,"I made a promise. Let's just give her 3 months, and then if she doesn't accomplish anything, we'll go with your recommendation."

Pam - Thank you, I will. Yes, I agree with you. I did struggle with that. I know it wasn't nice. I was in a very "not nice" place a couple of days ago. My crazy title came out of the same mindset. It's not how I would normally phrase something.

Belinda - I'm not going to email them again because I don't really think I care that much what their reasoning was. The ending is the same. However, you're not the first person to suggest that maybe I'll be the one to sell the house. Honestly, I don't have any buyers in the 600k range these days, but wouldn't if be something if I found one?

Hi Right Trac - Wow! I think your story is even worse than mine. You worked with her 18 months and she couldn't remember your name when she went to that open house? How nice of her parents to give you closure. I'd be interested in hearing how you reacted. I imagine you didn't buy a new dress.

Mike - Thank you so much for weighing in. I was interested in how someone of your background would interpret this situation. With a rational mind, I can very easily distinguish between a higher power and his self-proclaimed messenger. But on the cellular level (where you experience trauma), the lines begin to blur.

Unfortunately, the rational mind has no jurisdiction in this space.

Fortunately, I have my age, wisdom and experience to help me cope. I will not remain stoic or create an alternate universe where nothing bad happens or people have a really good reason for hurting you. I will allow myself to fully feel the pain and soothe my inner child at the same time in whatever ridiculous methods seem appropriate at the time.

Cindy - Thank you for the virtual hug. You're a sweetie. I do have a very strong mind which, ironically, has been the source of all my troubles. It turns out your body can only take so much stress before it begins to fall apart, but my mind was convinced I could absolutely handle anything life could throw at it. That's a story for another time.

 

Thank you all so much for your support. It means the world to me. It's only been a couple of days and I'm almost back to myself already.

Come January, it may start to sting again, because these people only live a few block from me and I'll have to drive past the other agent's sign in the ground, but that's okay. At least, the homeowners are away for a few months and they'll be moving soon. I won't have to face them at religious services.

 

 

Dec 16, 2011 12:55 AM
Not a real person
San Diego, CA

Even spiritual leaders are human. With that said, I think you need a flower. How about a lovely rose for a lovely lady.

A lovely rose for a lovely lady

Dec 16, 2011 12:06 PM
Ellen Caruso
Daniel Gale Sotheby's International Realty - Glen Head, NY

Jill, you know my feeling on this...friends and family hurt the most. I saw my ex-listing seller this weekend, and glad to say his home still has not sold!

BTW see my blog for a Holiday message to you.

Dec 16, 2011 02:25 PM
Ron Marshall
Marshall Enterprises - Saint Michael, MN
Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire

Jill, I know what that is like.  The betrayal does something to you spirtually as well as emotionally and physically.  

I hope that they see the light in reading your email.  And, that they both pray about it, and realize their mistake in integrity.  

Your sweater dress is cool, but I bet it looks much better on you than on the hanger.

Dec 18, 2011 07:36 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Russel, how did you know? When I was young, I grew up in a small house that had rosebushes of every conceivable color in the backyard. My favorite color then and to this day remains peach.

Ellen - It must be torture to have to run into this man at family gatherings. At least, I should be able to say that after a few more months, he should be gone for good.

Ron - It took me a while to be able to respond to the comments on this post, but I'm feeling better now. Your first sentence explains it perfectly. The dress does look better on; the picture was awful so I got rid of it.

Dec 26, 2011 02:02 AM
Ron Marshall
Marshall Enterprises - Saint Michael, MN
Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire

Jill, I just stopped by, hoping for an update.  I was hoping that they did realize what they had done was wrong.  But....even the season didn't change their minds.  And, that is a shame.

Dec 29, 2011 09:20 AM
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices

Jill - What a sad story. And^ unfortunately, so common. It is puzzling how at tyhe last minute a word from the attorney, or accountant can easilyu change years of relationship.

Apr 20, 2013 12:15 AM