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What's Holding You Back Today?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

 

I grew up with a beagle named Tab.  He was a typical beagle.  That means a lot of things for those of us who have been beagle owners.  In my case, Tab was a barking, bellowing rabbit chasing escape artist.  If he saw an unattended door he would bolt out of it, and he would be gone for hours.  You could hear him bellowing throughout the fields behind our house, and every once in a while you would see the flick of the white tip of his tail as he tracked something.  When he returned he always smelled like something dead.  

I came home from school one day to see Tab staggering around the yard with a milk cartoon stuck on his head.  Who knows how long he had been like that, but there he was stumbling around like an intoxicated teenager after the prom.  He was always good for a belly laugh.  He was a great dog, and he was deeply loved by our family.  He actually lived to the ripe old age of 18, and we enjoyed every year.

One day, when I came home from work I realized that Tab had been put on a chain in the back yard.  He was notorious for getting into the kitchen trash when we were away.  Sometimes, he  spent pretty days in the yard.  We lived in a neighborhood with few fences and strict dog containment rules.  So, if he was outside it meant a chain at his dog house.  He didn’t seem to mind, and it kept him safe while we were gone.

This particular day he was standing in a hole he had dug, and he was barking.  He was about seventeen by then, and he had gotten a little feeble.  There he stood, barking.  That wasn’t unusual for Tab.  If he was outside he was often barking, but this day was different.  His bark had a real distressed sound to it.

 As I observed the scene, I noticed that he had gotten his chain caught on a small twig behind him.  Each time he tried to move forward the pull of the twig kept him from going very far.  He kept looking at the hole, and then I realized something.  He thought he was stuck in the hole.  The reality was something behind him was keeping him from going forward.

Isn’t that true of us.  We’re struggling, and it seems like we’re in a hole.  It seems like the hole has made us prisoners, and it’s going to keep us prisoners forever.  Tab’s hole was only about 4-6 inches deep.  Under normal conditions he would have easily walked right out of it.  But, on that day, it looked huge.  What Tab didn’t realize was that something behind him was keeping him from moving forward. 

What is keeping you from moving forward?  It might not be the situation you’re in at all.  It might be something behind you.  Maybe it’s a relationship that needs healing.  Maybe it’s an apology that was never offered or never received.  Maybe it’s forgiveness that was never extended or maybe never requested.  Maybe it is a questionable action that needs to be corrected.  Maybe the source of your struggle isn’t what you can see at all.  Maybe it’s something behind you.

 

                                                  

 

Comments(51)

Charlie Dresen
The Group, Inc - Steamboat Springs, CO
Steamboat Springs, CO e-Pro

Put a dog in the story and it immediately becomes relevant; at least for me. Very good point made Mike and it's something we all fail to stop and realize as we try to dig out of what really isn't the issue. Thanks for the wisdom as we start the new year...and so glad you had 18 wonderful years with Tab.

Jan 02, 2012 10:56 PM
Fernando Herboso - Associate Broker MD, & VA
Maxus Realty Group of Samson Properties - Clarksburg, MD
301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA

A good analogy that we all need a little help from a friend to get unstuck and go forward. . . 

Jan 02, 2012 11:01 PM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Great anology Mike. I believe, it's easier to blame our past for not moving forward, there comes a time when you need to put your past and hurts to rest and move forward. Thank you for sharing the story of Tab.

Jan 02, 2012 11:44 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Great analogy and totally true - there are all sorts of things that could hold us back - fear, etc, or things in our past that hadn't been resolved.  Wonderful thoughts to start the new year.

Jan 02, 2012 11:46 PM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566

What a great story. My Folks have always had a beagle so the Beagle BAAAYYYY is part of my days, too. 

Jan 02, 2012 11:57 PM
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

That is a great analogy!  We just adopted a beagle/terrier mix and are starting to understand what we really got ourselves into.  :)  

Jan 03, 2012 12:42 AM
Lanre-"THE REAL ESTATE FARMER" Folayan
Samson Properties - Bowie, MD
I don't make promises.I deliver results.SOLD HOMES

Whatever it is that is keeping people from moving forward,my prayer today is that they are released from the bondage that is keeping them back. Don't let nobody hold you back from accomplishing your goals and living your dream. Great blog Mike.

Jan 03, 2012 12:44 AM
Starr Black
Concord, NC
REALTOR-Concord, Charlotte, NC (RE/MAX Leading Edg

What a great post for all of us...for any area of our lives.  The analogy was wonderful, loved reading about Tab.  I understand all about escape artists.  We have one that will dig, climb, or whatever it takes to get out and have an adventure!

Jan 03, 2012 12:57 AM
Melissa Zavala
Broadpoint Properties - Escondido, CA
Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County

That is an excellent metaphor and this sounds like a great dog. Cannot believe that he lived to be 18. Wow. You must have some awesome memories.

Jan 03, 2012 01:38 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

We get stuck so that we can perhaps notice something?  I do not believe in accidents and DO beleive things happen for a reason. The Universe has a language of its own... f we listen and then if we learn....good one Mike

Jan 03, 2012 02:11 AM
Linda Jamail Marshall
Linda Marshall,Houston Texas, Linda Marshall, Realtors® - Houston, TX
Broker, ABR,QSC,RECS,ACRE - Innerloop Houston, Tex

Sounds like Tab offered alot of life lessons

Jan 03, 2012 02:45 AM
Margaret Goss
@Properties - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

Wonderful story and analogy - it's something we should be aware of.  We're no smarter than a dog sometimes (no insult to Tab, of course) when we try to figure out what's wrong.

Jan 03, 2012 04:04 AM
TODD PICCONI INLANDEMPIRE & SOUTH ORANGE COUNTY, CA
TODD PICCONI REAL ESTATE - Dana Point, CA
Personal Engagement,Precision, and Professionalism

Mike...I enjoyed reading about Tab, and your life experience with him.  Pets are certainly able to teach us alot!!

I enjoy the interactions I've had with different pets over the years and isn't it nice to see things (or be able to) from a different perspective.  I'm with Cathy (#1), it could be just a little twig holding us back...let's let it rip this year!

We can all accomplish soooo much!

Great Post and Best Wishes to You!

Jan 03, 2012 08:58 AM
Tara Skinner at Keller Williams Advantage Realty
Keller Williams Advantage Realty - Golden, CO
- Connect with us!

This is so typical of a Beagle, Mike! I cracked a smile right away. The hole I seem to be wary of is getting tunnel vision. Focusing too much on one thing does not allow you the luxury of having a broad understanding or seeing the big picture. It can be so hard to look for the way out too. Great post!

Jan 03, 2012 11:31 AM
Christine Ordze
Royal LePage Benchmark - Calgary, AB
ABR, CCS, ePro

Thanks for that story Mike, and what a sweet dog! It is something though, that we easily come up with excuses to avoid rejection, and that holds many of us back from achieving greatness. As you mentioned in your blog as well, that sometimes the things that keep us back, make us feel undeserving.

All the best for 2012!

Jan 04, 2012 01:51 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Thank you all for the great comments.  They just showed up on my computer, so please accept my apology for not getting back to you sooner.  Have a great 2012!!

Jan 04, 2012 07:54 AM
Joni Bailey
101 Main St. Realty - Huntsville, TX
Your Huntsville / Lake Livingston Area REALTOR®

Hello Mike:  I am so glad that Doug re-blogged this. Somehow I missed it on the first go around!! GREAT STUFF!!

Jan 05, 2012 05:56 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Thanks, Joni.  I appreciate you dropping by!!

Jan 05, 2012 06:01 AM
C. Lloyd McKenzie
Living Albuquerque - Albuquerque, NM
Living Albuquerque

Good Evening Mike:

What an excellent Anology! Indeed we can be our biggest obstacle at times.  When we are in a rut, real or perceived, it is often very difficult to get out.  it is very difficult get out.

Jan 05, 2012 02:47 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Well said, C. L.  Have a great Friday!

Jan 06, 2012 12:02 AM