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Trust is just four steps away.

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Mortgage and Lending with Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender NMLS# 222733 BRE 01317002

Someone once said, "I would rather be occasionally fooled than perpetually suspicious." That was a life altering quote for me and I started applying it to my life from the moment I read it. Of course it takes practice and I would frequently catch myself falling back into the trap of my own imagination until I read the book, The Four Agreements. If you have never read The Four Agreements I'll list them for you now. 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Never assume anything. 3. Never take anything personally. 4. Always do your best.

So many times I have caught myself repeating something negative for no reason or assuming someone else's motives only to find that whether I was "right" or wrong it impacted my thought process negatively. Sometimes to the point of closing doors. Plus, I wasn't as much fun to be around. Drama, Drama, Drama and totally distracted. Furthermore, anytime someone critisized me it never "stuck" when I had done my best, however, I've been ashamed of the times I hadn't and failed.

What's all this got to do with Trust? Simple, for me trust comes from within. I trust that the majority of people are trustworthy. I trust that I'm no good at assuming who is and who isn't trustworthy. I trust that if I do what I say and say what I do then I can trust my own word. I trust in the law of reciprocity. I trust that receiving negative energy is worst than not receiving positive energy. I trust that whether I think I can or whether I think I can't, I'm right. I trust that I am not above God's influence. I trust that no one is always right, even me. I trust taking accountability gives me the power of choice. More than anything I trust that doing the wrong thing will get me what I don't want.

And so on... trust comes from within and is given freely when coupled with faith.

Comments (12)

Marge Piwowarski
Phoenix AZ Horse Property - Phoenix, AZ
Phoenix AZ Horse Property, LLC

Superb Post, Jack.  Isn't it fun, seeing how each of us relates to the same challenge?  Yours is one of my favorite responses. 

Jan 06, 2012 04:43 PM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Wow, thanks Marge!!! That's the best compliment I've received (and the only one for that matter but it IS greatly appreciated just the same)

 

I agree with you entirely, it is fun and with all the different walks of life there always somebody for someone. You're my somebody, thanks.

 

p.s. I read your trust blog and I have to admit that it was much better than mine, which makes your compliment even more meaningful.

Just tellin' it like it is, thanks again Marge and Happy New Year.

 

Jan 09, 2012 05:37 AM
Ruthmarie Hicks
Keller Williams NY Realty - 120 Bloomingdale Road #101, White Plains NY 10605 - White Plains, NY

Trust to me is earned.  I guess I've been burned a few too many times. 

Jan 14, 2012 01:42 PM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Hi Ruth and thanks for responding, I see that you are a dog lover like me.

I do appreciate your comment and I too have been burned, hasn't everybody? However, I have no reason not to trust you until you've proven me otherwise.

I will admit that the level of trust goes up or down as the relationship developes. I'll trust you to be an honest and good person but that doesn't mean I'll loan you my car. So I can see where you're coming from as well.

 

Thanks Ruthmarie for taking the time to respond to my blog, I greatly appreciate your point of view.

 

BTW, Those are some great lookin' pups you've got in your picture.

 

Jack

Jan 16, 2012 03:02 AM
Beth Bourg
Adobe EchoSign - San Francisco, CA
Adobe EchoSign

Hi Jack,

 

Beth Bourg from Adobe EchoSign here... thank you for entering our contest. There's so many great posts -- stay tuned for more info about choosing the contest winner. If you have any specific questions about Adobe EchoSign, please feel free to get in touch.

 

Regards,

 

Beth

Jan 24, 2012 09:55 AM
Sharon Paxson
Sharon Paxson, Realtor® EQTY Forbes Global Properties - Newport Beach, CA
Newport Beach Real Estate

Jack - LIKE!! Great post and you are absolutely right about trusting from within!! Fabulous!

Jan 24, 2012 04:16 PM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Hi Beth, thank you for commenting on my post, and... yes, I do have quesitons about EchoSign and how it works.

Jan 25, 2012 10:47 AM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Hi Sharon and THANKS! It's always nice to hear from someone that agrees with me! I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me so.

 

Thanks Beth!

Jan 25, 2012 10:48 AM
CA COASTAL ESTATES Lauren Selinsky Perez CRS
California Coastal Estates - Aliso Viejo, CA
"Your Real Estate Broker" #oclauren

AH! I have always had issues in the department.... Right when you put your guard down and you start trusting, YOU ARE DISAPPOINTED! Sad to say.............. Well, said!

Mar 20, 2012 04:17 PM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Hi Lauren!

There's a saying I heard once that went, "I'de rather be occasionally fooled than perpitually suspicious." But I guess the real point to my blog was to pitch the 4 agreements, their is fun!

 

Thanks for responding!

~Jack

Mar 22, 2012 02:32 AM
Doyle Davison
Hawaiian Beaches Hawaii - 714-968-6767 - Huntington Beach, CA
30 years as your Concierge services listing broker

well said, everybody has their bucket list of trust.

We are always so afraid of failing and that someone will not accept our best.

Jan 02, 2015 01:47 AM
Jack Snyder
Loan Originator in Orange County for Nations Direct Mortgage, LLC, NMLS #109738 - Equal Housing Lender - San Clemente, CA
Loan Officer, San Clemente, Orange County, CA.

Ain't that the rub! Admittedly I've had a few failures that still hurt. When I expressed this to a good friend of mine, he said, "lighten up Jack, no one thinks you're perfect."

I'm still trying to understand just what he meant by that. :)

Thanks for the comment Doyle.

I used to live up Goldenwest and surfed HB exclusively while I did. Cliffs and the northside of the Pier mostly. I was in great shape back then, lot's of current!

Jan 05, 2015 01:28 AM