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My husband made dinner today!

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty, Ann Arbor, MI

Big deal, right?  Yes, it is a big deal.  This is a man raised in a family where the mother always made the meal, did all the housework but none of the yardwork or mechanical maintenance, and never learned to drive a car.  In over 30 years of marriage, my meat-addicted husband has never really embraced the greater range of food offerings beyond peanut butter and assorted sandwich fixings, barbecue, and holiday meals prepared by women.barbecue

Today, in the middle of the day while I was working on a listing contract to be signed later in the day, my husband appeared in the kitchen and noted that he was going to make some stuffing.  If I could make that Scooby Doo noise, I would do it now, because that is how I felt then.  Make stuffing?  Granted, it was from a box and I had to have him bring it to me so I could show him where the directions were, plus I had to tell him where the measuring cups were stored in the kitchen, but he was determined.  I turned and saw him leaning over the kitchen island, reading intently and decided to just GO FOR IT!

"feast"

 

 

 

I mentioned that if he took some of the chicken breasts out of the bottom drawer of the freezer and put them in a little liquid they would soon be cooked.  I further suggested he might want to take some onion, celery, and carrot, roughly chop them, and cook them in a little butter in a pan on low heat.  When the stuffing directions were complete, he could combine the vegetables and the cooked, chopped chicken with the stuffing into a casserole-type dish in one pot.  He did it all, brought me some with the remark that if I complained about anything he would never do this again.  It was good, particularly so since I did not have to make it.  He called our teenage son from the man cave in the basement and offered him some of the "feast".  After the feeding, our son commented on how proud his Dad was, that he had told him there was a meal he had made, ready to eat, and noted again that he had made it.  Our son was amused but only said that quietly to me.  So why the big deal about Dad making food?

Well, I have been in business now for 3 years, in a depressed, slow, oversupplied market where the realtors are dropping like flies.  My business has increased, despite my backward and inefficient methods.  My husband is finally seeing the light!  His salary is stagnant, dependent on his company's performance and profit, generally unrelated to his own excellent contributions to the bottom line.  I, on the other hand, have total control over my real estate fortunes - I work, I earn.  The more I work, the smarter I work, the more I earn.  My earnings are also dependent on freedom from antiquated notions of who does what around the house.  Eureka!  (ScoobyDoo sound effects would be useful here too.)  Scooby DooIt is all finally coming together.  My future earnings are unlimited and my husband is a part of that.  Thank God for a Renaissance man, even if he is a decade or two or three late.  I think I'm going to keep him anyway.                                                                   

Comments(10)

Michelle Way
AVALAR Pro Realty - Jackson, MS
ABR, GRI, WCR

Cool post...

Dec 10, 2007 11:48 AM
Herb Hamilton
RE/MAX Preferred Inc. Realtors - Portland, OR
Real Estate Broker ,CDPE, Downtown Portland

Cooking is good for the soul. I choose to cook and occasionaly will share the recipies ( especially if they are good ones). If find it fun and fascinating. I would not want to do it permantly as it would become a drag and eventually the novelty and fun would go out the door.

 

Dec 10, 2007 11:52 AM
Find a Notary Public needAnotary
QEC Internet Services - Long Beach, CA

Blessings can come at any time, from any direction.  It all goes to the bottom-line and is made of love!

Dec 10, 2007 11:53 AM
Sandi Bauman
Chico Homes Real Estate - Chico, CA
Chico CA Realtor
Yay for hubby!  My husband, over the past 3 years has become quite a proficient cook and housecleaner.  He is also a homework whiz and entertainer when the kids need it.  He too has seen the bottom line, and busts his tail to help me be as successful as I can be.  He doesn't always like it, but he does it.  The one thing he hasn't  yet mastered?  Laundry.  I gave up.  In exchange for all the other help, I will gladly do it myself!
Dec 10, 2007 11:56 AM
Christina Bennani-Persechini
Keller Williams Realty Boston North West - Lexington, MA
Realtor - The House For You
Everyone grows and evolves. I love being self-employed with the endless possibilities too!
Dec 10, 2007 11:57 AM
Susan Walters
Keller Williams Realty, Ann Arbor, MI - Ann Arbor, MI

Wow!  I popped out for milk and cereal and here you all are!  Thanks, and I would like to add that cooking is the one thing I thought my husband would never take on.  He began doing his own laundry at least two years ago and is far more efficient and timely at it than I am (our kids do their own too).  He is also the primary loader of the dishwasher and has become much more capable in many other ways too.  In the end, I wonder if it was just me, unable or unwilling to delegate.  One day I asked him why I was the only one who changed the sheets on our bed, and he replied, "Maybe I was never asked to do that before."  That was a big awakening for me!

Herb, when the novelty goes out the door, eat out for a while and the sheer expense will bring you back to realizing how much more cheaply you can make it at home, and probably better too.  Just keep watching that bank account - it's a big motivator at our house!

 

Dec 10, 2007 01:02 PM
Kris Wales
Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center - Macomb, MI
Real Estate Blog & Homes for Sale search site, Macomb County MI
He's a keeper Susan!  But I bet you knew that already :-)   My hubby loves to cook.  In fact, my sons always ask when invited for dinner "Who's cooking?"  Huh.  Now that I've typed this, I wonder if they ask because it's a reflection of my cooking...
Dec 10, 2007 08:34 PM
D B
Quakertown, PA
e-PRO, Realtor - Bucks County PA - 610-952-3578
LOL!   good story.   I liked this one!  GOod for you!
Dec 10, 2007 08:46 PM
Kathy Passarette
Creative Home Expressions - Mount Sinai, NY
L.I. Staging/Decorating
Susan ~ Congrats to your hubby!  Let's hope he'll do it again!  My husband also started doing more in the past couple of years.  I guess he realized that with my day job, my business, the house and the kids I really can only do so much!  I have found it really helpful, and I always compliment him on the meals he makes (I do want him to continue, after all!).   
Dec 11, 2007 12:26 AM
Susan Walters
Keller Williams Realty, Ann Arbor, MI - Ann Arbor, MI

Thanks Kris and Donald, and Kathy - the praise was heaped heavily after that stuffing meal. 

Dec 11, 2007 01:26 AM