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Disappointment

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Yesterday I found a political ally has changed his views and is now working on legislation I strongly oppose.   As Democrats in Idaho we have very little influence in how our state is run.  When the Idaho’s education secretary proposed then succeeded in passing three laws that hurt Idaho’s children and teachers there was a bi-partisan outcry among the populace.   The outcry was so great that the laws are up for a vote in December.  Most of my ally’s and some of my usual political adversaries were working to change the laws.  Yesterday I found that my friend is now going to be working for the other side.  I am very sad.  I was hoping that my friend would have helped us get rid of the bad legislation. 

 

 

 

So this leads us to how we handle disappointment.  In our field of real estate there is a lot of it… We have it in our personal life… We have it in our political life… So far I will admit to a pretty dismal start of my new year… 

 

 

 

I had my suitcase full of money client where I could taste that commission check.  I had a client decide it isn’t time to buy a home.  I had a listing fail inspection and the buyer walked.  I had to pull the listing and wait for repairs.  My father had a stroke and needed help on a project.  The old dog is peeing on the carpet again and her cough is coming back.  I have no obvious clients in the pipeline…  I was handling everything but my dad pretty well.  But today I am disappointed.  Perhaps I am sad because my friend seems to be what others have said in the past… But I thought better of him.   What can I do?  I need to think.  

 

 

 

How do we handle disappointment in our lives and our business?   Usually I just shrug it off and move to the next project…  I go to the next client but as February begins I enter is with a heavy heart.  Sometimes it is the move of one person.  Maybe it is the accumulation.  Maybe later today I will have figured out and have a new client.  Maybe I will work harder to help with the voter referendum.   Maybe I will drop everything and help dad in Israel in a month or so (or just visit him and his wife).  I wish I could get paid for political or social work but alas I am a democrat in Idaho and the jobs are few and poorly paid.  There is so much that could be improved if we had more money.   I guess that is true in my real personal life.  If  I sold more houses I would have a more solid future.  So how do I handle my disappointment and get on with my life and business?

I will get through it... I usually just suck it up and get on with it.  I imagine that is what I will do today... I will go to the office and try to prospect for a bit.  Does it hurt to make public disappointment?

So if you want someone who would serve you well give me a call.  I can help with their real estate needs and I will be too busy to be disappointed and my outlook will change.

 

Posted by

 Debbie Holmes

John L. Scott Real Estate

  

(208)761-2551 Email: d5holmes@msn.com

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Erv Fleishman
Realty Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Luxury Prop Specialist Realty Associates

There are two sides to every issue. Who gets to decide right or wrong. Perhaps you should ask your colleague what changed his or her mind?

Feb 01, 2012 02:35 AM
Debbie Holmes
John L. Scott - Boise, ID
Gets the job done!

I message him about the rumor being true.  He does not say and I cannot ask.  I am sure the press will ask.  It is a big story in Boise right now.  

Feb 01, 2012 02:43 AM
Anne M. Costello
Weidel Realtors - Yardley, PA

Debbie: As women we are pulled in so many directions. And then real estate pulls us in so many more. I am often guilty of trying to do too much, so I am not criticizing here, just offering empathy. I am in a wonderful new group of women where we share our professional and personal challenges. It's a networking group, and certainly we hope to get business, but having the comraderie of women has become very meaningful to me. It has brought back something to my life that I hadn't realized was missing. 

Is there any possibility of such a group or even a couple of friends in your area getting together occasionally or maybe monthly to share, talk, laugh together?

Also, regarding your friend...it is often difficult to understand why our friends and even our family can't see things the way we do. After all, aren't we always right? Of my siblings, I am the only progressive left in the family. I swear I think I was adopted.  Who are these people anyway? And how can their thoughts be so opposite of mine?

Feb 01, 2012 02:46 AM
Debbie Holmes
John L. Scott - Boise, ID
Gets the job done!

I do have coffee every monday at the flying M with some people from my old campaign.  Yes a support group for female realtors.  That would be interesting.  My father and I disagree politically I was just suprised with someone who I believed in had changed their views.

Feb 01, 2012 02:51 AM
Wallace S. Gibson, CPM
Gibson Management Group, Ltd. - Charlottesville, VA
LandlordWhisperer

How is the legislation bad for students and TEACHERS?  I never hear about real estate legislation being bad for REAL ESTATE PROFESSIONALS?

Feb 01, 2012 02:57 AM
Debbie Holmes
John L. Scott - Boise, ID
Gets the job done!

The legislation is "school reform".  It is not real estate legislation.  Very little real estate legislation would harm teachers unless it harmed people in general.  I sometimes talk about the "whole me" and part of that is that I am a former candidate for Congress in Idaho.   I was trying not to get into the details of the legislation but with handling dissapointment.  Thanks Wallace.

Feb 01, 2012 03:10 AM
Chris Lewis
Gracious Living Realty - Front Royal, VA
I want to SELL your home, not LIST it!

As you say, the only way to get over disappointment is to look forward and not back.  Getting down to some prospecting will help to focus your mind on the positive and will help to restore your pipeline.  Good luck!

Feb 01, 2012 03:22 AM
Cindy Westfall
Premiere Property Group,LLC Portland Metro & Suburbs Oregon - Tualatin, OR
ABR,GRI Your Tualatin & Portland Metro Real Estate

Hi Debbie, Sounds like you have lots that have come your way in a short time. Disappointment is something that we deal with lots in our chosen profession, and when those coinside with personal disappointments, it can shake us. I know I've had a couple of times where I had to stop and seriously think through being a real estate agent, Each time though, I come back stronger and more secure in knowing this is what I love to do. You of course will work through it, Like Chris said, look forward and be positive and good things will come. Sorry to hear about your Dad and Dog. I've been dealing with  my MIL's illness as well as my aging dog also peeing lots.. it can be hard sometimes.

Feb 01, 2012 03:37 PM