How often do you expose yourself to the world?    What a provocative question.  You and I do it every day  without ever realizing that we are doing it.   Every day when we get on our computers and start blogging, we are exposing  ourselves to the ActiveRain community and the blogosphere.  Do you let people see "the real you" or the person you want people to see.   

I joined Active Rain about six months ago, in order to start on online presence for my business.  I knew what blogging was, but I didn't have a clue what I was getting myself into.  I started joining the groups to learn what I should write about.   Find your voice, write about the community, write about the business, these were some of the responses I was receiving from different members of the community.

The caliber of writing in this community is just short of amazing.  I was in awe of the stories that were unfolding before me.  I was reading stories about Mediterranean Revival Architecture, tips on how to generate more business, and stories about some of the member's hometown.  The passion & personality of the writers would shine through on the blog posts.  I felt like I knew these people without ever meeting them.

I had been struggling with my writing because I felt like I had nothing to say or offer to the community.  Everyone always say that you should write what you know.  Sometimes I feel like a "jack of all trades and a master of none".   So when Adam Waldman announced his Inpired By Song contest, something inside me went into overdrive.  The premise of the contest was to write a post that revolved around the following subjects:  Active Rain, Real Estate, Inspiration, and Family.  You had to write your story around a favorite song that affects you on many levels.

 The song I chose for my story was "Every Day is a Winding Road", and it was one of the most personal stories I had ever written.  When I started writing, I couldn't stop.  The words & the feelings were crashing over me like a wave on the ocean.  This was a story I had kept to myself for a long time, but was compelled to write.  These were some of the comments from my blog after posting to the group:

Adam Waldman writes: 

"This was a great entry into the contest.  I never, in my wildest dreams, thought that things would get so personal.  I appreciate how much your put yourself out there.  You've given some great advice on my posts, and you've given great unintentional advice with this one.  Everyday truly is a winding road.  It makes things difficult at times, but also interesting.  Thanks again for your passion in this contest, Harold."

Paul Slaybaugh comments:

"What an amazing revelation this post was, Harold.  I thank you for not only entering our contest, but doing so in such a "warts and all" fashion.  We all have our demons.  The strong person confronts them, and becomes even stronger.  I am sorry for your loss, but happier for your gain.  Thanks for this powerful and inspirational story."

This exercise in writing was one of the most liberating experiences I have ever had.  I was able to express  myself in a way I had not done before.  People were starting to see "the real me".  I can talk about anything in the world, but being able to write about it is a huge leap for me. 

 When I write, I have to think I'm having coffee with someone, just talking.  When you see my blog post, what you see is what you get.  I hope you like what you are reading. 

The best advice I can give to anyone who is starting the journey of blogging, "Just be yourself".   Writing is about connection.  Being able to put yourself into that author's story and saying "I get it".

 

One last question I have for everyone: 

Am I seeing "the real you" when I read your blog?

 

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22 Comments on Exposing Yourself in the Rain

Yes, for sure. Over the course of this past year, I think many ActiveRain Bloggers have stepped up to another level in the quality of their posts.  The intellectual challenges of writing good posts are actually part of the fun of Blogging.

11/19/2007 01:15 PM by Bruce Hiatt (Luxury Realty Group Inc)


Sarah,

I knew you were You the first day I read your blog.  You have a natural gift.  Your thoughts & ideas just flow.  I can only aspire to improve the level of my writing in this medium.

11/19/2007 01:19 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Bruce,

It has been a challenge for me to write posts that connect with members of the AR community, and the general public as well. Some of my first posts were about as exciting watching the grass grow.   I have been having fun blogging, but I want to improve my skills as writer. 

11/19/2007 01:22 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Robert

 We have found with all of our agents that the more you write the better you get.  We find we keep challenging ourselves to be better writers and to attract the type of buyers or sellers we want to hire our services.  If we look back on our posts from over a year ago, they are substantially different than the ones we write today.  Some of our agents did hire writing coaches and others were just natural at it.  Like any skill, it takes development and constant attention for improvement.

11/19/2007 01:35 PM by Bruce Hiatt (Luxury Realty Group Inc)


Sarah,

I am not "up" on my text-speak...MWA???   TTFN...

11/19/2007 01:48 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


MWA =cyber kiss.  MWA!!!!  (Just like the sound.)

11/19/2007 03:52 PM by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows)


Sarah,

Now I get it!!!  Just a little slow on the uptake. 

11/19/2007 04:17 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


I had to have it explained to me, too.  :o)

11/19/2007 04:27 PM by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows)


Wow, what a courageous and brave man you are.  Too go through so much and make the difficult decisions you had to make then to share your story.

To answer your question:  Not completely.  What you see on AR is a watered down version of me simply because I am not a Realtor but an Assistant and I represent someone else so I try to keep myself in check and not say or do anything that would look bad on the people I work for.  I do this out of respect for them and for myself.  It actually helps me to think twice and slow down regarding my thoughts and opinions.

I think the personality still comes through though.  Y'all see a bit of the sarcasm and humor, I hope. hehe

I'm also fairly new to AR so still getting my feet wet, so to speak.

11/19/2007 04:43 PM by Diana Walkosak (Assistant Per Project)


Diana,

Whether it's watered down or the real deal, when I read someone's blog, I want to get a sense of who they are.  I want to be moved, angered, entertained, and informed.  I want people to be real & honest.  When I meet these people in the real world, I want them to be exactly as their online persona.

It takes courage to "put yourself out there" in the blogosphere.  Not everyone can do what we do here in Active Rain or any other blog platform.

I read your blog, and I liked what you had to say.  Whether you are newbie or a seasoned pro, we all just need to be ourselves. 

 

 

11/19/2007 05:17 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Well to be honest what you see is what you get.  It's not much, but I too am learning and growing with this whole "Blog" thing! :)

11/19/2007 05:28 PM by Jason Botelho (Keller Williams Utah Realtors)


Jason,

Same here, what you see is what you get.  Don't sell yourself short, be true to yourself and say what you have to say.  Everything else will fall into place.

 

11/19/2007 10:10 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


HAROLD:  You did a great job in the contest, and this was another great one.  It's important to let people know who you are if you are here to generate business.  People do business with people that they like and trust.  This goes for referrals and consumers alike.  I use my blog to let people know who I am, and how I do business.  The members only stuff is where I bond with the other agents on both real estate and non-real estate topics.  Nice job on this one, Harold.

11/29/2007 07:06 AM by Adam Waldman - Long Island REALTORĀ® (RE/MAX Best)


Adam,

Thank you so much for your kind words.  The Inspired By Song contest you created helped to expand my horizons as a writer.  I amazed how many great writers there are in Active Rain, and how I can & learn from the experience I gain by reading these well-written words of wisdom.

11/29/2007 11:36 AM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Harold - I gotta say, for better or worse, you are most definately seeing the real me in my posts.  I am really starting to love your contributions here on Active-Rain as well!

11/30/2007 09:22 AM by Jason Sardi, Pennsylvania Mortgage Broker (First Choice Equity Group Inc.)


Jason,

I had no doubt that I was seeing the real Sardi when I read your posts.  You don't pull any punches, and you make me laugh with some of your writings.  You have a way with words.  Keep up the excellent work!! 

11/30/2007 10:39 AM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Great thoughts here, Harold.  I'm a full disclosure blogger.  If we only write about the positive experiences or our astounding abilities and knowledge without addressing our failures, the audience won't believe us. Each one of us has frailties of the human condition, so what good does it do to hide them?  Tell me everything there is to know about Real Estate, but you better show me yourself too or I will just tune it out. How can you weigh the information with being comfortable with the source? You did a magnificent job in the contest with laying it out there for others to see.  It makes the rest of your blog that much more trustworthy.  Great job.

12/01/2007 03:50 PM by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives)


Paul,

Thank you for your comments.  I can get a sense of a person from their writings, and I keep coming back to your blog for more of your wit & humor.  It takes a special writer to make me roll on the floor with laughter!!  Have a great week.

12/02/2007 11:13 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


Harold ~ in many ways it would seem like an obvious question wouldn't it?   I know of nothing different.  I type what I feel, and say it as it emerges from my fingertips to the key board (or lips to the ear)- many years ago, I worked with a woman who used to call me "Short Stuff" - (I'm under 5' and that's all I will say about that) but she had a dry wit and a sense of humor that made you love her as soon as she entered the room.   Whenever she asked me something I simply spoke the truth.  It never occurred to me to offer something different.  So one day, she said to me "Short Stuff, I'm going to give you some advice.   You are way too honest to survive through life the way you are - so if you remember nothing, remember this -'admit nothing, deny everything, and call and attorney.' "   While I have always remembered those words, I have maintained my true essence.  Sometimes, I feel awfully naive', don't think quickly on my feet to offer something less than the truth and have no regrets.   Having said, that, there is a lot to be said for those who do think quickly on their feet - sometimes it's called a finesse.   But hopefully, here on AR, what you see is what you get.  I like to think I'm not all that unique.

I'm looking forward to purusing you other posts.

12/03/2007 07:02 PM by Linda Peters (Franklin American Mortgage Company)


Linda,

Thank you for your insightful comments.  Blogging is such a new medium for me, that Im still learning the ropes as I go along.

I read your post, Impressions of AR from a newbie.  I liked what you had to say.  A bride is still a newlywed for nearly a year, so Im a still a newbie after a year because I am still learning?  Like you said, we all have to jump in feet first.  Have a great day.

 

12/04/2007 12:01 PM by Harold Watts' Palm Springs Real Estate Blog (Scott Lyle Realtors)


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