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Don't steal the show

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Real Estate Agent with Majestic Properties 3061802

show offIt is so important, as Realtors, to be respectful of other agents at all times.  This past weekend I had a couple of experiences when taking buyers to see different listings and want to point out a couple of scenarios thinking this will help a lot of us.

I will raise some important questions for you to think about:  

  • -how do you greet other agents when they show your listings?  
  • -Do you direct your attention to their customer directly or do you ask the agent for permission to address them? 
  • -Do you let them walk around the property or do you grab their hand and show them in the order you deem necessary?

I was showing a property of an agent I had not met before; he is not a local agent and does not live in the area.  This guy greeted my customers without greeting me, and introduced himself very aggressively, without ever shaking my hand.  He proceeded to show the property and to talk directly to my customers and show the house without ever giving me eye contact or even asking if I mind.  He even began telling them about the area without even asking if they were interested in his opinion (granted- the guy doesn't even work the area, what expert could he be?).  A lot of you are probably reading this thinking, "sooo, what's the big deal?" - Here's my answer:

Common sense dictates that if a customer is working with an agent, it's because they feel comfortable with them, it is not good business sense to push your aggressive personality without first introducing yourself to the buyers' agent, and without first asking the agent if it is ok to show the property.  I have never understood why some agents have a fixation with walking people around a house saying "this is the bathroom, this is the kitchen, this is the pool", isn't that obvious?  I like to follow the customers and answer any questions they may have and in the process point out features like "Limestone floors, Philippe Stark fixtures, Carrara Marble, hurricane impact windows......etc".  The worst part is that if you have many listings in a particular area and you don't make a buyers' agent feel comfortable, what are the chances they will bring buyers back to your listings?  The other negative aspect is that buyers might be so turned off by the listing agent's personality that no matter how perfect the house may be, many will not be able to get past the pushy personality.vanity

I like to do Broker's opens to expose our listings to agents, so that when they come back, they feel comfortable showing the home and seem like the expert they were hired to be.  I'm there to answer questions, not to steal the show.  Trying to steal the show is rude and shows no class.

So what have we learned from this?  Always address the other agent first, they are the ones bringing you business, you need to make them feel comfortable if you plan on working with them again or at all.  There is no room for vanity, it is not a battle of the egos, think of the customer and the transaction.  Be respectful, show some class, you will be more successful in your business, I promise.

Comments(53)

Nick M.
Certified Residential Appraiser- West Palm Beach Real Estate - West Palm Beach, FL
Realtor-Appraiser in West Palm-South Florida Real Estate Appraiser

Great post.. isn't always strange when the agent comes in and is expecting you to show their clients the home? As in, 'you know the home beter than me'.. It astounds me..  Well, I will admit that I took a listing that was agent must acompany. It was very close to my house, where I work from so I agreed. not high end, nothing special.. they just refused to use a lock box. When the agents come, we would exchange cards and then they looked to me to show it.  -Dude, the room with a bed is a bedroom. The one with the fridge is the kichen.. hello??    I'm going to stay quiet like Bryant... and sit in he car. After all, I have all those hidden microphones planted thoughout the house.. say something and I know about it.. (sorry.. couldn't resist a little humor).  -thanks for posting Ines. I think I got the first questions right!

Dec 21, 2006 01:21 AM
No Way

Right on Ines -

Here is what I do as a listing agent who accompanies showings. I first give the buyer agent my card and any other info about the property. Then the buyer agent give the info to their buyer.Second I ask if they want me to show them the property or would the buyer agent prefer to do this. I am there to answer questions and thank them for viewing the property.

Dec 21, 2006 01:29 AM
Lenn Harley
Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate - Leesburg, VA
Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland

NO ONE SPEAKS TO MY BUYERS.  NO ONE.

If an agent or builder's rep tries to address my buyer/clients directly, I interrupt them with

"Excuse me, xxxxxx, I'm not a potted plant"  Please don't try to sell yourself to my buyer. 

Of course, I always counsel my buyers that, if anyone tries to speak directly to them about anything except to answer a direct question from the buyer, they are to refer the agent, representative to me, their agent.

My buyers are very thankful to me for taking this responsibility.  They know I know what I'm taking about.  I have warned them that any thing they discuss with a seller's rep may jeopardize their negotiating position.

THEY LISTEN TO THAT.

Lenn 

 

Dec 21, 2006 01:32 AM
Jay McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Exeter, NH
Real Estate Broker

Hi Ines, I have a listing now that I have to accompany and I always approach the agent and introduce myself and hand the agent the listing package and tell them to feel free to look at the home. I will just follow and try and stay out of the way.

I will point out features that they seem to overlook as they are leaving the room and I will make sure I am available for any questions.

Thanks Jay

Dec 21, 2006 01:47 AM
Jim & Maria Hart
Brand Name Real Estate - Charleston, SC
Charleston, SC Real Estate
Thanks for the post. I think if we all remember "The Golden Rule", life would be so much easier for all of us. Merry Christmas
Dec 21, 2006 02:07 AM
Michael S. Mackey
CENTURY 21 All Islands - Mililani, HI
REALTOR ABR, CRS, GRI, RSPS
I rarely have experienced such obviously dense agents, but when I have it makes for a few laughs with my clients afterward. When leaving , I say "this is my car, that's the door, there's the seat".
Dec 21, 2006 02:24 AM
Anonymous
Sharon Kotula

WOW.

Incredibly unprofessional AND rude! 

Reading through some of the other comments, it's no wonder that our profession seems to get bad press on occasion.....I'm certain the 'bad stories' spread like wildfire, but the monumentally-larger percentage of perfect transactions are 'nothing special' worth talking about in the eyes of the public.....

 

Dec 21, 2006 03:37 AM
#40
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Nick - Dude!  I always love your comments and glad to see you're back to the first person.

Rick - your way is the right way - some of us are a little more involved than others, but it's important to alwyas address the buyer's agent.  Depending on the complexity of the property, I sometimes offer to show the house to the agent.

Lenn - I LOVE your strong stance.....that's exactly what some of these people need, someone to come right out and put them in their place.

Jay - this particular guy, gave his flyer with all of his contact information, directly to my buyers.  They turned around and gave it to me (that should have been his first hint) - at the end of the "touch-n-feel-tour" he said "let me know if you have any questions after we leave" - my customers responded "do not worry, we'll have Ines call you" - I did not have to defend my territory, my loyal customers did all the work.

Jim & Maria - Merry Christmas to you - Maybe NAR should hand out a basic set of rules to agents when they get licensed and when they renew as a refresher.

Michael - I will have to borrow your idea, that would definitely crack anyone up!

Sharon - thanks for stopping by, I think for the most part, our profession is good but there are always a few bad apples that make the rest of us look bad.

 

 

Dec 21, 2006 04:51 AM
Rich Jacobson
Fathom Realty West Sound - Poulsbo, WA
Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker
Ines - you are absolutely right. One of the great things about this platform is the value of learning from each other, especially the nuances that exist in each individual market. Thanks for a great reminder!
Dec 21, 2006 04:54 AM
Dena Stevens
Rocky Mountain Realty - Canon City, CO
Putting The Real Into Realtor Since 2004
I'm with you and Marianna, I introduce myself and back off. If a question is directed to me I try to answer it and back off. "Your agent can help you with that" attitude is where I stand, but if I'm there and can help so be it.
Dec 21, 2006 06:39 AM
Kaushik Sirkar
Call Realty, Inc. - Chandler, AZ
Some agents are just too pushy - and it serves no purpose.  It reminds me of a post on here a while back where the seller was at home for a showing and tried WAY too hard to make the sell.  The funny thing was, the buyer wanted the house, but backed off because of the seller!
Dec 21, 2006 06:41 AM
Marisa Ladd
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Austin, TX Real Estate
Very rude.  We don't often have the listing agent present for showings (thank goodness) in my market but if I happen to be holding a house open and an agent brings a buyer, I make myself scarce.  It's just common courtesy.  
Dec 21, 2006 07:02 AM
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Don - I'm glad all of us here are on the same page - how do we distribute our opinion to those that continuously make the same mistake.

Dena - wouldn't it be funny to lift a "BACK OFF" flag to those that break the "unwritten rules"

Kaushik - pushy is not good - pushy is bad - that's why you should never sell your own property.

Marisa - I'm starting to wonder why Miami is different than the rest of the markets around the US.  Why is it standard here to have the listing agent present at showings?  I can tell you that in the lower end properties, lockboxes are more common (I'm talking about properties priced at $250 and below).  Thanks for stopping by, and glad to hear you agree.

Dec 21, 2006 07:17 AM
Alexander Harb
Knights Investing - Mesquite, TX
Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing

Agents need to work together...not engage in a battle of egos to see who shines the brightest or looks the best....

=-P

The BEST agents I have worked with WORKED with me to get a transaction done...not with themselves....

;-D =-D

Dec 21, 2006 07:48 AM
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Alexander - that's exactly what it is - it's a battle of egos.....and we have HUGE egos here in Miami...sometimes they are so big, they don't fit through the door. 

Dec 21, 2006 09:48 AM
Mark Flanders
Consulting - Silverdale, WA

What's the big deal?

Common courtesy. Courtesy, especially has always been a big deal to professionals. This is a great post and a timely reminder. I know I have stepped on professional toes at times because I temporarily forgot my courtesy.

Dec 21, 2006 12:52 PM
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Mark - it takes a big man (or woman) to recognize his errors - I'm sure we can all think back on at least one occasion where we have overstepped our boundaries.  Let's be aware and correct.

Dec 21, 2006 01:02 PM
Carole Cohen
Howard Hanna Cleveland City Office - Cleveland, OH
Realtor, ePRO

Ines maybe it's a Cleveland thing; we do have people who can be rude, but they are very much in the minority. Truly, there is a real camaraderie among agents here. Now there are a few offices that tend to hang with each other because they are in the same company (this affects which homes they tour) but most of us get along with each other, are courteous to each other and professional.

The only real issue I can think of is not getting calls back when I want to show the home, and the MLS says 'call lister.' THAT aggravates me.

As to Jeff's comment about 'this is the bathroom, this is the kitchen?' lol.  These are the same agents that say in the mls description 'seller wants to sell'

Dec 21, 2006 04:04 PM
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL

Carole - just last night I had an agent ask my buyers if they had seen one of his listings.  The buyer turns around and says, "Why haven't we seen that one" - It is so frustrating because not only does it make me look bad, but now we're back to square one with an undecisive buyer.  PLEASE REFRAIN FROM TALKING TO MY BUYERS!!!  My brother-in-law lives in Cleveland (Avon), and my mom and dad lived there for 4 years not long ago.

Caron - I'm glad you have had good experiences and I truly hope you never have bad ones.

Dec 22, 2006 12:31 AM
Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate
Majestic Properties - Miami Beach, FL
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RICH!
Dec 22, 2006 12:31 AM