He She Was Convinced He She Had It Under Control

A couple of things crossed my mind as I read Mel's post.  One is a saying I've long-used yet seldom followed:  We work to live- we don't live to work.  I guess I've got too much of my mother's influence in me- she being the one of 62 years and holding down 2 full-time jobs.  I often spend 2 full-time jobs' worth of hours on one job and suffer some fairly serious consequences for it.

I'm somewhat of a walking paradox, you see.  43 years old and never had the flu.  Never had strep throat, never bronchitis.  No childhood diseases like chicken pox that I know would really mess me up today.

As I've spoken of before, I do have epilepsy, though.  And narcolepsy.  And sleep apnea.  And a peripheral mononeuropathy that doesn't serve my right leg too well.

The narcolepsy's gotten worse and/or my tolerance for my medication has gotten to high, and I can't stay awake for anything.  I push, push, push, yet can't get anything done. 

My body's a wreck and so are my finances- yet I know I have to remember that I'm not in control of a dang thing.  It's a daily struggle, and one I hope all will pray I pull out of at some point.

He She Was Convinced He She Had It Under Control

The other thing that I've thought about here is this:  as Americans, we need to remember that our women are stressed, too. 

The days of Dad being Mr. Sole Provider as Mom hangs out at home cleaning until it's time to get dinner ready have long passed us by.  Heck, there are far, far too many homes where Dad hasn't bothered to stick around and take care of his kids and their mother period- and the woman's lucky when she can count on other family members to pick up that loser's slack.

Aside from simply sticking around, though, guys, we have two jobs to handle (no pun intended):

1)  We must realize that women can have work-related stress, too- and suffer all its consequences, and

2)  We must create an environment where women know that we know it- and that slowing down is OK sometimes.

We're still working on gender equity across a number of fronts, America.  We look to instill it in our daughters' heads that it's OK to be whatever they want to be in life- and that'll allow them to live more successful ives.  But we also need to instill in them the knowledge that it's OK to slow down, too- for that's what will help them live longer lives.

He She Was Convinced He She Had It Under Control

Via Mel Peterson - The Naked Blogger (Real Estate Cafe LLC):

Melinda Peterson was convinced...

She was convinced she had it under control... or so she thought!  Sometimes life deals you a bad deck and you still have to play it...

For the past couple of months, my heart has been beating over 100+ beats a minute, all day, every day.  It's like running a marathon 24/7.  You'd think I would've noticed when I was short of breath and totally exhausted... but no, I just kept on running. 

I had a real estate business to run, I had an MLS to run, I had a restaurant to run.  After awhile, you simply run out of energy to keep on running.  Have you ever felt that way?  I have, but mostly because of my Graves Disease.  It has a mind of it's own and it raises its ugly head when I least expect it.  I was convinced I had it under control, but it taught me a big lesson these last few weeks and now I'm paying attention.

For the past 5 years, I've managed my disease without medication through a healthy lifestyle. Although, it's difficult to maintain a stress-free life when you're responsible for so many working parts.  Last week, my doctor told me that my disease was in a toxic stage and if I didn't take the meds it could be life threatening.  That got my attention!  Add a couple of tumors to that equation and you've got a pretty alarming wake-up call.  

My body was in a HYPER state and it needed rest.  I've spent the last 10 days resting and re-evaluating my crazy schedule.  Sometimes, we get so damn busy that we forget to pay attention to what our miraculous bodies are telling us.  Some of you have been there and done that and you know exactly what I'm talking about.  Don't be like me and wait until you're hit over the head with a sledge hammer to get it (some of us are slow learners).  Our business and our busyness can wait... our health cannot.  Take care of yourself... I'm going to ;)  

 

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6 Comments on She Was Convinced She Had It Under Control...

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1,405,825 Points 54 Featured Posts Outside Blog Called Shot Master

Some think that it is jsut being over tired.  While that can be a factor...women can suffer even more with stress than the guys.
4:35pm • #1
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Thank you kindly for the re-post Dennis!  Sometimes, I forget to give my wonder woman cape a rest ;)  Sounds like you are struggling with a health issues too.  I hope you can find a happy medium to wellness.  In the meantime, may be both look forward to sunnier days ahead!
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Hi, William:  Thank you for stopping by here.  I hope I've done Mel's post justice- and you're right about women sometimes having it worse.  True story:  A good friend of mine from my time in Virginia got a call from his family back home in Oklahoma.  His mother was really ill and  they'd taken her to the ER.  She finally agreed to go, after she'd coughed up blood for 3 weeks.  She'd never smoked, yet they sent her right from the ER to ICU to prep for a surgery to remove a softball-sized tumor in a lung.  My buddy called to tell me about it as he was heading to the airport- hoping to get from D.C. to Oklahoma City in time to see his mom one last time.  He made it- but not by much.  He sent me a text that he didn't think she had more than an hour or so to live- and that ended up being the case.  Here's the thing, though:    My buddy spoke with the neighbor across the street, who told him "Yeah, I figured something really bad must've been wrong with your mom- 'cause I saw your dad cutting the grass!"  It was a tumor that ultimately killed one heck of a lady just over 60 years old- but it was an environment much older than that that kept an "I'll be alright" mentality in her head and didn't do her any favors, either.
8:17pm • #3
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Hi, Mel:  Thank you for dropping by my place here.  I'm glad I did right by your post- now, I need to learn a little more about Grave's.  My step-mom had Huntington's, and I surely pray Grave's isn't as devastating a condition as that.  Brighter days are surely ahead- and I'll be watching for your good news as you improve!
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A time for work and a time for play.  Some people just cannot get a balancing act between them.  There are a lot of working moms in the real estate profession and I often wonder how that affects their kids. Especially if mom is gone most nights and weekends showing properties and such. Just thankful to be blessed I guess.
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Hi, Rob:  Thank you for stopping by, and for your typically sound comment and contribution.

One thing I think we fail to discuss enough is the toll that a woman (or women) working outside the home takes on them or any kids they may have.  We've always looked at things as "Dad's stressed.  Dad's had a tough day at work.  Leave Dad alone and let him unwind a bit before you go jumping on his back for a ride".

Women themselves will very well have a better opinion of this than I, but it seems to me that we as a nation spend a ton of time (and justifiably so) on helping women achieve workplace equality- yet we don't really spend any time on (or even address) the corresponding issue of "stress equality" that comes along with it.
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