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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

I love being a dad.  With two boys, I get plenty of opportunities to do things that guys do because my guys want to do them.  When my oldest son was old enough to have his own car, we bought him one. 

It was 2006, and he was 16.  I found a great car with really bad brakes.  Perfect.  That's exactly what he needed.  I took it for a test drive, made an offer and took it home.  What can you do with a car with bad brakes?  Learn how to fix brakes.

Being a homeschooling family, everything is school. (We're not all old Share what you knowhippies with kids, even though . . . .)  I told my boys early on that I would teach them how to maintain and work on their own cars.  I didn't want them to be at the mercy of any car repair shop even if they chose to take their cars to a shop.  So, I bought a car with bad brakes for my son and we set out to work. 

My son and I put the car on jacks stands (very shade tree mechanic-ish), and we pulled the first wheel.  Whew!  It was bad.  Not only did it have bad brakes, but it had bad rotors that were broken away from the hubs.  The wheels were actually holding the brakes on the car.  Awesome!  It was better/worse than I thought.

We went to a parts store, bought rotors and disc brake pads for four wheels and set out to learn how to do brakes.  A previous owner brake job had broken the mounting screws off the rotors so we had to move the rotors to a new location on the hub, drill out and tap new threaded screw holes and remount the rotors.  Then we replaced the disc brake pads, re-positioned them and re-installed the wheel.  One down.

I did the first one with step by step explanations to my son.  Then, I turned my 16 year old loose on the other three.  I watched with each wheel.  Once the last one was done, I took it for a drive.  Brakes! 

Share what you knowA couple years later, I came home from work and my driveway looked like a teenage shade tree garage.  My son, was now 19.  He was teaching one of his friends how to do brakes.  He did the same thing.  He did the first one with explanations, and his friend did the next three. 

No matter what you know, someone can benefit from it.  Pass it on with the understanding that the recipient pass it on.  Knowledge is a gift that you can always share with anyone anytime.  

Comments(22)

Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

This is a great story. Isn't it nice when you see your kids doing something the way you taught them? It really means something to me when I see my daughter do that.

Feb 23, 2012 10:55 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

It really does, Debbie.  One of those internal smiles that parents get to enjoy.  

Feb 23, 2012 11:10 AM
Jim Patton
Aspire Home Real Estate 209-404-0816 - Modesto, CA
Realtor - Stanislaus ,Merced, San Joaquin Counties

Great story Mike.  I have replaced my own brakes too, but that was a long time ago.  Thanks for sharing.

Feb 23, 2012 11:26 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

What a great story and lesson Mike.  You son is lucky to have you as his Dad and of course it goes both ways!

Feb 23, 2012 11:36 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

Hi Mike, your story reminds me of when my grandmother, mother and sister all wanted to teach me how to cook and knit. Both didn't work out so well .. but at least they tried ;-) It's a beautiful thing to see Amelie trying to teach her little sister something that I taught her. It happens quite frequently that she'll tell her how to say something "right" in German .. right or wrong, it's awesome!

Feb 23, 2012 11:45 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Thanks, Jim.  Brake repairs are like a family reunion around here.  8-)

He's a great kid, Anna.  He called tonight because his car was acting funny.  That's what inspired my blog.  

So, I should avoid dinner at the Bedard house, Andrea?  8-)  You got to love watching the little ones.  

Feb 23, 2012 11:56 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Mike, you are a good father!  I finally found a mechanic who I am confident probably won't cheat me.  I love it that your son was able to share the knowledge.

Feb 23, 2012 12:09 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

He is a great friend to have.  He always makes sure his buddies are covered.  Thanks for the kudos!

Feb 23, 2012 12:10 PM
Doug Bullwinkel
E Mortgage Capital, Inc. NMLS 1416824 - Roseville, CA
Mortgage Loan Officer NMLS #281609

Teaching your kids to be self sufficient is the greatest gift you can give them.  You have set the standard as a great role model for them to follow.  I know they will always remember the valuable lessons you have taught them.

Feb 23, 2012 12:12 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

I hope so, Doug.  I feel privileged to have had that role in their lives.  

Feb 23, 2012 12:15 PM
David Shamansky
US Mortgages - David Shamansky - Highlands Ranch, CO
Creative, Aggressive & 560 FICO - OK, Colorado Mtg

goooooreat post on paying it forward. In this case to your own kid but how nice is itto see that learning experience shared with his peers!

Kudos my friend

Feb 23, 2012 12:47 PM
Pacita Dimacali
Alain Pinel - Oakland, CA
Alameda/Contra Costa Counties CA

Mike

And you're a mechanic, too?

Your kids are so lucky that you have so much knowledge to share. And you're so lucky your kids are taking after you :)

Feb 23, 2012 03:09 PM
Tom Arstingstall, General Contractor, Dry Rot, Water Damage Sacramento, El Dorado County - (916) 765-5366
Dry Rot and Water Damage www.tromlerconstruction.com Mobile - 916-765-5366 - Placerville, CA
General Contractor, Dry Rot and Water Damage

Mike, we all have abilities that we can pass onto others, this post is a perfect example of that. Really enjoyed the post.

Feb 23, 2012 05:04 PM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Your boys are so lucky to have you as their Dad.............this kind of education is priceless Mike.  Great story!

Feb 23, 2012 07:14 PM
Conrad Allen
Re/Max Professional Associates - Webster, MA
Webster, Ma, Realtor

Hi Mike.  Teaching your boys how to be self sufficient is a wonderful lesson.

Feb 23, 2012 08:10 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Thanks, David.  It has been fun watching him tackle his car.  He blew off a serpentine belt last night.  He just went and bought one and put it on.  No worries at all.  

Nah, not a mechanic, Pacita, but I have learned a lot over the years.  Ironically, my bio-dad was.  I guess I get it honestly.  

Thanks, Tom.  Absolutley true.  All of us know something we can pass on to someone else.  

Thanks, Roger.  It's fun watching them learn and now pass on to others.  

That was the goal, Conrad.  I don't care if they take their cars to a shop, have a carpet shampooing company come in to do their carpets or whatever.  I just want them to have the ability to do themselves and then make the decision as to how they are going to do it.

Feb 23, 2012 08:27 PM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I've known a couple of families who chose to homeschool, although less common on L.I.  That's quite an undertaking. I imagine your wife was primarily in charge. It seems like she did a most excellent job.

Feb 24, 2012 05:06 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

She did, Jill.  When she said she wanted to homeschool our kids we didn't even have kids.  I had no idea what she was talking about.  She's very brainy, so I wasn't concerned about what they would learn.  I got to do the fun stuff.  Such as, they both built their own computers from two piles of parts when they were 5 and 7.  I taught them to play sports, work on cars, invest in stocks, mutual funds and real estate and do household repairs.  Buffy (my wife) did all the academic studies.  They learned Spanish, sign language and traveled to foreign countries as part of their school days.  Overall, they had a great experience.  

Feb 24, 2012 05:24 AM
Conrad Allen
Re/Max Professional Associates - Webster, MA
Webster, Ma, Realtor

Teaching your kids how to fish instead of catching the fish for them is so important Mike.

Feb 24, 2012 07:52 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

So true, Conrad.  Have a great weekend!

Feb 24, 2012 08:39 PM