What you can learn from kids about real estate

The focus of my blog is usually on adults looking for Princeton homes for sale, and how to buy and sell real estate in our area. My son recently showed me that we could learn a lot by stepping away from the familiar and looking at the real estate from a different perspective.

This time it was in Biloxi Mississippi, where he went with a religious youth group to help in the rebuilding effort. Of course, being like any other mommy who missed her son, I wrote a post about it and promised to report the results.

Rebuilding Biloxi

Today the kids who went on the trip spoke about it during the services in our synagogue. Their job in Biloxi was to paint the Salvation Army volunteer headquarters. The facility is used to provide housing and meals for the volunteers that come from all over the country.


The kids reported painting the rooms “cheery colors” so volunteers would feel better doing their job. They met several amazing people. One guy, a local reporter, told them that he was not religious before Katrina. He stayed to provide coverage and at the end found himself a believer.

Another person told them that he was not from the area. After Katrina he decided to go Biloxi and work as a volunteer. He is a Christian and he felt that he had a good life and it was time now for him to help others.

One boy said he could not participate in the work of the group because his father had a heart attack and he had to go back home. He was amazed when the next day the kids called not only to find out how his father was doing, but also to ask what he wanted for them to write on the wall, where the volunteers can leave their handprints and messages.


The kids decided instead of handprints to have a symbol that in our tradition keeps away an evil eye –it looks like a hand. Inside this hand my son wrote his name and words “To Life”.

The kids believe that their messages are visible not just to the other volunteers, and that the Salvation Army volunteer headquarters will now be under His watch and protection.

Today I learned from my son that you are never too young or too old to go outside of the familiar, to relate to the suffering of    This mommy loves her son others, to give a helping hand, to learn from our kids and to celebrate life.

Here is To Life!


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15 Comments on What you can learn from kids about real estate

Hi  Faina,

Colleen Fischesser, Maple Valley WA REaltor

Thanks for sharing such an inspirational story. I agree, there is a lot we can learn from kids, who live their lives with out the complicated pre-conceptions we devlop over the years.

Last month, my son turned to me and said, "Mom, instead of complaining about the market, why don't you do something to turn it around." I looked at him with my mouth open for a few seconds and then simply said, "you're absolutely right". I have adopted a more positive outlook and find it endearing that he thinks I am endowed with the super power to turn a National Housing downturn around all by myself!

 www.ColleenFish.com  www.MapleVAlleyRealEstate.com

 

 

12/01/2007 04:08 PM by Maple Valley WA Broker/Owner Colleen Fischesser 425-432-5400 (RE/MAX Select Real Estate)


Faina, please remember to pass on the thanks of everyone affected by Katrina to your son and his group.  It is caring volunteers like them that are helping us on the road to recovery!  ((HUGS)) to them all!!!

12/01/2007 04:26 PM by Lisa Heindel, New Orleans West Bank Real Estate (Latter & Blum Inc. Realtors)


Hi Faina,

This is a beautiful story about your son and his efforts with the group of volunteers. You must be so proud of him ....he is not only very wise,  he also has a very big heart and giving nature. I believe he takes after his Mom.

((-:

Jo 

12/01/2007 05:06 PM by Jo-Anne Smith-Belleville, Quinte and Prince Edward Region Real Estate, Ont. (Royal Lepage Proalliance Realty, Brokerage)


Your son is discovering through experience how good like can be.  He will not forget this experience, ever.  Please tell him the Rainers are proud of his work.  You are raising your boy, well

L'Chaim, Faina!

12/01/2007 08:37 PM by Elaine Hanson, REALTORĀ® ~ Topanga, CA Real Estate Specialist (Pritchett-Rapf & Assoc. Realtors, Topanga)


Coleen - some kids attribute superpowers to their parents, some think "you are just plain mommy" (that's my kids). But they all have the innocence and the positive outlook that we as adults need more of. Thanks for your comment.

 Lisa - thank you so much - I will definitely pass on your words. My son was so taken by the strengths of the people there. Everywhere they went, they were welcomed and the kids felt that their work mattered.

12/01/2007 09:11 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


Jo - my son is a good, kind and giving person. He is a loyal friend and is always willing to help. He was always like that - I can't claim any part in his good qualities. Doing his homework is not one of his strengths and priorities. It's a challenge I have to deal with every day. 

Thank you for your wonderfully kind words. 

12/01/2007 09:19 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


Elaine - my husband prevailed to allow my son to go and he was right. I do the best I know how for my kids and question myself all the time if I am doing enough. Thanks for the translation - I think the kids wrote it in Hebrew.

12/01/2007 09:26 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


Faina- What a wonderful post on what we can learn from our kids. My 5 year old son tells me, don't say that if you don't want it to come true." when I say something negative or complain about something. He is amazing. I am glad that your son had this amazing experience to help others that are in need. It gives him such a better perspective on life than just our comforts we enjoy every day. Katerina

12/02/2007 12:26 AM by Nestor & Katerina Gasset, RealtorsĀ® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.)


FAINA:  I've written a number of posts about the things that I've learned from kids.  They are great teachers because they lead by example.  Most times, they don't even know that they're teaching us a lesson, so it's always fresh and interesting.  This was a nice story.

12/02/2007 10:07 AM by Adam Waldman - Long Island REALTORĀ® (RE/MAX Best)


Faina-Now aren't you glad you let him go :) :)  this was a perfect follow-up to his trip, and as expected those that give receive even more in return......I love to hear the stories of people that give back to communities, whether their own, or others.  Sounds like a mighty proud mother wrote this Post :)

12/02/2007 01:38 PM by Kathy McGraw ~ Calif Broker (CELLing Realty)


Katerina - it could be that as adults we over analyze things and not everything in life can be sorted out with analytics. Like they say -"from the mouth of the babes". Thanks, I know you are an "super-mom".

Adam - I am sure my son has no idea that this is what I am thinking, and he would be probably very surprised to read this. A lot of wht he hears from me is preaching about how he should do better. May be dads are different in this regard and are less nudging.

12/02/2007 01:58 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


Kathy - I am glad I let him go. That is not to say that it's not a daily struggle and I am not sure how it's going to play out.  At the end of the day I know that he is a good boy and that I love him, even when he does not act like I want him to. Thank you for reading this, for your thoughts are very important to me.

12/02/2007 02:03 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


Faina- Yes, our children don't always act as we want them to....we just love them for who they are.  Kahlil Ghabran wrote that children are not ours, they are just lent to us, and they will become their own person...it is a favorite of mine.....or the one that says if you love something set it free.....that is what parenting is :)

Doesn't mean we don't lose sleep as Parents, or that they don't break our hearts at times.....but if we give them a good foundation to stand on then they have something to always fall back on if some of their choices aren't the best.  We do the best we can, and then it is up to them to take the lessons one step further for their own life choices.

12/02/2007 02:39 PM by Kathy McGraw ~ Calif Broker (CELLing Realty)


Faina,  Every once in awhile I wonder if today's generation will ever measure up to life's challenges and they do something like this to restore your faith in their future, Karen Kruschka www.e-virginiarealestate.com 

12/02/2007 02:51 PM by Karen Kruschka (RE/MAX Allegiance)


Kathy - I can probably write chapter and verse on loosing sleep over kids. I guess it comes with the territory and I hope that, like you said, they will "have something to fall back on". In the meantime, there are probably more sleepless nights for me.:) 

Karen - I wondered how we can measure up to our parents generation, it's just goes on. Hopefully - we will, and our kids will too.

12/02/2007 04:37 PM by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty)


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