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Time is Ticking, it's Decision Time!!

By Curt Fletcher

Real Estate Sales Representative

December 03, 2007 01:04 AM

If you were told from the time of your birth that you had one goal to accomplish in your life and everyday from that moment you were constantly reinforced of this goal and every action taken was in direct relation to getting closer and closer to this goal, would that make an impact in your life?

Let's say that your parents decided that you were going to be an Engineer. So from the day they brought you home from the hospital, you were told about being en engineer. As you grew older, you were given models to put together and puzzles to complete. Once your school years began, you were introduced to flashcards for math equations and still consistently told how you were going to be an successful and happy engineer.

When it was time to graduate high school and move on to college, it was already a foregone conclusion that you would begin your engineering classes. Your goal is close now, it is only a few years away from happening. When your classes begin and you start to read blueprints and analyze complex equations and formulas you realize that becoming a happy and successful engineer may not be what you want to do after-all.

These thoughts of doubt can make you feel conflicted and like a failure if you don't understand why you don't want to be an Engineer. It's understandable, your whole life you were shown the path to walk and given the tools to make it happen.

What happened here? You had a goal and it was constantly re-enforced. That is the formula for success, right?

Actually, one giant piece of the puzzle was omitted. You. Your desires, dream, and aspirations were never considered. Without the most important ingredient of your desires being included in the recipe of success, there cannot be any true success.

Don't misunderstand. It is possible to do what you do and not what you truly want to do and still be successful. It happens all the time. However, you will have the constant conflicting thoughts of doing what you really have a passion for and if you never get around to doing it, it may cause you internal unrest for the duration of your life.

The thoughts of "what might have been," will always be on your mind.

Curt Fletcher aka The Likeability Guy

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Gail Gladstone

Gladstone Group & Long Island Business Brokerage - Huntington, NY

Brokering Success

Curt, great thoughts. It applies throughout all the things we do in life. It is why we have divorce levels so high...and second marriages seem to work better. It is why second careers are so much more enjoyable and we find passion....we are finally finding ourselves, who we are and what we want to be doing with our lives.

Well said, Curt!

Gail Gladstone, Long Island Realtor

Dec 03, 2007 01:09 AM

Aggie Friend Kay Perry, A&M Class of '94 & '97

Kay Perry, Broker - College Station, TX

Curt, During our life we have so many decisions to make and we never know which one will lead us the right direction. It is a continual thing. Oh yes, I have often wondered what my life would have been if this or that would have happened. Don't we all?

Dec 03, 2007 02:10 AM

Maegan Small

Meritage Homes - Fort Worth, TX

Of course, the first thing to pop into my mind was not only a reflection on my own life, but a nosey after thought that makes me question why you have shared this post with us all, in the first place. It seems that you are headed in the right direction for what you want to do with your life (not just because of your new book) but you seem happy with your decisions. One can only hope that others will be geared toward success in the ways that you have!

Dec 03, 2007 06:51 AM

Laura Cerrano

Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY

Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Curt, I am glad my parents always let me choose my own path to follow so I didn't have to live up to their expectations of what they wanted me to be---I am fortunate I don't have to look back with regrets. Nice post!

Dec 03, 2007 07:55 AM

Curt Fletcher

Fort Worth, TX

aka "The Likeability Guy"

Gail, Thanks for the feedback. Your right, all aspects of our lives are affected.

Dec 03, 2007 01:52 PM

Kay, Yes, we definitly all do it. I think the key to knowing which direction to go in and which decisions to make, lie in the fact those those decisions are consistant with our passion, desires, and goals. When we do that, we cannot be wrong.

Dec 03, 2007 01:55 PM

Carole, Thank you for the feedback. As a fairly new parent myself, that is one of the main things that I want to do for them..let them find their passion and allow them to go for it.

Dec 03, 2007 01:56 PM

Maegan, thank you very much for the nice words. The inspiration for this post comes from seeing and talking to many people living lives that they feel are the "right thing to do." Or they are working at a "safe" job. In essence, many people are not doing what they want, but rather what they feel is what they should do.

In my opinion, life is not about settling for your second choice. If you want something, you should go out and get it.

Dec 03, 2007 02:03 PM

Time is Ticking, it's Decision Time!!

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