I think I must be an expert on tantrums cause my stubborn side that extended to adulthood got quite a workout as a child. Refusing to start kindergarten with screaming, not wanting to walk around the grocery store lying on the floor, not wanting to eat my food in my high chair. Well all these things eventually were reconciled finding out who was BOSS: MOM, but a TIP TO HANDLE TANTRUMS in adult folks is:
B O U N D A R I E S
It is a tough love to tell clients you will not pop up for them at every phone call. Letting selling agents bully you that as a buyer agent you are equals. With clients that DEMAND the stars and moon and you are the only one they are working with, remind them you have other clients too.
In personal relationships this can be called the spoiled child person. Why they are like this deep into adulthood I don't know, but EVERYTHING is the my way or the highway to them. Stand your ground. Be firm. Use tough love but always be respectful. Relationships friends, family, lovers, CAN be strained to the breaking point and separations do occur, best friend relationships can be destroyed if BOTH parties don't GROW UP and learn about give and take. A wonderful relationship has NO dictator in it. Whether it is a man that has abused women in abuse in its many forms, or a woman who is so full of herself with her girlfriends or walks over a very nice man cause she thinks she can get away with it, tantrum behavior is not pretty to watch.
It comes down to that people do treat you as you allow them to treat you. Have high self esteem, much self respect and let others know in no uncertain terms you are STRONG and it is just very normal to have BOUNDARIES in this world. THEN your relationships will be very healthy.
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