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Love Yourself Before Helping Others

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Self HuggingDo you some days in your work, or also your personal life, feel "stretched thin?" You know what that is? Emotional tiredness. You need to be aware about yourself that you should always

Love Yourself Before Helping Others

This has NOTHING to do with selfishness. It all has to do with filling up YOUR tank before expending energy, love, kindness in service to others. You are just as worthy as those you help to at a base point have solid well being. If you don't I call it the church lady syndrome. You work and work, and serve and serve, like the church lady seven days a week at church, doing prayer groups, changing linens on the altar, organizing the fall carnival, meanwhile she is not eating properly, NO ONE is hugging her, no one is phoning her or taking HER out to lunch to see how SHE is doing. She is literally falling through the cracks in her own self maintenance, putting off getting her hair all fixed up for her husband, not buying some nice fresh clothes for a new season, forgetting about planning a swell vacation to just relax.

Don't be ONLY a church lady.

Look at five areas to maintain a balanced you with LOVING YOU first and foremost. They are

1. Health - focus on your food plan, exercise, sleep, medical care on YOU and make sure all those areas are absolutely tightened up and top notch. This takes discipline and very tough for that giver church lady type.

2. Goals - ABSOLUTELY make sure you have your OWN goals separate and apart from others you want to help or oganizations or family/partner goals. This is definitely a ME ME ME part of self loving. You want an every two week day spa trip, or want to have weekly yoga classes, or read a book a week, etc. but these are YOU only things you do.

3. Relaxation / De-stress - You MUST find some peace and quiet ONLY you time APART from the world. Some people say it is ten minutes of day of quiet but I think it needs to be more than that, at least an hour, maybe broken up in two 30 minute chunks. Walks, rest in a chair with ear buds on, walking the dog, playing with cats, horseback riding, boating on your own with a lifejacket on, an individual sport

4. Spiritual Centeredness - any form of meditations ONLY ABOUT YOU, is so so VITAL to your well being. Prayer or Meditation on YOU, this is needed to know you are on the right track. This may be that ten minutes in a day.

5. Finally, tons of positive self affirmations into your mind. ONLY you can do this for you. You do not have this personal coach with a big megaphone into your ear in front of the mirror, just YOU. Say You are a good person, you deserve this, I am well, I am the best, I am loved..... you get the point. Pick a few to say over and over again FOR YOU

Loving YOU is the recharge you need each day to serve others. Don't leave home without it.

Comments (24)

John Howard
Century 21 LeMac Realty - Mountain Home, AR
GRI, Mountain Home, Arkansas 870-404-3614

Gary,  Good stuff, Thank You for the reminder!

Mar 27, 2012 12:57 AM
Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula
Realty Works Temecula - Temecula, CA
Realty Works Temecula

Gary:  I woke up this morning and needed a shot of positive...so I Googled some things and wrote a post about positive affirmations to inspire myself and others.....Only after that I read your post!   I swear I didn't read your post first but one would think I did...I guess we were just thinking alike!

Mar 27, 2012 01:18 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

John Howard: You are so welcome.

Jane: Brilliant minds think alike I guess. Positive affirmations can really boost you for your day. I know it sounds hokey. But you really need to believe in yourself inside that you are great, much loved, and very worthy of lots. A strong person.

Mar 27, 2012 02:07 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Very insightful, Gary!

The best of intentions and the worst, require ether you or your executor to have good health.

Bill

Mar 27, 2012 02:09 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Bill: Someone has to feel good out there. Hopefully not our executor or power of attorney till we absolutely need that.

Mar 27, 2012 02:09 AM
Emily Medvec
eXp Realty LLC - Santa Fe, NM
Broker | Realtor | Serving Santa Fe & Northern NM

Gary, given our new landscape of real estate online it is easy to get sidetracked on "who" is important. Your fine post is an awesome reminder. I find using my imagination more is a way to keep me on the path to staying healthy, balanced and centered. Often, I will use a vision board to focus in on achieving new goals or making important changes in my lifestyle. Suggested!

Mar 27, 2012 02:30 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

WEhave to take care of ourselves first in order to be able to help others in need.  if we let ourselves go there is no way to help others.   It will be us who needs the help.

Mar 27, 2012 02:51 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Amen!

Mar 27, 2012 02:57 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Emily: Seeing something with a vision means you are on your way there. I have not tried the vision board myself but they say it is very effective and will have to give it a try. Thanks for that thought.

William: Who will rescue the rescuer if they are no good to themselves? Quite correct.

Bill: Amen back at ya : )

Mar 27, 2012 04:04 AM
Eileen Hsu
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Manhattan, NY
LICENSED REAL ESTATE SALESPERSON

Gary, I think you know by now. It is all about me! I am great, I am smart, I am special, I deserve it. :-)

Mar 27, 2012 06:16 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eileen: ALL true about you for sure..... :-)

Mar 27, 2012 06:32 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: You are funny with loving yourself. No problem there. If we are strong ourselves with our self worth, we are unstoppable in the world. Recharge every day, for your spirit's sake.

Mar 27, 2012 12:24 PM
Patricia Aulson
BERKSHIRE HATHAWAY HOME SERVICES Verani Realty NH Real Estate - Exeter, NH
Realtor - Portsmouth NH Homes-Hampton NH Homes

So true, so true.  You are "the man Gary"  I always love your posts.  You should write for a living, you'd be RICH but I guess you already are.

 

Thank you,

Patricia Aulson/ Seacoast NH & ME REALTOR

Mar 28, 2012 03:09 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Patricia: Thanks for your kind words. You are always so nice to me. Maybe I can bind up some of these posts and sell them into a book.

Mar 28, 2012 04:36 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: You can't go wrong with Italian. With the garlic bread when I weigh 300 lb. you'll have more of me to love LOL. Seriously, ALL of us deserve peace in our heart. A calm sea if you will. It's heavenly. Or sent from heaven when you find it : )

Mar 28, 2012 10:38 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: Good tips. Ha Ha or push away from the table after garlic bread piece number three. I am too accomodating finishing the whole basket of bread LOL. I hate to waste food you know from great Italian cooks.

Mar 28, 2012 11:05 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: Probably cause you have an apron that says Kiss The Cook : ) Italians are the most romantic.

Mar 28, 2012 11:22 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: Some guy from the personal ads on Craigslist????? Ha ha ha ha ha ha. I'm terrible. Just shoot me for PEACE and QUIET in your life LOL. I'll get you that apron and see what it attracts to you ok?? It's a magic apron. Only the right fellow will be able to kiss you. The rest will be like apples on the ground for a gal high up in the apple tree.

Mar 28, 2012 11:33 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Eli Maria: We are all on paths in life, and we must trust life and God above all. God never fails us in giving us exactly what we need.

Mar 28, 2012 03:19 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I do believe that if you are not able to love/respect yourself, you are not able to treat anyone else accordingly.

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