Warning...this is off topic and very personal...so read at your own risk. Maybe the power of the Rain will transcend oceans and language barriers...Who knows but it's worth trying.
A letter to my husband's birth mother.
I'm not sure if I'll ever post this and if I do, I don't know that you'll ever see it.
But I want you to know...that I Thank You for giving your son to me.
You made a decision in June of 1954, a sacrifice, something that must have been extremely difficult to do. I'll never know what you thought or felt that day but I can imagine it must have been painful.
I wonder if you got to see him and hold him before you gave him away.
It makes me sad thinking that you might not have.
I've held him in my arms, listened to his breathing and comforted him during bad dreams...he hasn't been alone.
I don't know if you're alive, don't know if you have other children, other sons but if you are...I hope that these words reach you somehow.
I want you to know that your son grew up to be a wonderful man. If you're wondering...he is polite, a gentleman, a kind caring guy. Oh don't get me wrong...he's not perfect, far from it at times but I love him and he makes me very happy.
I know that I might not have him today if you had made a different decision that day. I'm not sure if our paths would ever have crossed although I'd like to think they would have, that we're soul mates meant to be together.
You'll be happy to know that he was picked specially to be the child of Joseph Jeremiah and Pauline Ann McGillicuddy and that they loved him dearly and raised him here in the United States. He had a happy childhood and as he got older like other teenagers of that era, he became a little rebellious at times. He even hitch hiked across the country, scaring his poor parents nearly to death. As you can imagine he might have been difficult at times.
As a man, he has made a few mistakes but ultimately he found his way and walks the talk. He is my husband, a father, you have a handsome grandson named Justin and your son is a wonderful step father to my children.
He is a man that you can be proud of...we don't know if he looks like you or his biological father but he has a funny habit of twitching his chin when deep in thought. He is passionate and gentle, an avid golfer and sportsman. He is a man's man and woman's dream. He is my husband...your son who was born on June 3rd, 1954.
I love him...Thank you for giving him to me.
We know your name was Klara Franziska Bezold. Your son was adopted in Bamberg and was legally represented by the City Youth Office of Bamberg and that the date was September 21,1955. He was 15 months old.
Your son was named Holger Rainer Bezold at birth and was re-named Joseph John McGillicuddy by his adoptive parents and we call him Jay. He was born June 3, 1954 in Bamberg, Germany and was brought by his parents to the United States.
We think you might have come from an influential family, just a guess really from the strict language in his adoption papers, although they are written in German we know that the translation could be off. We think that his biological father was a US service man. 1953-54 post war years but the US had a huge military presence in Germany at that time.
We hope you are still alive and living a good life and that you've been happy. If you ever do see this....please feel free to contact us if you'd like.
We wish you a Merry Christmas and hope somehow...someway these words will find a way to reach you.
Update...December 31, 2007... As Incredible as it sounds WE HAVE FOUND Jay's birth mother and his siblings!!! Please read Jay's post as he tells the rest of his story in his own words >>>> Finding my birth mother
Update...January 5, 2008..To add link on just how Jay found his birth mother
Update...January 10,2008..To add a link to A letter from Germany
Update...February 25, 2008..To add a link to A picture of my biological father
The search continues...maybe someone will recognize the man???
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