On our December 14 Show, we had a Special Guest, Dr. Robert Masters.

Question: What is possible in relationship when couples are relating through the divine essence of the masculine and feminine polarity?

The show was a spirited and engaging conversation. I recommend listening to the rebroadcast.

Here are some highlights:

For men and women to have fulfilling relationships, both need to be willing to work through their own stuff.

Robert: It’s important for people to deal and deal effectively with past hurts. Work involves facing everything that is conditioned in us. Through relationship, everything that is neurotic and conditioned in us will come out. A great relationship is both Crucible and Catalyst. It triggers us. What comes forward is what we need to deal with. Still, needs to be safety in the relationship, or we just won’t go there.

“Today’s Ashram”: Being in an intimate relationships is a huge opportunity for spiritual growth.

Robert: Really want to grow? Get into an intimate relationship. Three to four decades ago, there wasn’t an equal footing between men and women, now this is really possible. Let this be a crucible for awakening.

Robin: When you go into relationship with the intention of spiritual growth, more likely to get the fulfillment you seek.

Robert: Real growth is when you hit a bump in the road, things are difficult, and you both wake up in the midst of that and you say, I’m closed, or I’m disconnected. Often when you do that, the heart starts to open.

Distinguishing femininity and weakness

Robin: Where you can be in your femininity and your power. Old model of feminine is to not stand up for your self, to not say NO. This has nothing to do with femininity. Many women today are afraid to be feminine because they associate it with being weak. How can you be feminine and stand up for yourself?

Robert: By reclaiming your power you gave away a long time ago… Be with men who honor that who are also in touch with their own power. I see so many men who are also shut off from their anger. "Reclaim your balls without losing your heart." Get in touch. Women want you to be a man. They don’t want you to be a surrogate female. It’s okay to be a guy.

Couples taking on the other’s polarity

Steve Toth pointed out that these days it seems females becoming males, males becoming females.

Robin: I think it is a misguided attempt to improve relationships and get along.

Robert: It ruins the polarity. When the man gets too soft, and the woman gets too masculine, there is no polarity. Libido drops. Men: really reclaim their masculine, woman reclaim their feminine, then when they meet, and that polarity exists in the context of deep love, mutual trust and respect, it creates an enormously rich relationship. I think there is the potential for that in our culture. It’s kind of rare now, but there are more and more couples that are embracing that and risking that…To be that alive with each other.

Mature Monogamy, Part II. Tune in this Friday at 10 AM MST, when we will further explore this topic on the Authentic Femininity Show. Dr. Robert Masters will return and this time be joined by his wife, musician Diane Bardwell. Hear about what is possible in conscious relationship from a couple who is living it!

To Your Success,

Robin Hoffman and Coach Steve