We've all had days that we would consider to be "bad days."  It's a part of life.  So what do you do when you have a bad day?  Do you bury your head in your pillow waiting for a new day to dawn?  Do you sit around thinking about what caused the bad day, and what you could have done to change it?  Or do you do something positive to make you put your bad day behind you and move forward?

 

Yesterday was one of those days for me.  I could have sat around allowing a disappointing development to ruin my whole day, but it wouldn't have changed the outcome anyway.  I took some time to deal with the frustration, spoke to my wife about the disappointment, and then I went along with my regularly scheduled day, although there was some temptation to change my plans, but I couldn't.  I guess saying I couldn't isn't exactly accurate.  I could have, but I wouldn't, and there's a very good reason why I made this decision.

 

My son and I had plans for a father-son movie.  We had planned several days ago to go and see "Alvin & The Chipmunks" together.  My only recollection of Alvin & The Chipmunks is the Christmas songs that I heard growing up, and I wasn't much of a fan even as a kid.  Needless to say, the last thing that I wanted to do was to go and see a movie that I didn't have much interest in.  My wife even suggested that we just do it another day if I wasn't into going, but I told her that it would be wrong.

 

Earlier in the day, I felt like I was let down by someone.  The actual story is a post for another day.  I know how I felt when this all happened.  How could I then turn around and do the same thing to my son, who gives me nothing but unconditional love?  How would disappointing him help me feel better in any way?  It would have just made him feel what I was feeling, and probably a lot more since it would have been his dad disappointing him.  So I just sucked it up and headed out to the movie theater.

 

Of course, when you're having a bad day, everything seems to snowball, so it wasn't at all surprising that the movie was sold out when we got there.  Fortunately, it's a popular enough movie that it was being shown again an hour later.  We bought the tickets and went to go grab a slice of pizza before the movie, since we had time to kill.  As we sat there eating our pizza and talking, it suddenly no longer mattered what happened to me earlier in the day.  The most important thing was to be there for my son fully.

 

We made sure to finish up with enough time to get back to the theater early so that we didn't end up in the front row.  Hanging out and joking around with my son made the events of the day seem less dramatic.  When the litany of previews finally ended, the theater went dark and it was time for the movie.  Not to give anything away, but the movie ironically starts with the Chipmunks singing "Bad Day" by Daniel Powter.  For some reason that song always makes me feel better, so it was a good start to the movie, and it only got better from there.

 

 

 The movie far exceeded my expectations.  I would highly recommend taking children of all ages to see it.  If you don't have any children, go to a late night showing of it anyway.  It was that good!  By the time the movie ended, I was happy.  This movie was pure fun.  Sure, it had the unlikable character that reminded me a bit about my situation, but the overall story was fun and positive. 

My son and I ended up having a great day together after all.  It turns out that when you are having a bad day, it's best to do something fun to reverse the trend.  Who knew that a movie about singing chipmunks could provide such a renewed outlook on the day?  It didn't hurt that I had my pal right next to me to lift my spirits either.  I'm looking forward to buying this movie when it comes out on DVD, so the next time that I have a bad day, I can grab my pal, some snacks and turn a bad day into a good one again!

 

 

 

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57 Comments on So You Had A Bad Day?

DEC
27
2007
When you are having a bad day just keep going & don't stop, after a while it will all rub off and will end up good.
12:12pm • #1
Great job handling the day.  Don't let things you cannot control ruin everything for you.
12:13pm • #2
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They all can't be good ones otherwise we'd never truly appreciate the really good days. Good for you, brushing it off and spending quality time with your son!
12:16pm • #3
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I agree with Jim Albano above....they all can't be good ones.Didn't your mother tell you there would be bad/down days?? I think they made a song like this......my mother told me there'd be days like this.......

 

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12:20pm • #4
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Nothing like changeing scenery to get your mind off what went wrong. You did good, Adam and I know it was great bonding time with you son.
12:25pm • #5
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What a wonderful day with your son.  I'm glad the day turned around for you.  Actually, YOU turned your day around.  It helps to have a great family to lift you up.  I hope today has had a better start.
12:27pm • #6
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Adam~ there is no way to avoid the fact that stuff happens.  I was glad to hear that you didn't let a bad day interfere with the time you spent with your son, and I especially liked reading that you were fully there for your son, that's the most important thing with kids. 
12:30pm • #7
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Accept the things we can not change and change the things we can.
12:36pm • #8
Bad days happen... but congratulations on spending a great afternoon with your son!  I am looking forward to seeing this movie with my son when he gets a little bit older.
12:39pm • #9
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I learned many years ago that we all have good days AND bad days.  When I have a bad day, I just do something fun or take a nap.  The next day will be better.
12:48pm • #10
you are analytic, man. I think you should start writing books. I did enjoy the music video, thank you!
12:48pm • #11
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Our little people can cure any bad day.....my daughters prove it to me all the time.....

Hope you're having a great Christmas season........

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Adam - Good for you for not letting your bad moment turn into a bad day.   We can choose to wallow or we can keep pushing forward and hope for better times.  I know how hard it is to try to break through a down mood; thank goodness for kids!  

BTW, thank you for the Christmas card!:) 

12:59pm • #13
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Adam - I am glad that you were able to make your bad day better by spending time with your son and enjoying a good movie.  I have been playing with my kids' toys much of the day - there's nothing better.  They got some really cool stuff, and I am frankly a bit jealous (kidding).  I hope that today is a far smoother day for you, buddy. 
1:14pm • #14
Exactly. I have been running into quite a few flaky buyers lately. Backing out of escrows and whatnot. If I dwelt on the bad instead of the good, I'd give myself a heart attack.
1:32pm • #15
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Adam, great perspective. We control the course our days take for the most part. And what we can not control needs to be let go. 
1:43pm • #16
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Adam - Positive attitudes keep you healthy. Some people love to drown themselves in misery...glad I am not one of them :) I think the chipmunks would have made me more depressed though. I can't say I am a fan of them - reading your post has actually put their silly sounding voices in my head - AAAAAGH!
2:42pm • #17
Bad builds on bad. If you start out having a bad day, and you focus on how bad it is, how can it be anything but bad. But if you find positive things to focus on, like being grateful for the good things in your life, you can turn bad to good.
3:06pm • #18
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Adam- I feel you! I have a hard time "turning" it around when I have a bad day. But you are so right, feeling pissy changes nothing! My dearlt loved Granny used to say "Crying is a waste of time, all it does is make your eyes red" How true- next time I am wallowing I might decide to do something different, after all it is a choice..right?! Good job, I bet your son had a ball with his Dad..kids are the best medicine sometimes.
3:27pm • #19
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I am so glad - for you - that you didn't cancel your movie date with your son.  You would have missed out on that wonderful afternoon together.  Now, you'll have something joyful to think of when you have another bad day, and you'll be able to put it all into perspective in just moments.
4:30pm • #20
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Adam, You made a great choice to be there for your son. You felt better and made a great memory with your boy.

Now don't tell anyone, but Roger and I actually rent kids movies on a regular basis... LOL.  We love them, especially if they feature a dog.. like Winn Dixie.  We have one right now that we took out yesterday and will watch tonight or tomorrow...Davey and Goliath!

We often go to the beach to diffuse a bad day, nothing like it.

As an aside can I tell you as a woman we have to let the frustration over a bad day or bad incident out verbally. LOL..in case you haven't heard... Husbands should not try to fix the wife when this happens, just let her vent and then... its over. Worse thing is when the hub says oh its not that bad, or just forget it. You got to just be there to listen or pretend to listen not fix.....

Great post!

Ginger

4:35pm • #21
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Hi Adam,

Sounds like you did a good job turining things around, that movie & time with your son was a good way to fix it.BTW, I love Alvin and the chipmunks. :)

4:35pm • #22
It's always fun to spend time with the kids.....makes life seem much simpler.....don't you wish it was all that simple?
5:57pm • #23
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Keep thinking and acting positive and things work out. Good for you.
5:57pm • #24
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Adam ~ I go through the same thing sometimes.  One thing can change your whole attitude.  It was good you kept the movie date with your son, not going would only make you feel worse - and look what happened it turned around for the better again! 
6:02pm • #25
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As they say... Stuff happens.  Kids are without a doubt the perfect antidote to a bad day... we're in the grandkids stage and they are the 'magic little pill' for whatever ails you.  If that fails, and it rarely does, there are always alternatives; a Louisville Slugger or a glass of single malt with an ice cube thrown in for good measure has been known to work. Glad to hear time with your son did the trick.

6:10pm • #26
Oh this is great. I can see your children are everything to you. I gotta go see that movie.  How did you put the box in your blog?  
6:19pm • #27
Glad to hear you were able to turn your bad day into a good day!
6:59pm • #28
As so many have said bad days just happen but they to will pass.
7:02pm • #29
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Like I tell my kids, Adam, YOU are responsible for your behavior and actions...isn't it nice when you take control and turn a bad day around into a good one? 
7:35pm • #30
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Adam:

Good for you!  You deserve it and so did your son. I will have to take my kids to go see it.

I don't know what the situation was but I do know that 2008 is going to be a great one for all of us.  I hope that your cup runs over with happiness and business in the New Year.
8:01pm • #31
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Gald you were able to turn it around.  Sometimes all it takes is being around family and friends to put a new perspective on things.
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Adam, how many times does a guy have to apologize?  I told you I was sorry like 15 times!  Glad you were able to take your mind off of that heated exchange by spending some time with your son, and no more short jokes, I promise.
9:23pm • #33
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28
2007
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Oh Adam, how I can relate right now.  I'm going to see the supposedly hilarious (and I'm sure quite inappropriate) Walk Hard on Saturday, in hopes of boosting my spirits, too.

Thanks for your blog.  It helps, even after writing Letting The Motivation Rain Down... I'm still having a tough time.  Your blog helped.  Thanks again.

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Adam

My twins enjoyed it as well.  A new twist on an old concept.  ALLLLL- Vin!  Glad it all turned out well for you in the end.

6:20am • #35
Adam, we make choices every day that affect ourselves and our families.  You made the right one.  You've got to "let it go" and move on.
6:23am • #36
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Adam,

Glad to see that your bad day turned into a good day.  I've had my share of bad days, myself.  I'm sure we all have.  But, even though I may be down, I just pick myself up and continue on.  The bad doesn't stick around for long.

7:33am • #37
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HI EVERYONE:  Thank you for your comments.  Since this is winter break, it's been a busy time with the kids, so I'm behind on responding to comments.  I will do so as soon as possible.
7:59am • #38
Adam, Cool story. Gotta let some things go. One of my  favorite sayings to my older kids is "Don't let anyone take your energy." Good for you and your son you were able to put things into perspective.
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When I'm having a "bad day" I just remind myself that since my family is safe and sound, it wasn't that bad after all.  Actually, it was a prettty good day.
11:05am • #40
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Adam, I suppose all of us have bad days, but I'm glad you took your son to the movies. You know? We just have to prioritize our lives, and our families always come first. :-) Plus, I'm a believer of staying in the moment and keep on keepin on.

11:24am • #41
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ADAM:  I am so glad this was featured, because it is such a great reminder that life is WHAT WE MAKE IT. Bad things will happen to all of us...but we are the ones who determine our reaction to those bad things. I can't wait to see this movie now (even though I felt the same way you did before you watched it). I have a houseful of girls for another week. We'll just have to go see it for a special treat. Yummy...pizza sounds good also. :-)
3:16pm • #42
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29
2007
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You taught your son an excellent lesson that he won't even realize until he is a father.  Good for you!

H A P P Y   NEW  Y E A R !!!!

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Adam, See? THIS is why I'm a subscriber to your blog! That video from YouTube is just awesome.  I can't wait to show it to my Darlin' when she wakes up!  You rock, my man!

Mike in Tucson (Today I'm your #1 Fan!)

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Adam, so nice to be reading your work again. I have missed you. You are like my number one inspiration place to visit. Nice work and yes.....I once had a good friend, that said "Any time you have some type of blow or setback....do something familiar or fun. Start a project that you love to do. Some special thing that is only for you." He was a very good friend and I have never forgotten his wise words. I am so glad you had a wonder day with your son. There is the richness of life and the goodness that you are! Happy New Year Adam. I am looking forward to 2008 a visiting your blog for more good enjoyable reading!
9:35am • #45
Adam:  What a great post!!  Love the fact that you got over your pity party and enjoyed the day with your son.  It's so easy to get sucked into the pits of despair when something goes wrong.  I always found that my children could bring me around and force me "out".  Alvin and the Chipmunks will do it everytime also.  Inspirationational and very uplifting post... thanks for sharing and have a Happy New Year!
9:53am • #46
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I had my parents in for the holidays and put my home on the market at the same time! What more can I say!

I wish you all the best during 2008!

6:20pm • #49
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Adam- Everything happens for a reason. I have learned finally, after many years, to take things as they come, to let go of what I can not control and thank God for every blessing and live in gratitude. The older I get the easier it is! Could that be what they call 'wisdom'. Katerina
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Adam:  Great post, as many have already commented... you should be feeling great by now!  OH, to be young and in love!  Sweet video ... looks like getting caught in THE RAIN was a good thing for that young couple... it's been a good thing for you and all your AR friends!
9:48pm • #51
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30
2007
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Remembering what's important (like your family) sure can take the edge off a bad day, can't it? I'm glad you had a wonderful time with your son & hopefully you worked the other stuff out too!
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Adam-How we deal with those bad days when they come our way is what's most important.  I completely believe that every once in a while God puts the mud in our paths to slow us down a bit so that we can really reflect and find a newfound way to approach our lives. (I went through that recently-"Dare You to Move") You my friend are a caring person and that is why you internalize the disappointments in your life. The beauty of it all is that you come out with strength and wisdom to share with the rest of us and the memory with your little one, will be implanted in your soul forever, the disappointment, only for a moment.  What a wonderful example you are and thank you for sharing with us what is in your heart.  I'm grateful to say you are my friend. 
1:06pm • #53
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31
2007
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Hi Adam,

I didn't read all the comments... but I am glad your day really wasn't bad.  :)  

 

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Adam-  As usual, GREAT post!  I'm certain that with your ever-positive attitude, you son had no idea that your day had started off so badly for you!  Happy New Year to you and yours!

Debe in Charlotte, NC

5:40pm • #55

Ahh- that is nice way to fix a rotten startup. I am personally dreading the Chipmunks... I have no children, but those children I know are already getting the songs from the movie stuck in my head LOL

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2008
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Adam,

What an excellent post! You've layed this one out very well. The message is so poignant and inspirational. There are times when things go wrong for reason out of our control but we must learn to overlook them and move on if we want to see better days. Becoming resilient is essential to overcoming such obstacles we face in life. That is what life is about. You take the good, you take the bad. It is easier to give up but we must remember that there are other options available. It is as miserable as we make them. Having positive thoughts can be that trigger that eventually help us overcome those bad moments and turn the day around. So smile often and things will fall into place. Have a great 2008!

Dave

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