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Lost Forever - A Sad Post

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I wrote my second MeMe yesterday.  In that post, I talked about the fact that I am my family historian and genealogist.  I also mentioned that I lost many relatives to the Germans.  I never knew these relatives and many I don't even know how they were related, however, they were Abeshaus's. 

This post is going to be different than any other I've ever written.  My posts are usually, happy, funny or positive, but I couldn't do that today.  After writing yesterday, I couldn't stop thinking about these lost family members.  They won't have a legacy to carry on their names.... they won't have any descendants to talk about them.... there are no stories to tell... except one.

The German's took more than just their lives.  They they took the lives of their children.... their grandchildren... their great grandchildren.... and all of their futures. 

I don't want pity.  I don't want anyone to feel bad for me.  I want these people to be remembered.... even if it is just in a post.

This one is for them.... and for the eleven million people that the German's murdered.  (Yes... they murdered eleven million.... six million were Jewish.... but they murdered eleven) and for all of the othe genocide victims from around the world.

Abezgauz Family of Zembin

Fala Abezgauz, Girsh Abezgauz, Leib Abezgauz, Nechama Abezgauz, Sonya Abezgauz, Tanya Abezgauz

I do not know how this Abeshaus family is related.  I do know that my great grandfather left three siblings behind when he came to the United States and there were numerous Leib's in my tree.

This is their story....

Rosa Faitelson, who left Zembin in 1931 at the age of 15 recalls a very busy Jewish center market in her home town. The town's residents would visit this section on Sundays to buy fruit and other items. She also recalls a large house near the market where the Abezgauz family lived. She remembers that it was a large family with 5 or 6 children.

The ancient settlement of Zembin is located 28 kilometers northwest of city of Borisov and has been multinational from the beginning of its existence. An Eastern Orthodox church, a Catholic church and a synagogue have resided peacefully next to each other and have not bothered anybody. The Bolsheviks with their martial atheism closed up the temples, but that did not change the relations between the people.

However, in July of 1941, Zembin was taken over by Hitler's aggressors and that resulted in almost immediate persecution of Jewish population, which represented about half of the settlement's population. All Jews were ordered to where yellow symbols on their chest and back. They were not allowed to communicate with other people of Zembin. In order to step up persecutions, the Raboche-Krestyanskaya Street next to the Jewish cemetery was turned into a ghetto, where Jews were forcefully relocated to. However, this wicked camp lasted only one month.

In the middle of August, for several days 18 Jews were ordered to dig a huge pit in the ground on the outskirts of Zembin, which supposedly was needed to bury damaged and unnecessary army equipment, left on fields. The pit was dug, but steps made out of soil could not but raise alarming suspicions.

Everything became clear early morning on Monday, August 18, 1941, when policemen Gnot and Golub went around the ghetto and declared the order of German authorities for all the Jews without exception to gather at the market place for checking of documents.

When everyone had gathered, it became apparent that there was no way back. Armed regressors pushed the crowd towards the pit and made them stand on knees. But then they were allowed to sit on the ground, in order to "rest" while awaiting their turn.

First of all, about 20 of the stronger men were taken into the forest, where the pit was located. Soon after that shots were heard, which turned sitting on the ground, doomed to death people into hysteria. But tears and throat tearing screams only caused fascists to furiously beat people.

Including children, women and elderly, the doomed were sent with kicks and punches, in groups of 15-20 persons to their death. (Only two young children of Hasya Hodasevich, born from a mixed marriage, were spared.)

At three o'clock everything was over, and the pit, where lied 927 Jews covered in blood, was covered with soil. This horrific, not having any rational, action was carried out by the occupants under supervision of the chief of Borisov security force gauptshturfurer Shonem, with participation of Gestapo officers Berg and Valter, commandant of Borisov Sharer, commandant of Zembin Eleka, as well as translator Lutzke, who were helped by fascist sympathizers from among the local population Vasili Haritonovich, David Agof, Philip Kabakov and others.

After the war, the grave of the genocide victims was framed by a fence with a memorial board by relatives. The grave was entered into the Catalog of historical monuments and culture and, later, received the status of protected by the government location. However, this place has been several times vandalized by "gold diggers" and other vandals. In 1992 the marble memorial board was completely destroyed, which forced the Jews from the society "Light of Menorah" to search for sources to erect a new memorial symbol. (new board was placed in March of 1993)

In the rural areas of Borisov district, the grave of Zembin Jews remains to be the largest mass burial of the wartime. However, only in 1993 did the local government decide to erect a monument their, dedicated to the 50th anniversary of freeing Belorussia from fascist occupants, which turned out to be empty promise.

Who lies in this grave? The interest in this question was not raised by the authorities for very long and could cause political difficulties (for example, the accusation in nationalism). That is why, fifty years later only a small number of names were remembered.

About 700 names were left unremembered. The archives did not help either. The official list of victims in Zembin, made by the local committee in August of 1944, that is immediately after overthrow of German occupation, contained only five Jewish names. It is a sad fact, though you could explain it in the following way the totalitarian regime did not try to preserve the memory of victims of war equally, but did it on a selective basis, even though, it proclaimed everywhere that no one and nothing was forgotten.

Of the remembered names, 6 were of the Abezgauz family:

Fala Abezgauz, Girsh Abezgauz, Leib Abezgauz, Nechama Abezgauz, Sonya Abezgauz, Tanya Abezgauz

Other Abeshaus's

Elka Abezgaus and son Haim- Died March 1943 at Radoshkowitz

Selma Salomons-Abeshaus- Born 1924.  Married.  Died at Stutthof Concentration Camp between 1942 and 1945. (Between 18 and 21 years old)

Morduch Davidovitch and Doba Chaimovna Abezgauz- Died Oct 17 1941 in Kamen, Belarus

Genya Abezgauz (Born 1877), Marisa Abezgauz (Born 1917), Mendel Abezgauz (Born 1877) , Shlema Abezgauz(Born 1915) - Died in the Lepel Ghetto in 1941.

Yosef Antokoletz and son Nathan (born 1930) - Died in 1942.

Lazaar Antokoletz, wife Mary, children Eliot, Faigala, Tovah - Date unknown


Lazaar and family

 

Abezgauz Genealogy

Comments(38)

Gayle Balaban
The Best Spot Realty/Waterfront Real Estate/Ooltewah Real E - Chattanooga, TN
E. TN Waterfront Real Estate
This tradgedy is often underestimated in my opinion.  Keeping it in the forefront of people's minds may help to keep such a thing from happening again.
Jan 05, 2008 03:08 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic
I don't know what to say. This is my second time back to this post and i still don't have the words. I'm sorry Martin. GBU and your family.
Jan 05, 2008 04:05 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)
Martin - I finally got some time to read this entire post.  What a powerful testimony you have provided for these victims and the lost generations.  I will be including this one in the weekly wrapup post for Family Ties today.  As others mentioned above, this one must be told as much as possible.
Jan 05, 2008 04:16 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Martin-In my mind the way to change things is to educate the public...this is the perfect place for this.  I appreciate your post so much...your thoughts and the facts...I can only feel sadness after reading this..but I also feel I have a better understanding.  Great post Martin...and thank you...it probably wasn't easy... 
Jan 05, 2008 05:21 AM
Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC
Hello Martin,
What a tragedy this was, so many lives lost and like you wrote...that included future generations.  My heart is heavy.
Jan 05, 2008 05:33 AM
Jan Wood
None - Gallatin, TN
Martin:  A tragic and sad story.  It just boggles the mind that 11 million people perished at the hands of a ruthless regime.  Thank you for sharing this with your ActiveRain family... I know it must have been very difficult for you to write this.
Jan 05, 2008 07:16 AM
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island
MARTIN - This story is maddening, sad and puzzling, but you did a great job of telling it.  Thank you for doing so.  There is so much intolerance in the world, and there are still people say that this horrific event never took place.  I'm glad that there are people like you out there to pay the proper respect to those that perished at the hand of pure evil.
Jan 05, 2008 09:56 AM
Lisa Bosques
Burien, WA
It's unbelievable that something like this happened during my parents' lifetime, not so long ago.  Being the family genealogist is especially important in your family.  The people who died during that horrific time need a voice, and your family (actually, everyone here on Earth) needs to know who these invididuals were. Their memory needs to be kept alive so that nothing like this ever happens again. You've done a wonderful thing in taking this on.
Jan 05, 2008 11:21 AM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate
Martin, thank you for sharing so openly. Never forget.
Jan 05, 2008 11:51 AM
Cait ODonnell Donohue
Red Key Realty Leaders - Frontenac, MO
We must never forget...thank you for reminding us.
Jan 05, 2008 12:07 PM
Lisa Ryan
Callaway Henderson Sotheby's International Realty - Montgomery, NJ
Selling Princeton,West Windsor and Montgomery Town
Martin~ how incredibly sad and heart wrenching this must have been for you to write.  As so many have mentioned above, we can not forget and we can not allow future generations to forget.  Sadly, the world is still seeing genocide continue to this day.
Jan 05, 2008 12:23 PM
Eric Kodner
Wayzata Lakes Realty: Eric Kodner Sells Twin Cities Homes - Minnetonka, MN
Wayzata Lakes Realty: Twin Cities, Madeline Island

Martin, it took courage to tell your story.  When I lived in Israel, I met many who refused to talk about family members lost to the Holocaust. 

When I first arrived in Jerusalem in 1974, I used to ride the Egged bus to and from work.  On occasion, I sat next to men and women who had concentration camp numbers burned into their forearms.  I was twenty years old at the time, but I will never forget what I saw.

Jan 05, 2008 01:28 PM
Marey Hoeppner
Kalamazoo, MI
Your Success Is Our Goal!
Martin, a very tragic and sad story, not to mention how hard this must have been for you to write about it. My prayers are with you.
Jan 05, 2008 02:17 PM
Inna Hardison
ha media group - Orlando, FL
Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group

Martin, sometimes there is nothing more we can say but keeping the memories alive compells us to... I never met my grandparents on my dad's side - they were just 2 of the tens of thousands slaughtered in Babi Yar. It took my dad until a few years ago to finally tell us why we didn't get to meet them... and that took courage... Some evil is such that we struggle finding words to describe it... Your words are so needed though to keep the lost from being lost.. No one should ever be lost>
 

This is the best translation of this poem that i found. Just a fragment. Link on the bottom to the entire poem. 

Babi Yar (Yevtushenko translated by: Andrew Huth)

There is no memorial above Babi Yar.
The steep ravine is like a coarse tombstone.
I'm frightened,
I feel as old today
as the Jewish race itself.
I feel now that I am a Jew.
Here I wander through ancient Egypt.
And here I hang on the cross and die,
and I still bear the mark of the nails.
I feel that I am Dreyfus.
The bourgeois rabble denounce and judge me.
I am behind bars, I am encircled,
persecuted, spat on, slandered,
and fine ladies with lace frills
squeal and poke their parasols into my face...

Click to read the rest..

 

Jan 07, 2008 05:47 AM
Rich Dansereau
Positive Real Estate Professionals - Knoxville, TN
Thanks so much for sharing this with us all. As time moves us further away from the horrors of the Nazi regime and those who survived pass away at an ever quickening pace, the tragedy of the murdered and heroism of the survivors must be told more often.
Jan 07, 2008 08:06 AM
Karen Cooper
Karen Cooper | Sr Mortgage Loan Originator ! NMLS # 223305 | First Federal Bank of Florida, Ocala, FL - The Villages, FL
Helping Homeowners w/Home Loans in 27 US States
Martin - what a soul bearing, poignant post. As another keeper of the family tree and having family members going back to both sides of this tragic time in our history, I understand the toll this takes on you. Thank you for sharing your story.
Jan 07, 2008 02:36 PM
Katerina Gasset
The Gasset Group & Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Provo, UT
Amplify Your Real Estate & Life Dreams!
Martin- I am so glad that Jason Crouch listed your post in his week in review for Family Reunion. What a sad story, but this story needs to be told over and over again! Antisemitism is alive and well just like Faina said. People spend all day talking about racism, white on black, and black on white. But rarely do you hear people discussing hatred of Jewish people when it is still all around. There are people who dare to say the holocaust never happened. It is horrible, that is why you have to keep telling these stories. We can not allow history to repeat itself. I have met many Jews with the tatoo of their numbers on their arms. It is so disgusting that humans can do this one to another. I study history from a biblical standpoint and know the persecutions the Jewish people have gone through over and over again. You are a honorable son for telling this story! Katerina
Jan 07, 2008 03:26 PM
Ginger S
Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~

Martin, What a beautiful memorial to your ancestors. Its almost impossible for me to wrap my mind around this incredible cooperation with evil. My Dad served on the battlefront including the DDay invasion at Omaha Beach to defeat this horrible regime. I wish he were alive now to talk about it. 

Ginger 

Jan 08, 2008 02:07 AM
Debbie Malone
Londeree's Real Estate & Property Management - Lynchburg, VA
From Lynchburg To The Lake (434) 546-0369
Martin, I couldn't respond the first time I read your post. How can we as people be capable of such great things, show so much love and others so much evil and hate? This is so sad and horrible but can never be forgotten. Thanks for sharing such a personal story.
Jan 08, 2008 04:48 AM
Jamie Stimpson
Keller Williams West Monmouth - Freehold, NJ
Thank you for putting faces and names to this tragedy, It is that reality that makes people think about what happened in real terms .I am sorry for your family and the millions of others touched by this and other senseless violence's that happen around the world all the time.It is very nice they are remembered and thought about.
Jan 09, 2008 07:11 AM