13 years ago today I said "I do" and I meant it. Does that mean that every day will be like the first day? Does it mean that I'll always feel like this? Does it mean the sun will always be shining?
No, but it means I will stick it out when I don't feel like this, when the sun isn't shining, when I want to run away.
My parents have been married for 44 years and not once do I ever remember them fighting. Disagreeing, maybe. A knock down drag out fight? No. Did I learn from that? No. I didn't learn how to fight fair. I didn't learn that fighting was okay so long as you know how to fight and how to resolve it. It's when you don't fight anymore, don't talk anymore, and you become strangers living under the same roof that's scary.
My parents are happily married and set a wonderful example of a Godly, Christian marriage. But I feel we've overcome odds that were stacked against us early in our marriage; have persevered and come out on top. I am more in love today than I ever thought was possible and I am so glad I stuck it out.
Marriage isn't about the feeling you have on the first day; it's about waking up every day choosing to love this person and put their interests and needs above my own. When both partners are doing this you can't help but stay in love.
We are more mature, more in love, more respectful of, and enjoy each other to the fullest extent every day. I'm glad I never gave up because I would've missed the deep, true, unconditional love that we are experiencing today.
Tim and I have been together for 16 years total and while there may be some regrets, I would say "I do" all over again!
I love you Tim! Happy anniversary my darling.
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