How do you deal with adversity?  What about change?  When are life's challenges enough to stop you in your tracks?  When can you honestly say, the whole world has come crashing down on you?  Here's a real life story that will hit home for many of you who have had a similar experience and weren't sure that somehow you'd get through it!

On January 1st, 2008, A New Year Dawned!  We were enjoying the day with our family just as many of you were.  My youngest son Brandon asked if he could go to the skateboard park with a friend he hadn't seen in almost a year.  My wife and I agreed to let him go as long as the friends mother would be there to supervise. That's when our "New Year" started to take a turn for the unexpected!  

 Mid day, our phone rang, it was Phillips mother telling us Brandon had fallen off his board and was hurt really bad.  She said it looked like his arm was broken for sure.  Now when a mother of another child tells you this, you can only imagine how bad it really must be considering most of us would try to play it down and not up.   When she dropped Brandon off, he was in tears, and his arm looked like a crooked tire iron.  We rushed him to the Hospital only to find that the arm was in fact severely broken and just short of a compound fracture. 

The doctor said he would try his best to re-position the arm in a way that would get him through until he could see an orthopedic surgeon.  Then he pulled us aside and warned that there may be complications: nerve damage, growth damage, unrepairable bone damage and then the worse and I quote, "When we knock Brandon out, there's a chance he could die!"  My wife and I almost fainted!  Then we had to sign the forms before they put our baby under anesthesia.  The last words from Brandon with tears in his eyes were, "I'm sorry Dad, and Happy New Year!"

Thank God he pulled through the procedure, but now has a long road ahead with an orthopedic surgeon and the fear of possible surgery, casts, x-rays, physical therapy, and all that comes with severely broken bones.


On January 2nd, 2008, we thought we had seen the worst! 
The year could only get better right?  Wrong.  The news networks and radio stations were telling all residents living in our area to prepare for one of the worst storms ever.  The City provided sand bags for homeowners to come fill and place around their homes.  They said the storm would last 3 days and hit Central California really hard.  My older son (with two good arms) helped me fill 30 sand bags and place them all around our house.  The memories of the flood that hit us two years ago seemed like it was just yesterday!  Then the rain started to pour, and the wind started to blow.  I thought man, it can't get any worse than this. 

 


On January 3rd, 2008, I was asked to come into our Corporate Office in Concord for a meeting with the Regional Marketing Manager for my Company, First American Title.  I informed him I had numerous appointments already scheduled for the day, and I needed to watch our home for flooding.  He said it was imperative that we meet!  As my son cried in pain, and the rain pummeled our home, I drove into my office only to find that I was being laid off after 20 years of combined service to my company.  Almost half my life with this organization, and now, it was all over! Just like that!  No reason, just cutting back.  OMG!  Holy Cow!!  Now what?  How do I tell my wife and kids?  What am I going to do?  The term "Happy New Year" is now the furthest from reality for me and my family!  What an emotional ride this year has been already!

To make matters worse and even more unbearable, we have been without power in our home for the past 48 hours due to the hard hitting storms of Central and Northern California.  This is the first time we have had power and the ability to make contact with the outside world in 2 days.  I want to say that the worst has to be over, but every time I say that, something else happens!  So how do you overcome adversity, change, and life's challenges?  I really don't know other than to lean on GOD as the spiritual leader, and my friends and family for their love and support. 

 The Andersohn family still has so much to be grateful for, we still have each other.  We have so many friends and are surrounded by so many great people, we just know we're going to pull through this.  My one and only goal right now is to provide for my family, and to find work in the next few days.  I am on a mission to find a place to call home before I lose my own.  I hope to find a company that will see me as more than just a number.  That may mean I'll have to start my own!  LOL!~  Please keep the Andersohn Family in your thoughts, and if you believe, in your prayers too!  You have all been the best thing that has happened to us this past year, and we will never forget the love and support we have received here.

In closing, I just want to say that finding a way to overcome adversity, change, and life's challenges might not be what we are really looking for.  Everything happens for a reason (I think) and learning to press on toward the goal might be the true lesson here.  Thanks for letting me share our "New Year" with you.  Our hearts may be broken, but our spirits are strong!  Adversity and Change may act as they do, but we WILL overcome!  Life's challenges are inevitable, but being able to look back on circumstances and knowing that it will be OK, is what gives us the thrill of Victory as opposed to the agony of Defeat!  Until the next time, Be Blessed, Be Thankful for what you have, and most of all, Enjoy Your Journey, it's the only one you get!  :-)

 
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207 Comments on Overcoming Adversity, Change & Life's Challenges

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Oh Brad. I am so, so, sorry.  I can't even begin to imagine what you have been through in the last few days.  I was just dealing with the storm, none of the other stuff.   A big hug to you. 

You are strong, you are clearly incredibly talented, smart and capable.  Your son is alive and you have your family.  The storm has passed.  Hold your chin up, keep your spirit strong, better things are on the horizon.  Sometimes life's setbacks are a way of making us stronger, and leading us in a new and more prosperous direction.

Big hugs again!

10:38pm • #1
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Brad.. I don't know where to start... You are an amazing father, husband, provider and an extremely talented person that will overcome all of these challenges. Many companies would love to have you and I know that search will go well. (you own gig might be good too though!) Many thoughts and prayers are with you. Man, I wish we had someone like you in the escrow business here.. So willing to help others. This will always be a huge asset of yours! Your friend, Nick
10:40pm • #2
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Brad, I am so sorry to hear all this I am at a loss for words.  I know your strength and courage will pull you through the rough times and I send you and your family many blessings!
10:41pm • #3
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Brad, I'm so sorry for all the setbacks and bad news the new year has brought, but I see your perspective remains in tact and without sounding cliche "when one door closes...." I hope you'll let us know when the new one opens. My thoughts are with you, your son and your whole family.

-Colleen

10:43pm • #4
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Brad, You have the right idea. Lean on the Lord and your friends & family. I will be praying for you and your family during this time. Remember the song "Lean on Me". You can call on me brother when you need a hand, we all need somebody to lean on. Stay strong in the Lord. Blessings to you and your family.
10:50pm • #5
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Brad, I am feeling your pain. I am so bummed for you. Twenty years and they say bye bye. Just not fair. 

Hope your son is better soon.

Our life has been the complete opposite and Monika has posted the first part and I have done the last 2 parts.

We will pray for you and your future success.

 

10:51pm • #6
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Brad: Yup...we all go through curve balls that life throws us.... I too went through some stuff...but ya know what Brad? Good things happen to good people....and it'll all work out if even for a learning lesson somewhere. One thing is for certain....the strength of your family will prevail!
10:53pm • #7
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Good luck to you Brad.  I will be watching your blog posts for updates.  I know you will pull through the tough times, and perhaps it will all turn out even better than you hoped.  You will be in my thoughts.
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Brad, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  I hope your son recovers soon and fully.  Your next employer is lucky to have you.  Thank you for giving your help so freely here on AR.  How can we help in return?
10:55pm • #9
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Brad - Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt. All I can say is THIS
11:08pm • #10
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No one who gives as much as you do will not be given to in return.  I will pray for you.  Please let us know how things are going.  Did you read Sally's Curve Ball post?  It's a great lift.  I think you will be hitting those pitches life is throwing.

Your family is beautiful.  Is your son wearing a Cal Poly SLO tshirt?

11:09pm • #11
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Brad - So sorry to hear about your misfortune the last few days.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  When one door closes, two open.  I'll be watching your blog for updates on your job search and sons recovery. 
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Hang in there. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. You are talented. When one door shuts another opens. All the best.
11:26pm • #13
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Brad, I am so sorry to hear this news.  I'm glad the storms are over, and your son is improving.  Hope his arm heals completely.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers and you will come through these bad times!  Like Sally said, "Good things happen to Good People" -- and you are Good People.  Keep us updated and if you need anything, you have my number.  :)  
11:27pm • #14

It is often said that things happen in 3's... but WOW.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!  I also believe that everything happens for a reason and that the Lord only challenges us with what he knows we can handle and what will make us stronger.  You WILL overcome adversity... obtaining a job where you and your talents are recognized and appreciated!  I wish your son a speedy and successful recovery!  Best wishes to you and your family for a new beginning to the new year.

Lisa Sherman ~ Interior Aura

11:34pm • #15
Wow, Brad. Welcome to 2008, eh? But seriously, keep your hear high, and your attitude positive. I have always found it amazing that just when you think you know where you are headed, you hit a sudden and abrupt curve in the road. The bright side is that road can sometimes take you in directions you never imagined. Good luck, and hang in there!
11:35pm • #16
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Brad, Your resolve is amazing. best wishes to you and your family from ours in Des Moines Iowa
11:36pm • #17
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Brad - You are such a great person!  How do I know this? Because of all you have freely given to everyone on Active Rain.  You are the first person to reach out to new bloggers and offer a virtual resource of information and experience.  I cannot imagine how you are writing such a powerful post at this time, except for your tremendous courage and faith in God.  You have many many friends who will stand with you, pray for you, and offer help in any way they can.  If I could be there to help out I would, and I know many other people can and will do more for your family.  I will remember your family in my prayers.

Can't wait to read your post when you tell us how things turn out for you!  Something wonderful is going to happen for you.  I can tell you that similar things have happened to me very recently, and in looking back I now realize that my life is much better for having overcome the adversity as you said in this post.

I love the song that Rich Jacobson linked to in his comment... thanks, Rich!  Keep believing, Brad!

11:39pm • #18
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Brad,  I know that it is shocking although look to who you are inside.  Twenty Years-- They are just writing you off as a number!!  I had the same thing happen and it makes me better inside knowing I had better places to go.  In time you will see.  Things normally happen in three.  Take one big step in the right direction.  Do what you and your family will really want out of life.
11:40pm • #19

Brad - What a fabulous opportunity God has given to you!  You get to spend a bit more time with your son and family . . .the rain has washed away the allergic pollens and cleaned the air . . . and you get to go out and do something that you absolutely love.  Brad, you're a great blogger, a fabulous teacher, obviously well educated and well liked by all that I can see.  Can you take what you have written and turn it into a publication(s) to help others? Going into business for yourself isn't all bad.  Many people would love to get your assistance.  Whatever you and your family do . . .remember that YOU ARE IN GOD'S HANDS AND HE WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.  I've been where you are in many similar ways . . . and God wrapped his arms around us.

I wish your son a speedy recovery . . .thank goodness children usually heal quickly.  I know you will do well with whatever you decide to do in your life.

If there is anything that I can do for you or your family . . .please let me know.

11:41pm • #20

Brad,

You sound like a solid guy.  I realize that everything around you is crumbling and that's rough.  But YOU, seem solid.  Yes, everything happens for a reason......so when the world sends you messages in such a dramatic fashion, it is clear that you are in for a significant change.  The question is, can you clear your mind and see it?  Man, it has to be right in front of you! 

Hey, Blogging is becoming a pretty big industry.  You seem pretty good at that.  You write well.  Could this be your calling?  It's funny how what you focus on becomes real.  There are more than a few real estate professionals that could use your assistance in creating a fancy blog.  You mentioned California, so it's probably expensive where you live.  But I'll bet you could charge a respectable fee monthly to collaborate with agents on their blogs.  I know it's "taboo" to write for someone, so I re-iterate, "collaborate." 

Try to find the meaning in this.  There is one.  It's going to mean a lot once you have put it in perspective.  Opportunity is definitely knocking on your door my man.  ANSWER!!!

Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I hope your son is feeling better.

All the best,

Rob

 

11:59pm • #21
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Brad, I'm amazed at your strength.  This was a tear jerker.  My son broke his wrist, but it wasn't nearly as serious as your son's.  We went through the floods in Iowa in 1993, but stayed dry.  I can't even imagine picking myself off the floor if Mick lost his job...but I would. 

Your family is gorgeous.  You are a great person and oh, what idiots they were to let you go.  I look forward to hearing good news as you progress.  In the meantime, I'll be praying for you and your family. 

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Brad- All is can say is 'bless your heart.'  Just know that there is a reason for everything and a silver lining in even the worst of situations.  With your positive attitude, you will surely come out on top.  You'll be in my prayers...

Debe in Charlotte, NC

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Hi Brad - I think you're doing a great job so far. You've taken ownership of the situation and approached it with a real positive attitude. A lot of people would be hesitant to share something like this publicly, but I think that doing so helps you in two ways -- first it lets you sort out your thoughts and start working on a solution, and second, you never know what kind of idea or connections one of us might have that can help you out. Good luck, and keep us posted!
12:28am • #24
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Wow Brad!  I'm stunned!  And so so so sorry you and your family are experiencing such turmoil.  I know what all that feels like (I won't go into it here) and I can tell you that when you make up your mind to pass that final exam that God has planned for you things will turn around almost instantly.

I know I used to look heavenward and say, "God!  If this is some kind of test, please mark me pass or fail and let me out of this class!"  I guess I learned whatever the lesson was because it wasn't too awfully long before life was making sense again.

Stay focused on the important things - family, friends and life in general.  The rest will work out and you all will most likely be happier because of it.

Please call if there is anything I can do from 3,000 miles away.  Even if it's to listen to you vent. 

PS:  I'm glad your son is going to be OK.  I know he's hurting right now, but at least you still have him.  And that's the important thing. 

12:35am • #25

Brad, I cannot believe it.  I think I can speak for everyone here that your other family (ActiveRain) has your back and if there is anything that any of us can do for you and your family- you know how to reach us.  You have given up so much of your time helping so many of us learn about blogging and all the great tools at our disposal- it's the least that we can do! 

You have a beautiful family and they are very lucky to have you.  Our prayers will be with you and your family.   

1:01am • #26
Brad, Hang in there,  you have family, friends here at AR and life.  Everything else can be rebuilt or replaced. 
1:04am • #27
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Brad,

I really, really wish I had some magic words for you today.   What a bummer!  We are going through some very frightening times right now and it is testing our wits.  I wish your son a full and speedy recovery.  I wish your family happiness and joy; and for you, my friend, I wish that somebody here in the 2.0 recognizes your incredible talent, your formidable people skills and your kind nature and offers you the job of a lifetime!!! You deserve it and they would be blessed with a wonderful new associate.  Best of luck Brad.

 

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Brad, After talking with you on Friday, I know that you will get through this and become stronger like gold in the fire. I feel in my heart that this will be an opportunity for greater things. Right now it hurts and you are in shock, and a whole gamut of emotions are engulfing you. That's okay let them flow. 

A brighter day is coming and your burdens will be relieved. Keep trusting in God. There a song I love that says. "When you don't understand, when you can't see His plan, when you can't trace His hand, trust His heart!. He has great plans for you .. believe!  We are waiting for the good news you will be posting soon.  Meanwhile we're praying for you! GBU. Let us know if we can do anything for you!

Ginger 

 

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Brad,  I am praying for you.  This is so much, so fast.  By sharing this here, you will have people all over the country praying for you and your family. 

I agree with others that you will find an opportunity you may have overlooked had this not happened.  

Ginger is right, trust His heart.  

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good luck, bad luck, who knows.

You seem like a guy who will make the most of it and before you know it your family will be swept up in a new and exciting chapter in your lives.  Opportunity will knock. will you let it in?

4:19am • #31
Brad, I thought I had a rough start this year, but you really did.  The picture tells all, you have a beautiful family and much to be thankful for.  Good luck to you
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Brad-I'm sorry to hear that 2008 has started off on such a sour note for you and your family.  Sometimes the what is thrown at us becomes a rallying call to create a new path for your life.  Best of luck to you and a speedy recovery for your son.
6:05am • #33
Brad, That is about as tragic of a story you can hear, without actually losing someone. I sure hope things turn around for you. What a great way you have of looking at this major adversity. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
6:09am • #34
Brad, I am so sorry to hear about your bad start to the New Year. I do know from reading your blogs you are an amazing man and will come out of this much stronger. You and your family will be in my prayers.
6:28am • #35
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Brad, To be hit on one front is bad enough but three at once can be unbearable. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers and I believe there are great things ahead for you.
6:56am • #36
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Brad...My heart goes out to you. I just know that something much better is heading your way. You have so much to offer, your family is all together, you have a home....it will all work out. 

 

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Hi Brad - so many great things have already been written in the comments above me, and I second them all.  You will come out on the brighter side of all this, all of you in your family will, and you'll have some really great news because of that to share with us, just as you've shared the turmoil you've been dealing with so far in this very young year.

Laurie said it all, and with that is also my hope that because of all your giving and sharing and teaching here online, a fabulous opportunity will come your way very quickly.

I'm keeping you close in my thoughts and heart, Brad - you WILL come out of this even better than before.

Hugs to you,
Ann

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Oh, Brad - I know you from here as well as Facebook and I just can not believe what I have read.  I know that I woke up this morning "kinda on the wrong side of the bed" and feeling down that several things have not "panned" out for me recently.  I grabbed some coffee, logged in and read your post.  I cried!  Not for me but for you.  Be strong!  You are such a beacon to most of us, full of knowledge, always helpful, kind, strong, and someone that I most definately call a friend.  You and your family will most certainly come through this to the other side stronger for each other and stronger as a team.  There is a reason for everything (although, like you, I think and hope) and the lessons you learn, the strength that you muster, the love in your heart that grows will guide you and gently put you down where you belong.  Be good to each other and I will know you will look back one day and know why this all happened!!!!

Lot's of love and good thoughts, my friend!
Leesa

7:28am • #39

Brad buddy, you and your family are in my prayers.  (I have a similar story which I am not quite ready to share.) 

My wife and I were talking last evening.  You know how sometimes when we are going through adversity all we can see and feel is the pain.  Then a year or so later we look back and say, "There was a lot of good that came out of that."  The fact is, the good was in it as we were going through it.  We just couldn't see it.

You have a great attitude.  It is certainly First American's loss.  You can do much better and you will!!!

 

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Brad,

I'm shocked...I'm sorry about your son and the floods but in business the feeling of a we are family really changed my outlook when I worked for a place such as that and only to find out that in the end we are just a number. Layoffs are tough but I believe with your talents and background there are companies out there just waiting to hear you are available to join and make a new and fresh start...good luck and I hope we still see you here.

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Brad, this is probably one of the most important posts I have read.  It really puts life in perspective and also shows what a truly strong person you are.  As others have said, your talents may lead you in an entirely new and exciting  direction...one that you wouldn't have tried had you stayed in title.  When you get hit this hard and survive to tell the story, years later you will realize as tough as your world gets you survived and that knowledge will be the foundation of your new life.  We are all here for you...60,000+ hugs!
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Brad,

Just know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.  You've really been given a handful, but something tells me there are better things on the horizon for you!!

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Brad,

So sorry to hear about the events of the last few days.  You have the right attitude and tons of talent..I'm sure you'll be up and at em in no time.

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Brad,

There is a reason for all this so consider it an opportunity to find your true calling.  You have amazing talent.  You know the old saying about when one door closes another opens. Embrace the change.

 I hope your son is on the mend soon.   Your whole family is in my prayers. 

Linda

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WOW, Brad. What a truly rocky start to the New Year. You are a man with numerous skills that I am certain your future employer will cherish. Day by day is the only way to get it through it
8:38am • #46
Brad,
Whoa, my friend!  I am terribly sorry to hear about your misfortunes.  Like you said, you still have your belief, your faith, and your family.  And of course your AR friends!  We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.  Take care, my friend.
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Brad,  I'm so sorry to hear this new year has launched itself with so much turmoil for you.  It seems when hard times hit they hit in multiples.  Just know that your positive outlook, many talents and inner strength will get you far and I have absolutely no doubt that God has a plan with something really wonderful on the horizon for you!

You have received so many wonderful and supportive comments above that all I really want to add now is ditto.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, God Bless!

8:44am • #48
Brad -- If your blogs are any indication of your strengh and character (and I believe they are)  then I believe the best is yet to be for you and your family.  Please keep up updated as to the wonderful and amazing turns your life takes from here. . . you have a cheering section like none other!
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Brad,

As I write this we are mourning the passing of my mother on January 3! Our prayers will be with you and your family. The Lord never closes a door but that He does not open a new and better one! Lean on Him, your family, and your friends...yes, even here on AR! God bless you in this time of difficulty! Thanks,   Fran

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Brad - it does seem to be piling on, doesn't it?  I'll bet that you've got a few dozen people from ActiveRain who are already thinking about job leads - aren't they looking for someone at ActiveRain?  (What on earth is First American Title thinking, when you get them so much visibility with your blogging?) 

As to your son - it is scary, and I can report from personal experience that it's likely he'll be just fine.  My son is no worse for wear, after two serious incidents with multiple broken bones in his leg.

Hang in there.  Things have a way of working out!

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Brad - I am just stunned after reading this. Eventhough I don't really know you I feel like I do. To have all this happen in a matter of days is just beyond belief. I can't even beging to imagine the thoughts going through your mind right now. I am happy to here your son is fine. I am going to have you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Brad,

You are incredible.....I have you and your family in my thoughts and my prayers.  God makes changes for us sometimes.......

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Brad- I am sorry to hear about this.  Life can provide us some very interesting challenges - but it sounds like you have a lot of hope and a strong spirit.  You will be fine I am sure; but it is certainly not a way to start a New Year.  Take care!
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Brad, my heart is so heavy for you and your family. I know it will all work out and like Steve Jobs said in his video where he spoke at a graduation ceremony, in life we look back and connect the dots. He said if he had not lost his job at Apple, he wouldn't have started Picsa and made the first annomated film, and met his wife and have his children. The Picsa was bought by Apple and the rest is history.

Someday you will be able to share with us the dots. If you haven't seen this YouTube watch it, I made all my kids watch it during Christmas.

Adversity and trials come in multitudes and we see it is in 3's alot, so hopefully this is over for now. What you said is true, you have your family and God. I know something better will open up. Don't panic, wait for the right opportunity. I'm sure when this hits the streets you will be sought out. I know AR is hiring, you would be great here.

"The steps of a good man are ordered my the Lord".

9:31am • #55

Brad,
I just revisited this post because I had an idea...but it looks like I was beaten to the punch!  Like a few people before me mentioned...isn't AR looking to hire some good folks?  We all know you would be a great addition. 

9:42am • #56
Oh Brad, I am so sorry about all this. You are leaning on the Lord and your friends. He must have a better plan for you. I will keep you in my prayers and you. My pastor always says, " God is good all the time." Sometimes it doesn't seem that way in the natural. You are a blessing and I am know you will get through this.
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Brad - you are the second seasoned vetran I heard of FATCo doing this to.... I am mad - no - I am pissed - I know you will find something maybe even better for you.... but FATCo - well they will never be the same after they kick their best to the curb instead of depending on them.

I hope your son's arm does well - and did you keep the rain away?  My husband was stuck in that storm and did not make it home this weekend... we have had a lot of snow - keep smiling and it will work out.

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Brad:  Please update your profile and replace "First American Title" with FATCo... as I think that is the way your AR fans will think of it in the future!  Thesa's comment is right on... never the same!  Be blessed!!
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BRAD - You have given so much to this community, so when I saw a featured post from you, I was just expecting some more of your wisdom.  My heart sank when you wrote about what the doctors told you could happen with anesthesia.  I can't even imagine the horror that your family went through at that time.  Thankfully, he's ok, even if he has a long road ahead of him to recovery.  To have the flood happening at the same just adds to the drama, and then to have your company lay you off without even giving a reason is unthinkable.  Since we don't deal directly with title companies here, I don't know a lot about what makes someone good at that job, but getting to know you on AR leads me to believe that your company just made a huge mistake.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Thank you for sharing and for lending some perspective to all of us.
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Brad,

I do not even begin to know what to say to you. From what I have learned about you, you and your family are intelligent, hardworking, loving people and you always have your priorities straight. I still remember your post about your son leaving home last year and how poignantly it expressed the feelings of all parents! Setbacks in life are what makes us who we are, and while this may sound cliche', it is truth. Focus on your priorities, your family is first and although everything you just wrote about is a priority:(, only you know where to begin. Already you are starting your forward movement, and I have no doubt you and your family will not only overcome, but rather start a great new Chapter in your lives! We, here at Active Rain, are certainly all sending our thoughts and wishes your way. Please be sure to post your needs if you think anyone here can help.

Peace:)

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Brad... I am with Karen...  I will say that you have had a lot happen to you in just one week and the beginning of a new year. I remember reading about your son and his arm. But in regards to your job, all I can offer is my support and that I am sorry. I will say that it's great to have family near and around you when these things take place. As many have said, focus on your priorities, your family. You are a good person and things will work itself out for the best. They have for me in the past when I was faced with a loss of job once. Good luck....

jeff belonger
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Brad-I know this is heart wrenching right now but as you know...this too shall pass!  I think we are going to see more cutbacks from many of these companies and honestly it BITES!  You are not the first person...I have known to lose their job at First AM.... it makes me sad...and really concerns me.

For me I have had these discussions with the owner of our company already if something should change..I'll be ok...I can find work elsewhere for the survival of the company...Lucky for us...it has not come to that....but if it should...it is what it is..but I did lay it out on the table for her!...companies do what they can do for survival.

I believe there will be a better opportunity for you!  Change is good but maybe not all at once! :(  You have a beautiful spirit and a lot of knowledge...who would not want to hire you ?

Happy to hear about your son...I think anything like that with your children or any of your loved ones for that matter...really touch you and scare the heck out of you...the joy you must feel right now...only a parent could imagine!

In my mind...we become stronger with challenge...it's just a matter of how we handle it!  Thank you for sharing this part of yourself with us..and if ever I can be of help....please let me know.  Remember Brad...you are never alone and you have your peeps to prove that!  

 

10:17am • #63

Brad, your post reads something like the book of Job;

Job 1: 14And there came a messenger unto Job, and said ...

           16While he was yet speaking, there came also another, and said ...

           17While he was yet speaking, there came also another, and said ...

           18While he was yet speaking, there came also another, and said ...

I'm sure your situation feels similar. Take heart and remember how the book ends.

My heart is with you and I will be praying for you and your family.  This is a testing of your faith, hold fast remembering that ‘Faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen'. And ‘All things are possible to him that believes'.

I look forward to hearing the good report, for we know that ‘all things work together for good, to them that love God and are called according to his purpose'.

And believe me when I say that my sentiments are not without substance. I have endured tragedy and overcome adversity. I am seasoned by my experiences and stronger in faith than ever before.  God be with you and if you need more encouragement, nothing is more powerful than the word of God, read Romans 8: 33 - 39.

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It's difficult to come up with something to say in a comment here. Just wanted to let you know that I read this and am thinking about you. You've written about this all in such a positive way. I'm a little amazed that you even found the time to write a blog, let alone share everything that's happened. I'm thinking good thoughts for you.

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Brad, again, you've given us all something here with the story that you've just shared.  I don't know how I would take all that you've been through in the last few days, but I would hope that I could have your outlook. You are facing these adversities with so much strength, bravery and a level head.  The saying, "God doesn't give you anything you can't handle" really applies in your situation.  I wish you all the best this year, I know you and your family will overcome all this. 
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Wow!  That's a challenging 3 days, brother!

I have been thinking about you all weekend!  I know you'll land on your feet!

If there is anything I can do  - let me know.  I do hope to see you on Monday! (if you can make it)

 

 

 

10:34am • #67

Brad, just wanted to add my best wishes to the others.  Life bites sometimes but we are all proof that we can keep going and get through it.  Sorry that you have been given a new test to pass, but of course you will and before you know it you will be looking back at this from a new start.   I can relate to your son, when I was young I broke three bones in my arm after performing a wonderfully high jump off a swing.  Getting to wear a cast to school and having everyone wanting to sign it was cool though :)   

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Brad -

It is how a person adversity that really defines his or her character.  You've got a strong family behind you - and your gratitude shows, and will overcome these challenges!

Thanks so much for sharing, and helping us all see what is really important as we go about our lives.

DEAN & DEAN'S TEAM CHICAGO

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Life's obstacles..hmm..if you look at it this is what you have to work with, and obstacles as guidance to appreciating what is precious, you can take it all in stride and be grateful which you have done...makes your family closer too because they all went thru the "storm". Somehow consider it all joy.  Good post.  The way it is, is the way it is. Sounds like you handled what was thrown at you pretty well. Thanks for sharing.
10:47am • #70
I am a overly sorry for what has happened. You said it best when you talked about leaning on God. He is there for you and I believe that things happen for a reason. Only time will tell. Keep your head up, and my family and I will keep you in our prayers.
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Brad, so many good words here and so much support. You are such a talent and such a contributor in all you do. Network and get the word out....a better place is waiting. I read this early this morning and have been thinking of you ever since. I send you good energy and prayers for your son and family. You will come to a better place. You are so good and talented. Sally said it well. Good things come to good people. My confidence in that is solid and so I know that career wise you will excel and you must have been ready for the change. It is extremely hard to give another advice under these circumstances, but I know on some level that it will work out for you. I have lost my son and so I know how it resets our priorities and our perspectives on life. Each new day is an opportunity for me for renewal and to find those positive things in life that I can celebrate. Family is the dearest of all. God bless you and yours and if there is anything I can help you with, please call me. 530 276-7417. You are indeed a treasure to us all!
10:59am • #72

Brad:  I’m completely stunned by your post.  And I’m reminded of a book my husband got as a gift one time…  “Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People”  I am glad your son’s surgery turned out O.K., what a nightmare for you and your family.  I will keep him and your family in my prayers.    

Look at all the teaching you have done here on Active Rain.  What would most of us have done without you.  You have what it takes to start your own company, to do anything you set your mind to do.  You are a talented man.  You have a huge fan club here... lean on us.

I felt a sense of inadequacy in expressing my grief and sadness… Here are two quotes that sum up my feelings.  We love you, Brad... 

“Look not mournfully into the past, it comes not back again. Wisely improve the present, it is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future without fear and with a manly heart.”
Henry
Wadsworth Longfellow

“Success in the affairs of life often serves to hide one's abilities, whereas adversity frequently gives one an opportunity to discover them.”  Horace

10:59am • #73

Hello,  This is Debra, Brad's wife.  First of all, I want to thank all of you here for your kind words and encouragement.  Brad posted this last night and when the comments started to come in, I sat at the computer with him to read them.  We had a hard time getting through each one without tears.  What great friends you all are.

I DO believe (and I was telling Brad this as we were waking up this morning) that everything happens for a reason.  I personally have been seeing Brad literally pour his heart and soul into his job for many years.  There is something out there better for someone like my husband,  hopefully we can get our lives back in balance now.  God does allow bumps in the road to happen so we are allowed to make choices.   He checks us every now and then.  We all need to surrender our control to him...why keep such a burden?  

I am confident that my husband will always flourish in his career because it is his passion.  Even now, he has some options that are opening up for him.  My husband is an amazing man and if he gets rewarded for his efforts (which he will) then we will be blessed beyond our wildest dreams.  But we are blessed anyway aren't we?  I wish to write and record music with my husband once again, music is his real passion.  

I know my husband plans on commenting back to all of you, but right now, he is trying the best he can to just deal with all the emotions that are beginning to surface.  After reading the first few comments here, he had to just walk away.  

I hope that one day, we can travel and meet each one of you who have brought so much happiness to my husband, and who have been such a great support for him.  I also want to thank his clients and friends in the local community for accepting me and my family, and for allowing us to be a part of yours.  We are blessed, and it's because of all of you.

Thanks again for your love, thoughts, and prayers...

Love, Debra Lee Andersohn 


11:03am • #74
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Brad - I'm so sorry for all the you and your family are going through right now. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prays, Brad.
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Brad - I'm sure a bigger and better job is waiting for you.  We have to leave the old behind in order to begin the new.
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Brad & Debra... The medical people out there could use some bedside manner...  We have three boys and have gone through everything from bloody gashes requiring stitches to broken broken bones and I don't every recall the bluntness of death. Of course they do always provide the warning that with any anesthesia death could result. Hang tough and smile... you'll find your footing and carry on.
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Debra & Brad, they say things come in 3's and it would appear that you have managed to get all three at once. On the bright side it's only UP from here.

I do hope that your son gets through all of this with little to no damage. He is of course the most important right now.

The storm is over at least for now. Glad to know that you survived it. I only had about 3 sections of fence down but certainly did not have to contend with sandbags or electrical outages since our lines are underground.

As far as your job...I can't even begin to imagine. I know that my favorite Title Company (should say Title officer) shut their doors down before Christmas which left me high and dry not to mention those that worked there.

My heart goes out to you. Considering your wealth of information and excellent Internet skills as well as your people skills...I have every confidence that you will be back in the saddle thriving and better than ever!

You have a wonderful family and a supportive wife...that's more than half the battle right there. You are truly blessed because you have what many don't. Take this down time to be with your family and embrace on another.

I see great things for you! (By the way, the word I have to type to submit this comment is LOVE-IN-A-MIST how apropos!

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Brad, there's really not that much more to say. Everyone pretty much summed it up. I just couldn't read your story and not post a comment. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Debra - I love that you wrote to us so we could know how you're both doing right now.  It's probably the toughest start to a new year most of us have heard about.  You have each other, clearly with what you wrote, and with that combined strength, you WILL come through this.

Brad - Debra said you already have some potential opportunities presenting themselves.  How great is that?  Take the time to really sift through them.  This is your chance to pick and choose just what direction you want to head in - that's what this has provided you, YOUR chance to choose.  And from what we all know from you and of you from here on AR, any company that you choose to go with will be mighty fortunate to have you working with them.

Hold your head up, hang tough, smile and know there are all kinds of good things in store for you and your family.  We all know it - hope you do, too!

Hugs to you both!
Ann

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Brad and Debra:  I am so sorry this is all happening to your family.  When it rains it seems to pour, literally!  I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.  As the rain started to come down in our valley I kept thinking of Cali, with the past fires and now the threat of mudslides.  The west sorely needs the precipitation but what a double edged sword!!  Keep us posted on all including poor little Brandon and the daddy job search!  I know you can get through this with your attitude.  Like Debra mentioned, things happen for a reason.  Maybe Brad is meant to be at a better company with bigger challenges for 2008!

Best of Luck to you Andersohn Family!

12:05pm • #81
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Wow! That's a really bad string of luck. Losing a 20 year job is a very big blow. Don't make any major decisions while you are in this frame of mind. Time will help heal you and you have family support. Go on long walks in the woods. That really helps me clear my mind. Good luck to you.
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OMG, Brad. What a story. You've had enough adversity to last a lifetime in just a few days. Best wishes to Brandon for a quick recovery! Please let me know if there is ANYTHING I can do. I know you will be just fine - these sorts of things are there to keep life interesting and challenging, and test our strength I think.

Jeff 

12:15pm • #83

Brad, wow!! what a true life story. I hope your son gets well soon and I am sure you will find a way to overcome this situation, it sounds like Debra is a great gal. Good Luck.

Manny Reynaldo - www.2bocahomes.com
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Hi Brad,

I'm very sorry to hear about all those things that is happening to your family and I know good things are in your future.  Just keep on keeping on with the same attitude you project here on Active Rain. 

Wishing you and your family a prosperous and healthy 2008.

12:25pm • #85
Wow is all I can say...Your positive thougthss are refreshing..  Prayesr and our thoughts for you.
12:26pm • #86

Brad

Your story is inspirational.  I'm new to AR and this is my introduction to your blog.  I plan to go back and read your past writings.  You have a wonderful attitude...that alone will give you the strength you need.  Like others have posted, things do happen for a reason and obviously you have somewhere else you are meant to be.  Thank you for reminding us all just what is important in life!

Sharon
12:31pm • #87

Hang in there Brad!!  You and your family will make it through these tough times.  It is the tough times that make the good times feel so much better, just remember 10 years from now none of this will matter.

Take care!

RJH 

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Brad   Your story is inspirational.  I'm new to AR and this is my introduction to your blog.  I plan to go back and read your past writings.  You have a wonderful attitude...that alone will give you the strength you need.  Like others have posted, things do happen for a reason and obviously you have somewhere else you are meant to be. Thank you for reminding us all just what is important in life!

12:37pm • #89
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Brad,
I'm very saddened to hear of all you've been going through this past week. They say these things come in threes, so I'm hoping now you've received these negative things, everything will turn around and start to get better.
I have every confidence that you'll come out of all of this stronger than ever and during life's hardships, I always recall my Dad's favourite saying 'Out of adversity, comes strength.'

I'll keep you and your family in my talks with the Great Mystery,

Jo 

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Oh Brad!

I feel just so heartbroken for you on so many levels after reading this.  I wrote to you asking where your happy face was on RealEstate411 and when you replied that you had no power, I thought you were just having a power outage.  Then I saw on the news what was going on in your neck of the woods in the weather and I felt bad.  Now I read this and the tears are just pouring down my face.  Being a Mother, I can only imagine how you must have felt hearing those words from the doctor concerning your son.  There are so many harsh things life puts in our way but our children being in harm's way is one that has to be the most devastating.  We all must overcome adversity in life for sure.  But to have so much thrown at a family at once has to be unbarable.  one of my favorite sayings is that all things happen for a reason.  Another of my favorites is that when God closes one door - he opens a window.  I pray that the light will stream in that window for you and your famiily and you are so very definitely in our prayers.  We wish you continued hope and strength to meet all the challenges you now face and know that you have friends who are praying for you and your family. 

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Wow Man...that stinks. The unfortunate part of these experiences is that there seems to be no real reason for it at the time. However, at the times life tries us the most is when we find out what we are made of and when you look back on this experience, you will discover that you wouldn't change any of it (well except the broken arm of course). 

Your family deserves credit and praise for handling this situation so well...kuddos 

 

1:23pm • #92
Tremendous opportunity can come out of great adversity.  With your attitude and abilities I am sure things will turn out better for you than they were before.  I pray that your sons arm heals perfectly.  
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Howdy Brad

Frist I would like to thank you for always being very helpful and thinking of others on Active Rain, with all the helpful posts you take the time to write full of very good info.

I can also say that First American Title does not know what they are doing by laying off a man of your caliber.

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family Brad!

Have a good one

Dale

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Brad - Your story took my breath away.  I received a call from my son last August, just days before his 18th birthday.  He had broken his ankle playing touch football with the guys before they all left for their freshman year of college.  Like you and your wife, my husband and I were not prepared for what we saw when we met the ambulance carrying our son into the emergency room.  It was only by the Grace of God that it wasn't a compound fracture and we were given the same exact message you were - "We'll set this as well as we can before he sees the ortho surgeon, but the medication may kill him!"  That was enough to put me over the edge.  My son asked me to leave not because he didn't want me with him but because he didn't want him mom to see the pain he was in. 

The rest of your nightmare would put the best of us in bed for a month.  A man's true character is in the way he handles adversity and you are handling yours with grace, integrity and honor.  Your family will be fine.  You are an incredible man and though I've only been here a short time, your blogs are something I look to for guidance and perspective. 

So in an effort to do the same for you, look to God, your family and friends to sustain you through this very difficult time.  Whether it be spiritually, emotionally or financially, they will be there for you.  That's the very best advice I can give you.  Having that solid ground to balance the rest of your life will be the key to turning things around for you. 

Before you know it, you'll be in full swing, your son will be skateboarding again - much to your wife's dismay, I imagine :-), and your family will have become closer and wiser because of it.  In the meantime, I'm calling up my prayers to God and the saints to heal your son's broken arm and your family's broken hearts.  We are all here for you!

1:40pm • #95
I don't know where and how to start. I can't imagine what you have been through in the last few days, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Oh Brad, what a challenging beginning to the New Year! My heartfelt feelings of empathy go out to you and to your family.

You know? It always seems that no matter how challenging our lives seem to be, we would never trade places with the "other" person. Challenges and adversity refine our spirits and our nature.

It reminds me of the story of the rough rock that starts at the top of the mountain, only to end up a beautiful, smooth pebble with lots of colors and character in the river/stream below. Having traveled down the mountain hitting all of the jagged rocks, crevices, etc. have turned this rough rock into a treasure.

These challenges, adversities are in our lives to help us prepare for the next one. Truly! It is very true. I know. :-)


1:42pm • #97

Brad - First I want to say I hope you and your family are doing OK. Second that getting fired may be the best thing that ever happens to you it was for me -seemed devastating at the time - I was Sales Manager for a company that I gave 110% - broke record sales for and was never really happy.  Got fired on my 35th birthday and two days later was offered a great sales job for another company that I was with for 7 amazing years, which I left when I had a second baby and wanted to spend more time with my family.  When one door closes it leaves room for another to open.  It can be hard to see that when you are in the midst of a crisis but know that this is gods way of pushing you on to bigger and better things.  If you can read positive quotes everyday it will help motivate you and keep you on the right path to a new opportunity. 

Tracy Saunders
1:50pm • #98

Brad and Debra,  my heart goes out to you.  I too have a Brandon and he did undergo a surgical procedure not only once,  but twice.  They neglected to tell us that there was complications with the anesthesia,  I discovered this when I saw a bandage on his ankle (they did what is called a cut down) and upon uncovering it found stitches.  After investigating and speaking to the anesthesiologist he told me he would not be involved in another procedure on him as his heart stopped beating with both surgeries and he would not be involved in another.   They believed it to be an allergic reaction to the sodium pentothal.  Since then we have found two of our children are allergic to sodium pentothal. So I understand your concerns and any parents concerns about anesthesia.  I am relieved to hear he is doing better.  As others have stated children are resilient they bounce back quickly.  I think the parents feel the trauma for a much longer period of time then their children. There is nothing worse then seeing your child hurting and not being able to make it better,  having to reassure them they are in the hands of hopefully competent individuals.

I'm so sorry to hear of all you have gone through.   My thoughts and prayers will be with you and I too look forward to hearing from you in the near future as things settle down and prayerfully turn in a positive direction for you.

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Damn Brad!! Talk about life smacking you upside the head. I fee for you my friend. But as others had said, this too shall pass.

Maybe this is the opportunity to open your own business. I was 40 when TLW and I opened up Tutas Towne Realty and it was the best thing we have ever done. Granted we have many ups and downs but we are in control of our own destiny. It really gives you a lot of confidence and opportunities when you get to be the decision maker about which direction your career takes. If you are able to go for it. I can assure you if you do you will wonder why you hadn't done it sooner.

You and your family are in our prayers.

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Thank you for sharing your struggles.  My goodness....that is about ENOUGH for you and your family!  My thoughts, and prayers will go out to you.

Speedy recovery to your son, and an expedient job replacement for you!

-Mimi

2:13pm • #101
Just wanted to add my wishes that the year gets better for you and your family from here.  You have had enough adversity to last the year.
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Brad- Reading this i kept thinking "that sucks" and then you had another one, and another one.....OK, so now I think you have your supply for awhile....NOW the good will start.  As some have already said, once one door closes, another opens.

I live in CA and have seen every Title Company in our town close down.....or move.  My own New Year hasn't started great, had to close down one office.....and the other isn't doing so great either, and my own Mortgage is in jeopardy.....but whatever happens, I believe we will end up where we were meant to be. 

Best to all of you, Tomorrow is a new day......

2:46pm • #103
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Brad, I bet there is someone out there who has read your words and thought "What a great guy I wish he worked with me."  I really hope your next job will be an even better fit for you and your family.

Debra, Your support and love will be the anchor that helps Brad get through this trying time. I wish you both all the best, and a much better rest of 2008.

Brandon, My wish for you is a speedy, and full recovery. I hate it when my children get hurt, and I know your parents would trade places with you if they could.

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Brad, Debra and Brandon - I am so sorry about the physical and emotional pain you guys are going through. It takes strengths of character to write a post like Brad's. Even with 100+ comments expressing best wishes, you may still ask "why bad things happen to good people?". I know your family will be healthy, happy and secure again. In practical terms, I can offer my help (if you feel you need it) as someone who has experience in the executive search:resumes, interviews, strategies,etc. 
4:11pm • #105
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Brad, Debra and Brandon - I am so sorry about the physical and emotional pain you guys are going through. It takes strengths of character to write a post like Brad's. Even with 100+ comments expressing best wishes, you may still ask "why bad things happen to good people?". I know your family will be healthy, happy and secure again. In practical terms, I can offer my help (if you feel you need it) as someone who has experience in the executive search:resumes, interviews, strategies,etc. 
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Dear Brad and Debra, I can only imagine the pain of seeing your son's arm. He WILL get better. It's the hospital's job to give you the worst of news possible. Debra, I watched my son break his arm when he was sliding into third base as a teenager. Every night when I closed my eyes that would replay in my mind over and over. The Doctor's told me just about the same thing as far as needing much therapy. Today, they can assist miracles. My son had a full recovery. Don't forget that!

Both of you have a lovely family and I will say a prayer that soon all will be healed within. Brad, your writing has brought so many of us such great pleasure and I am learning so much from you. A person with your talent and knowledge shall succeed in any profession you choose.

In fact, I could use another Associate with my business. No resume required. Or, that's it! How about Active Rain?? Bob's looking. Sorry to be babbling but I wish you and yours the best of luck and health. I am flying out for a much needed vacation and will look forward to catching up in a couple of weeks. Y'all take care. Warmest of wishes, Deb

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Brad - It is hard to express how sorry I am to hear about your troubles.  My thought go out to you and your family.  I wish there was some way to help...
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Have a good day!As we drove to Northern Virginia today to take pictures of the new baby arriving home from the hospital, I was telling my husband about your post, which I read earlier this morning.  He suggested I send you this picture - I don't know where he got it, but he says these birds in flight are "God's way of saying everything will be fine!"

When I came back to post this, I saw your wife's comment... what a classy lady!  I have no doubt that you and she will conquer all.

Just for insurance, though, we'll keep you in our prayers!

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Brad, the fact that you have the spirit of an overcomer means that you are already on the path to coming out on top.

I am in agreement with you and your family for your son's healing and speedy recovery. The literal storm is over and you all seem to be fine. As for the job, I am very anti-job (can't wait to quit mine) so I think you have the right idea about starting your own company. At least you know the boss will love you.

You obviously haven't let any of these circumstances kill your spirits. They are just that...circumstances. This too shall pass. Keep your faith and look to the future. You may have had a rough few days but there are 365 days in this year. Make that 366 days...see you get a makeup day. :-)

I am excited to see how your family comes out on top and in a better position than you were before. Please keep us posted.

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Brad, since it appears that every single one of us has been touched by you in some way here in the Rain, I just KNOW that the wheels are turning and contacts are being made to point you towards the next step in your career.  Whether it's with a title company or in the music industry, I hope that you and your family hold tight to the love that is so evident in your photo. 
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I too have had to send my child off to surgery for a broken arm, so I feel your parental pain. 

I'm sorry you had to start off the new year on such a negative turn of events...wow.  But you sound like a guy with a great attitude and I would say things are already looking UP!

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Best wishes for quick healing for your son. And a great jpb for you. When I was first suffering from MS someone told me to look for the good that will come of it. It was very difficult at the time, but since I have seen some positive changes in my life.

I am sure you will come through this all. You are talented and have a great attitude.

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Brad -- stay close to your family, your friends, your faith and your colleagues.  Let us know what you need and how we can help.  My nephew - also named Brandon had a similar injury when he was playing soccer as a kid - and now he is doing fine - It is very difficult when so many things come at one time.  Just know that you have lots of prayers and lots of support!  Don't ever hesitate to call if there is any way I could help.
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Dear Brad and Debra, I don't even know what to say that hasn't already been said.  First and foremost, I hope that your son is feeling better and that his arm doesn't not cause him to have any more complications.  And that doctor at the hospital definitely needs to take a few CE classes in Bedside Manner 101.   The important thing is that your family is together and you are all safe.  Work will come, and with it will come a new passion and new opportunities ~ and you'll wonder if 2008 didn't start off so badly, would you have missed out somehow.  If there is anything that a Realtor from PA can help you with, don't hesitate to ask.
7:52pm • #115

I am so sorry. I am keeping your ohana (family) in my prayers..

God Bless

 

Whitney

8:13pm • #116
Keep your chin up.  God works in mysterious ways.  Sometimes we go through pain and loss in our lives only to discover new happiness.  Good luck!
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Brad, you are such a giving guy.  I have learned huge amounts from your blogs and know, just by the fact that I am commenter #145 that you are warmly appreciated by many more than just me.  I think that adversity comes at us when we have stopped paying attention.  It's usually a wake-up call of sorts.  In the case of losing a job, it's usually a wonderful 'setting free' to explore and do something one is much better suited to.  Of course, it doesn't help when the insensitive manager fires you on New Year's Eve (my case on horrid year) or close to it, as in yours.

Have you ever read the book 'Secrets of the Vine'.  It talks about a vineyard owner pruning his vines so that they can grow stronger and more fruitfully the following year.  is it by Bruce Wilkinson?  Same guy as the Prayer of Jabez.  his point is simply that you get cut down so that you can regroup, refocus and come back stronger.  This has certainly been true along my path and I hope it will be more than true for you and Debra.

As to your son...may he get well soon and heal strong.

Warmly wishing you strength and hope,

Juliet Johnson

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WOW Brad, if you don't think you have had a significant role in establishing this forum as a leader for industry change and evolution, just look at this support. You deserve it baby....take a celebration walk....Your Got Style! You will prevail, my dear friend! So good to see our AR family gather 'round to support a family member!
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Brad - We have had a tough beginning to the year as well, but nothing approaching what you are going through right now.  As you mentioned in your post, perhaps you can start your own company, since you have oodles of experience.  I know that the Lord has a terrific plan for your life, and that He often uses adversity to help us grow closer to Him.  I realize I am not telling you anything that you don't already know.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers.  Your story about Brandon reminded me of when my son (also named Brandon) had a surgery when he was only five months old.  I have never been forced to lean on God as much as I was on that day.  God bless the Andersohns!

8:36pm • #120

Brad,

I'm sorry you and your family have to go through these trying times.  I really believe that someone like you (very giving and caring) will come out ahead when this is all over.  Thanks for all your help in the AR community.  I will say a prayer for you and your family.  Here's to a bright future!

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Brad, Wow, I can't believe how much you've been through in less than a week.  Any one of these could knock you for a loop, but so many stresses together in such a short period of time is unfortunate as there is no recovery time.  I'm so sorry about your job.  After 20 years, it must feel unreal to be without a job.  I got laid off on the way to the Emergency Room over the phone as I was about to undergo emergency surgery and that was my last job.  It was a tough period as my husband had just been laid off as well.  That was his last job as well.  We decided to cash out the equity in our home and go into real estate.  That was five years ago and it was a good decision.  I hope something good comes out of this painful period for you and that your son's arm heals completely.  My heart goes out to you.
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My heart is aching to think that you've been through all this ... since my heart ach I know that God's heart is aching for you too. My prayers are with you and your family. I know that sometimes the rain pours and it pours... but with the rain it will bring a rainbow. At the end of a rainbow is a pot of gold...

I know that you will find another job soon.. you give so much to A/R and I know that once you give of yourself God will give back to you too. Be strong in the LORD and and the power of his Might he is ABLE to bring you to the pot of GOLD.  Strom comes.. but they don't last for every. my prayers are with you during this time in your life....

9:34pm • #123
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WOW, I don't know what to say here!  I have read many many of your posts here on AR and they are ALL of exceptional quality!  You really do your best to help everyone here on AR!  I suppose all I can say is something that someone before me already said that I firmly believe in:

GOOD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE!  You definitely seem like a good person and you just have to have the faith to get through this!  On the surface it sucks, but in the long run it will make you a stronger and better person.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

9:42pm • #124

Brad - We are so very sorry to hear about all these challenges life is throwing your way right now. We have experienced some of it ourselves. Before real estate, Rick lost his job of 13 years. 13 years of total dedication, loyalty and hard work! For them to just say...we are going in a new direction and it doesn't include you. We had just had a baby and didn't know what to do. This past year has been very challenging for us. We are both in real estate. No other income to fall back on. Just trying to live conservatively so we can keep our business going. Very very stressful!! None of this compares to the stress you are going through right now but in a sense we can relate!

If there is anything we can do, we are all hear for you!!! Of course you have our prayers!!!!! We are glad that your son is OK! Kids are such a blessing and it is really heart breaking to see them hurt and helpless!!!

Take care of that beautiful family! Your old companies loss will definately be your new employers gain!!! Good luck my friend!!! You are in our prayers!!!!!

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Brad, I've no doubt that by next year at this time, you'll be glad you're no longer in that job. Lots of us have been in similar situations, and if you take this opportunity to go for the "second" career, you'll finally get into a job that suits/fits even better. Sometimes we need that nudge to get moving. It's too easy to stay in bad jobs. But losing them often turns out to be the best thing that happened.

You have been so helpful here in AR, that I'll just bet something in the computer/internet/blogging world will open up for you.

In the interim, read that poem "Footprints". It will let you know that you're never alone, and that you (and your family) are being taken care of during this difficult time.

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Wow Brad, I am so sorry. I have had those years myself. It amazing what we can make it through. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I know that things will get better. You just hold your head up. Any company would be lucky to have you! 
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Brad, what an amazing post.  Stay strong my friend.  This too shall pass, and here's to a GREAT 2008!
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Wow - Brad.  Your family will be in my prayers.  What a way to bring the new year in.  Please keep us posted of your son's recovery and your employment situation.

 

 

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Brad,
While I don't know you I do subscribe to your blog.  Two years ago, my house flooded, I was diagnosed with cancer, and my husband was hit by a car while riding his bike.  Ours was over a 6 month span, so we had a chance to breathe between events, unlike your three days of crap at once.

I am a firm believer that when you contribute to a community (whether your online one here, or your one that surrounds you at home), you will get it back and be better in the long run. For me, it sounds crazy, but I was thankful for my cancer diagnosis since I hadn't been feeling well for a while.  I imagine that as you start out on a new employment venture, that you may find you are better off, and happier, and that maybe this really crazy and stressful event brings a positive and good change to you and your family.

Like many others here, my thoughts are with you during this stressful time, and my only suggestion is take it one day at a time.  Take the baby steps needed to get through what needs to be done, and then have faith that things will be just fine in the long run.  I look forward to the blog you will write one year from now about these events in your life, and the amazingly positive things that you learned from them.

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The Lord has a plan for you, and the trouble times you are going through will only make you stronger. my prayers are with you and your family.

This was sent to me a while back when I was facing a very difficult time.

When the odds are tough,
and the road is rough,
and things seem out of whack,
then stand up tall
and give your all,
and shout for all your worth

11:36pm • #131
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Hi Brad & Debra -

What a rough start to the new year!  My thoughts, prayers, and good wishes are with you.  Like several others here, I also have a child who had surgery for broken bones.  Anytime our children are hurt, it is both heartbreaking and terrifying!  

I have to say I'm shocked that after 20 years, First Am would let Brad go, but in the end it will be their loss.  Brad is so bright, giving and well-liked that he will succeed at anything he tries, so now he just has to pick the direction that will be the best for him as well as his family. 

Best wishes -

Vicki

 

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Debra:  Beautiful response you've posted in your comment ... it's obvious that you have complete confidence in God's ability to take care of your family, and your genuine love and concern for Brad has moved us all.  Thank you for standing in the gap and letting us know that you and Brad are okay.

You are married to a very lucky man!  Not only are you a beautiful lady but you have a precious spirit!  As a mom, I'm sure you are concerned for your son's healing at this time.  Don't get discouraged.  You are among many friends in the AR community.  God bless you all.

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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  What an unfortunate start to the new year.  I've been told that God only gives you what you can manage.  You must be one strong guy!  You have a great positive outlook - I'm confident you will land softly.  Sometimes change is good, regardless of why, hopefully this will have a Happy Ending.  In the meantime my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family (speedy recovery to your son).  God Bless.
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Oh, Brad....   What can I say that other's before me haven't?  I send good wishes your way...   Health for you and your family....   A job for you where you'll be very much appreciated and can can contribute to the benifit of the company....   And lots of sunshine to dry up all the rain that has been your way lately.

Big big hugs......   Nancy

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Brad- I am so sorry and your post and all these comments produced my first tear here on AR.  The Wednesday before Christmas I was told to get out of my office because I questioned my Broker on an ethical issue(and I left for good),  The next day (Thurs,) my husband got an email from his work telling him to be there the next morning at 8 am (he sells John Deere Construction equipment) .. He was fired on the Friday before Christmas after 8 years.  So we were both jobless.  We already couldnt afford our bills...we have have had a couple tough years and to say that we are still married is a miracle in itself.  God has been testing our faith, and WE have wavered..(not our faith) .BUT God is good.  My husband starts his new job today and is excited.  We both have a fresh start.  - We NEEDED a fresh start and God knew it.  We were both unhappy where we were and probably both wouldve stayed if things didnt happen the way it did.

Sorry about all that above....I will blog about it someday... it was worse before that!!!  Anyway I just wanted to let you know that I can relate... although you seem much stronger than I.  Thanks for pointing out all the positves in the midst of all the adversity. 

Once again, I learned something here Brad and you are still AWESOME!  Good luck to you and I hope your 2008 ends up being one of the best ever for you! 

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Brad:

It seem when it rain it pours. I know when given such a full plate of lifes challenges it can seem very over whelming. Prescription: Count your blessing, be thankful that your family enjoys good health in general, that you have a roof over your head. Be grateful for the fact that when one door closes another will open that is bigger and better. Now on to business -- make sure you get a great letter of recommendation from your soon to be x-employer. Make at least 100 copies of it and start looking for the right career path to mail all those letter out to;

The sooner you start to deal with this the better for you and your family.

Expect a miracle.

Lorraine

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Brad I don't know you but I have been reading your posts here on Active Rain.  I feel for you.  Lemons and lemonade?  I do believe things happen for a reason and that you will persevere and come out in a better place.  Your son's health and well being are in the forefront.  Hang in there, be well and good luck.
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Brad and Debra,

What a way to start the year...You guys are in my prayers and my thoughts, and I have to agree with Linda, another door will open, even if it's one that you didn't expect. I'm hoping to read an update post from you soon with good news. I'm pulling for you!

Hugs, love, and prayers....

Heather

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I'm so sorry to hear about everything you and your family are going through right now. Companies just don't appreciate their employees like they should, it's a shame, and what you are going through is all too common. It sucks, and I feel for you and wish you all the best.
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Brad....I guess I will know more later this morning. But right now, SHOCK! Funny little thing though....I had a dream that I hired you to help me put together that local blog. Shook it off as just a strong subconcious fear of not knowing where to begin. NOW.....maybe you can!
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BRAD-  I missed this post when you wrote it because I was away this weekend. I am so very sorry to hear of ALL of the struggles and difficulties in your life. I think your attitude is AMAZING! It reflects the hope and peace that can only come from God. I will be praying for you and your family that God will quickly open the doors that hold the key to your future.

Jeremiah 29:11 says..."For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." I have clung to this scripture so many times when I did not have any tangible signs of hope. God bless you, my friend!

10:04am • #142

I am not surprised on these hearfelt comments from all over the state.. As I told you last week; YOU are a survivor!

You have soooo much talent. I will miss working with you my friend .

Wishing your son a speedy recovery.

you are blessed with a wonderful family.

Linda
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Brad, I feel your pain. The title and escrow business is about as upside down right now as any. I have had similar situations with my children and everthing has worked out well. I know this is easy to say, but stay strong and positive and in those moments you can't call on your faith. You are a big reason I started this experiment called blogging. I can tell you have touched a lot of lives.

Debra, we've never met and probably never will, but your words and support for Brad and your family I know are exactly what they need.

God Bless

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I just read your post three times and have chills.  My heart goes out to your family.  You and your family will be in our prayers.  I am a strong believer of what you put out to the world will come back to you 10 fold.  With that said you will come back stronger than ever!

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Brad- I had to read this post 3 times just to digest everything; I can't imagine what your family is going through.  As a father, I simply can't fathom what it was like for you and your wife to hear what you did in the hospital.  You have inspired and helped so many here on AR, myself included; the prayers that will be sent up through this community for your family I believe might just overload the "Network."  I believe in the power of prayer; I believe you shall overcome these difficult challenges and I believe your son will heal.  I will be praying for you and your family.  Please keep us updated as you are able.
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 Hi Brad, I'm late in reading this post and wanted to send you my best wishes for everything to turn out for the best. I know we all go thru rough periods like this in our lives. It toughens us up and teaches us lessons that have to be learned.

 I'm also a true believer that God never gives us more than we can handle and that there really is a reson for everything. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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I just spoke to your son and left him a message. Call me.
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Brad - I was wrapped in NFL football all weekend and just read your post. I so sorry to hear about what has happened to you. I know that the Andersohn Family will rise above. My thoughts will be with you.   
3:37pm • #151

Brad,

This is a tough way to start a year.  Your post brought tears to my eyes.  I pray for healing of your son and that you find a more prosperous position worthy of your loyalty.  You are deserving.  God never closes a door without opening window. Look for your window.

Sharon 

 

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Brad we dont know each other but I am so touched by your post.  I had a year similiar to yours a couple years ago.  It got so bad I was almost afraid to get out of bed wondering "what next?"  And then I realized I had to stop thinking that way and keep putting one foot in front of the other.  Somedays it was all I could do.  I hope its okay to say a prayer for you and your family
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Oh Wow, Brad.  Clearly God has something good in store for you once you wade through all of this.  Talk about firework's at New Years.  I will keep you and your family in our prayers and thoughts and will be checking in often for updates.

 

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Brad, this is the very first entry of yours that I've read. Then I dug deeper into your blog to see how incredibly generous you are with amazingly helpful info and how you cast your knowledge out to everyone.  No wonder you're so well respected! 

The start to your year was truly a test of everything a human clings to in their lives.  THANK GOD YOUR SON IS ON THE WAY TO RECOVERY!  You can replace all the material things; you'll rise to a better career opportunity.  My son had a scary health incident in 2004; there is no terror like it when your child's life is threatened.  God bless him that he move forward quickly and with minimum discomfort.  Also, your family is absolutely beautiful: wife & kids.

I've got a plaque on my living room wall that reads: "Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.~Unknown" You've got it going on!