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I Didn't Recognize My Uncle...

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Real Estate Agent with Cedaredge Land Company

I Didn't Recognize My Uncle... in his Marine dress blues. He was beautiful  I was only 3 years old or there abouts. It had been a while since we had seen him. He had been in a place I didn't understand called, Vietnam. Uncle Bill was on leave and came home to visit me. He knocked on the front door, and nobody we knew used that door, and I had to get mommy to answer the door. He went against his father's wishes. He went against his sisters' wishes. We had a large family. I wish I could paint a picture for you of how he looked that day. He seemed larger than life and still does in my memories. I want to keep him that way...larger than life.

Land of the free because of our brave

He loved his sisters, and his two only nieces. That was me and my sister. On that day he brought us gifts. Had he lived longer, he would have seen his collection of nieces and nephews grow. He also would have had kids of his own.

My Uncle Bill died in Vietnam. He signed up to be a Marine, because he felt the need to serve this country. He was proud of this nation and what we stand for, and he wanted to follow in his father's footsteps. His father, my grandfather, was a decorated veteran of WWII. Uncle Bill died on his father's birthday, and for years after that, my grandfather would never celebrate his own birthday.

This lonely roadside sign is a reminder of how I see people in the country think of Memorial Day. It's a reminder, just like any other billboard. That's it...just a pass on the road. Maybe the homemade status gives it a bit more attention, but it reminds me of the times my grandpa couldn't celebrate his birthday because of his loss. To me it's a lonely reminder of something that shouldn't be forgotten. You know this sign stands alone like so many roadside reminders, but let's not let our veterans and those that are in active duty stand alone.

On this weekend please take the time to remember what Memorial Day is all about. You know it was moved to the last Monday of the month to accommodate all of us having a long week. That isn't what this day is all about. There is one day in that long weekend that is suppose to be set aside to honor and remember the men and women that have served this country. Please take at least one moment to honor those that have served, and are still serving, our country.

 

Debbie Laity
CEDAREDGE LAND COMPANY
Broker Associate
GRI, REO Specialist, SFR, CNE, AHWD, BPOR, ePro
970-589-2886
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Debbie, I enjoyed ready this touching story about your special uncle and the real meaning of Memorial Day.

May 25, 2013 04:28 AM
Royce Dean Vanderpool
Devan Realty & Development Corporation - Lake Mary, FL
GKC, RMC, REOS, CIAS, BPOR - Principal Broker

This day doesn't pass without each and every veteran remembering the service the gave.  Some more than others, all willing to write a blank check for their lives.  In honor to all from a fellow veteran.

May 25, 2013 04:46 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good afternoon Debbie. This is moving and targeted. I am so sorry your uncle didn't live to know you: he would have been very proud.

May 25, 2013 05:42 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Since WWI my family haas lost 17 hero's.

We remember each of them every year at this time and all through the year.

May 25, 2013 05:44 AM
Mike Young
203kOnLine.com, covering the USA - Stallings, NC
FHA 203k Consultant 916-758-1809

Nice article, My dad landed on day 3 at Normandy and my brother was a Marine in Viet Nam who survived but was affected by his experiences there till he died two years ago.

May 25, 2013 05:45 AM
Nick T Pappas
Assoc. Broker ABR, CRS, SFR, e-Pro, @Homes Realty Group, Broker/Providence Property Mgmnt, LLC Huntsville AL - Huntsville, AL
Madison & Huntsville Alabama Real Estate Resource

Debbie, heart felt story, I work in an area with a high military presence so I'm reminded daily...make it a great weekend!

May 25, 2013 05:54 AM
Deborah Byron Leffler BzyBee Real Estate Lady!
Keller Williams Realty Boise - Nampa, ID

Wonderful story!!!  Thanks for sharing.....I remember taking my Uncle to the airport when he was on leave from Vietnam!!!  

May 25, 2013 07:34 AM
Sussie Sutton
David Tracy Real Estate - Houston, TX
David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers

Ahhhh Debbie! I am so sorry you lost your uncle in that terrible war. Well they are all terrible. They each have something ugly about them. In any case you honor him and all will be well.

May 25, 2013 08:30 AM
Jimmy Faulkner
Florida. Homes Realty & Mortgage - Wantagh, NY
The Best Of St. Augustine

Dear Debbie: I am a vet of the Vietnam war & serve on my local vets board for the county. The government lied to us about the war & how it started & people quickly forget all that. Lyndon Johnson, the prince of death, tearfully cried on TV saying he got the WRONG information about the Gulf Of Tonkin & what really happened there. This war was all about the money. Read former President Eisenhower's farewell address telling us about the congressional military establishment. Now we have Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq fighting for freedom. What a lie, it is about the money. Why not help in Syria. NO MONEY to be made there so no help.. Be a hero & spread the word in your Uncle's name.

May 25, 2013 11:01 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Hi Debbie,

Congrats on the featured post..well deserved..thank you for sharing your story..we will take time to honor our veterans this Memorial Day!

May 25, 2013 11:20 AM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

Debbie _  is it important for each of us to reflect on this holiday and to give our appreciation to those have sacrificed so much.

May 25, 2013 11:41 AM
Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula
Realty Works Temecula - Temecula, CA
Realty Works Temecula

Debbie:  Thank you for putting a story to one of our soldiers, your Uncle who chose to fight for our Country. They all have stories and it helps all of us to understand and appreciate our fallen heroes when we know a little about their lives!

May 25, 2013 11:55 AM
Joanna Cohlan
Fresh Eyes For Your Home - Chappaqua, NY
Designing, Decorating & Staging Westchester Homes

Very moving and wonderful story Debbie, particularly for Memorial Day.  My dad is a Veteran of WWII-a medic who earned the Silver Star for bravery in action, staying back with the wounded on Normandy Beach, many of whom did not come home.

May 25, 2013 11:56 AM
Chuck Mixon
The Keyes Company - Cutler Bay, FL
Cutler Bay Specialist, GRI, CDPE, BPOR

Debbie,  I feel that we need to remember them, and nerve forget what they gave so that we can live here in the land of the free and home of the BRAVE!

May 25, 2013 11:58 AM
MichelleCherie Carr Crowe .Just Call. 408-252-8900
Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty - San Jose, CA
Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years

Yes without the brave people on the front lines, none of us would enjoy our freedom.

May 25, 2013 12:02 PM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

God bless the memory of "Uncle Bill", and of the countless others who gave their all.

  I resent the "3-day weekend" and the road trips and the beer and the barbecue.  Memorial Day should be a day of solemn remembrance and respect.

   

May 25, 2013 12:04 PM
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Debbie, thank you for the beautiful blog on remembering ~ what Memorial Day is really all about. I, too, had an Uncle Bill who was a Marine and served in WWII. I also recall the day when he came home on leave from the war. He was just beautiful - on his way to some ceremony, he was dressed in the Marine dress blues - red, white and blue - and his sword was hanging at his side.

May 25, 2013 04:34 PM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

Thanks everyone for stopping by. I appreciate the wonderful comments.

May 26, 2013 01:45 AM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

This is a wonderful tribute to your Uncle and your Grandfather! I can certainly understand his loss and not wanting to celebrate the day.  I know people who lost their children and take that particular day every year to grieve their death. When my Daughter died I refused to make that day special. Instead, I celebrate every day she lived and not the day she died.

May 26, 2015 02:05 PM
Sherry McNabb
Nest Ahead - Katy, TX
Local Roots | Global Reach

Thank you for sharing this story about your uncle!  This is history, this is family. That is why I asked my dad for his story about Vietnam as well.  Thank you for remembering our Veterans!

Nov 12, 2016 11:30 AM