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A Gazillion Cups of Coffee...

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Mel Peterson - The Naked BloggerSummer is finally upon us... I hope each one of you had a fabulous week.   I've been in LA visiting my 82 year old dad who's in the early stages of Alzheimer's, and spending time with my Uncle who's dying of cancer.   It's heart-breaking to watch these very special men, who have always been strong, hard-working and self-sufficient, suddenly become dependent on others for basic needs.  It's a stark reminder that life is short and very precious.
 
I trust that many of you feel the way that I do... Cherish the ones you love, because nothing else really matters.   Chances are, you won't be remembered for how early you got into the office each day, or how late you stayed, or how many transactions you sold, or where your name appeared on a ranking report.   It won't matter what kind of shiny new car you drove, or the fancy big house you lived in.
 
What matters is the content of your character, how you treat your fellow man, and the legacy you leave behind long after you're gone.  I can assure you, my legacy will have nothing to do with the fact that I served as MLS President, or the myriad of other titles I've held.  
 
My hope is that my days will be measured by the number of friendly chats that took place around the water cooler, a gazillion cups of coffee shared between friends, the amount of chocolate consumed on the most stressful of days, and the joyful laughter exchanged in extreme moments of sadness.  I'm a simple gal... who delights in simple pleasures.
 
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Always wise to pull in the reins and assess where we are, why and who else is present. That action is always worthy of a second look...

Jul 06, 2012 11:36 PM
Judy Jennings
Top Agent Plus - Middleboro, MA
Tap into Judy's real estate expertise & resources.

My Dad had Alzheimer's too, but it was the cancer that took him away from us. You have the right attitude to get you through. Cherish each moment!

Jul 07, 2012 01:19 AM
Donald Hester
NCW Home Inspections, LLC - Wenatchee, WA
NCW Home Inspections, LLC

Mel, Such great advice. I have lost my father and my mom suffers from cortical basil degeneration which robs you of the neural functions to control your muscles. The worst part she is fully aware of what is happening. 

I spent 5 years working at Fred Hutchinson Cancer Center and truly and empathetic to those going through cancer. My wishes to you you and your family and enjoy each and every moment, life is very fleeting at times.

So heres to tipping a cup of Joe with our fellow traverlers in this world ; ) (I am from Seattle so tipping Joe I think is genetic ; )

Jul 07, 2012 02:18 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

My empathy....had both parents in intensive care, recovering from knee surgery....and the list goes on....9 years ago...there will be a time you won't believe you did it....and always glad you did.

 

Jul 07, 2012 02:22 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

So true Lou... time can be our enemy or our friend.

I love it when that happens.... Tammy! 

That is sad... Kevin.  Death and pain touches each one of us and we all have our own way of dealing with it.  My thoughts are with your girl and her family ;) 

I wish I could spend more time... Christine, living 10 hours away makes it difficult.

Jeanne & Ralph ~ I'm savoring every moment... and thank you for your words of wisdom too!

You're a lucky man Gary... treasure the time you have left with your parents.

Amanda & Jared ~ I've been around the cancer block a few times... but never with Alzheimers.

Jul 07, 2012 02:35 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Janis ~ Sounds like you've experienced your share of tragedy!  How painful it must have been to lose your mom so young.  My mom died at the age of 55... way too young in my book.  I appreciate your words of wisdom and encouragement!

Thanks Phil... there's therapy in writing ;))) 

I'm a reflective sort of gal... Richie... always taking a second look and evaluating the circumstances around me.

It seems so much more prevalent these days, doesn't it?  I'm sorry for your loss Judy... and I appreciate your suggestion ;)

Oh Donald... I can so relate to your personal story.  My mom had Multiple Sclerosis... her body deteriorated while her mind remained sharp.  It was a long slow process and difficult to watch.  Blessings to you for being so empathetic to others in similar situations... it says a lot about you!  Since I live in the Pacific Northwest (home to the world's best coffee)... I'll join you in tipping my cup of Joe too ;))) 

I hear ya... Sally.  Human resiliency is an amazing thing, isn't it?! 

Jul 07, 2012 02:39 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Mel- I can see where you got your infectious smile!!!  You have grasped the true meaning of this thing called life.  I love your title a gazillion cups of coffee. It's the time spent not so much on the priority project we're working on with our co-workers but the 10 minutes we may have with them over a cup of coffee.  Have a great weekend.

Jul 07, 2012 04:21 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Melinda, having just lost my, young 76 year old, father in April I can not agree with you more. Every day  is a gift and needs to be cherished. You never get that time back.

Jul 07, 2012 05:09 AM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Mel:

At least you have learned that we have so little time with the people we love that we must cherish them and visit or call them frequently.  Some people never learn that lesson and they are left with regrets.

Jul 07, 2012 05:25 AM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Mel, I lost my dad nine years ago to lung cancer. He was 69. Cherish those days. Because as you say, that's what really matters.

Jul 07, 2012 05:52 AM
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
850-476-4494 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Mel you're stories are always the best and show how real a person can be. I am always interested in reading what you will right next. As you said about Ann Curry you my friend are a class act and the world is a better place with you around.

Jul 07, 2012 06:58 AM
Dave Halpern
Dave Halpern Real Estate Agent, Inc., Louisville, KY (502) 664-7827 - Louisville, KY
Louisville Short Sale Expert

"Respect your elders" is not just a cliche. Thanks for the post.

Jul 07, 2012 08:42 AM
Susan Neal
RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks - Fair Oaks, CA
Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker

Hi Mel - This is a message I try to spread as much as possible.  Over the last several years I have lost my mom, dad, sister, favorite uncle, two aunts, two cousins, and my mother-in-law.  While you still have your family, make sure that you show them as much love as you can.  You will be glad you did and will always regret it if you don't.

Jul 07, 2012 09:08 AM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519
Mel, only recently have I started taking this kind of advice to heart. I'm really trying to spend more time with my kids lately.
Jul 07, 2012 10:36 AM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566
What a nice thoughtful post. I like the chocolate part a lot!
Jul 07, 2012 10:51 AM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

How can I read this and not feel sad for you, but then realize it's a way to cope.  Hope you are doing so!!

Jul 07, 2012 02:54 PM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Mel, I'm sorry to hear about your father and uncle. I can only imagine how special this weekend was for all of you.  They are lucky to have you in their lives and you are fortunate that they are part of yours. Your story brings back memories.

Jul 07, 2012 05:02 PM
Sandy Acevedo
951-290-8588 - Chino Hills, CA
RE/MAX Masters, Inland Empire Homes for Sale

Hi Mel, I hope you guys have a gazillion more moments together. Then when you look back, it will be with a smile because you did cherish them!

Jul 08, 2012 03:17 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Mel belle, been thinking about ya. Glad you spent some quality time with those quality men in your life. You are a simple gal - with quite a bit of  wonderful and fascinating complexity - but, simple pleasures are always the best in my book too. ;)  xxoo

Jul 09, 2012 06:47 AM
Nick T Pappas
Assoc. Broker ABR, CRS, SFR, e-Pro, @Homes Realty Group, Broker/Providence Property Mgmnt, LLC Huntsville AL - Huntsville, AL
Madison & Huntsville Alabama Real Estate Resource

Mel, I'm going through some of the same things with people close to me...ditto on the "gazillion cups of coffee"...and personally...I think you are anything, but simple.

Jul 21, 2012 07:20 AM