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Lessons from the Pasta Bar

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Last week I attended a conference for real estate lawyers up at Boyne Mountain Resort in Boyne Falls, Michigan.  The setting was beautiful, the event was well-run, I made some great connections and I learned a lot.  One of the best lessons, though, occurred at dinner one night when I was waiting at the "pasta action station."

There was a table with ingredients to be selected as you waited in line, at the end of which a chef would cook your individualized pasta dish while you watched.  I selected a nice tortellini with sausage, artichoke hearts, sun-dried tomatoes and asparagus spears in a vodka-cream sauce.  Nice as it was, even more delightful was the chef.  When I approached with my dish, I asked her how she was, and she replied- with enthusiasm and honesty- that she was "doing great, because I love cooking pasta, and isn't it wonderful to be doing something that you love?"  It wasn't the response I was expecting, but naturally, I agreed!

I was reminded of a quote from Martin Luther King, Jr.: "If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry.  He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well."  Could such a street sweeper answer that call, though, if he did not love sweeping streets?  I doubt it.

Lots of people do love their jobs, I think, but I have never met someone who made such an open and immediate acknowledgment of such love as my pasta chef.  Far from being put off, rather, I was drawn in.  Believing that she truly loved to cook pasta, how could I not help but enjoy a meal that was a product of love?  Whether it was a psychosomatic effect or not, her emotion went into every bite I ate, and it was delicious.

I love my job.  I really do enjoy soliciting people to work with Stewart Title and helping them close their commercial real estate deals.  I take tremendous pride and satisfaction in my role.  But, when it comes to my own enthusiasm, I realize- like many transactional attorneys- I have probably been playing my emotional cards too close to my vest.  I am confident my colleagues would say I am personable and competent, but if asked, I don't know if their first response to why they work with me would be, "Because he loves title insurance."  And that's what I learned from the pasta incident- If I make a greater point to share my passion, would my clients have a better experience?  I believe they will.  So, for that lesson, my compliments to the chef!

Lou Zandy
WeLoveMarcoIsland.com - Marco Island, FL

Hi Andrew... awesome post & SO, SO TRUE !!   Were  doing vacation rental property on Marco Island Florida  for last 15 years and love the mix of folks I have had  the pleasure to work with.  I strongly feel a client can tell when you have a zest for your profession... BEST OF LUCK....

 

Lou 

Jul 25, 2012 04:16 AM
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Andrew~ Congrats on the feature and thank you for sharing your experience.  You make an excellent point.  I love helping people and that's why I enjoy my job.  I need to be sure my perspective clients know that about me.

Jul 25, 2012 04:47 AM
Nan Jester
Exit Real Estate Gallery Jacksonville Beach, FL - Jacksonville Beach, FL
Realtor, Exit Real Estate Gallery

You almost have to love Real Estate to be able to survive in it.  Sort of like being a cop, teacher, fire fighter or other such punishing jobs. If not, there are other much easier ways to make money.

Jul 25, 2012 05:02 AM
Andrew Capelli
Troy, MI

Dear Hella, Christine, Phil, Debbie G., Mary, Philip, Kunni, Jeanne, Mike, Debbie E., Amanda, Peter, Lottie, Mark/Tim, Bob, Norma, Lou, Donna and Nan: Thank you all so much for sharing your comments, observations and feedback.  I really appreciate it, and I also appreciate how much you all care about both your professions and your clients!  You've all made my day!  :)

Jul 25, 2012 05:58 AM
Christina Ehli
RE/MAX Platinum - Brighton, Michigan - Brighton, MI
RE/MAX Platinum Brighton MI Real Estate Agent

Andrew, thank you for sharing!  Yes, what a fantastic response from the pasta chef.  I would never be in real estate unless I loved serving others.  Their dreams and goals are mine as well and I do everything I can (honestly, legally, morally and ethically) to make them come true.  

Jul 25, 2012 06:25 AM
Andrew Capelli
Troy, MI

Christina: Thank you, and greetings from a fellow Michigander!  :)

Jul 25, 2012 06:35 AM
Amy Steele Realtor SRS CNE NHS MRP LUXE epro
JPAR Real Estate - North Richland Hills, TX
Principal, Amy Steele Estates Group LLC

If you don't love your job it shows and in a business of dealing with other people, you have to be sincere or they will know.

Jul 25, 2012 07:16 AM
Dennis Scott
JBGoodwin REALTORS, San Antonio - San Antonio, TX
REALTOR,210.393.9794, Find Property For Sale In San Antonio

What an awesome story Andrew and thanks for sharing it.  And please know that I wrote my bio stuff prior to reading it!  I too love what I do and I hope that it shows as such.

 

I’m also from Michigan…Detroit to be exact, so I had to go to Google maps to see where you were.

Jul 25, 2012 09:46 AM
Toni Weidman
Sailwinds Realty - Trinity, FL
20+ Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL

Andrew - you are a lawyer, and lawyers never get that enthusiastic about anything :) At least not the ones I know. It would be unseemly for them :)

Jul 25, 2012 10:47 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Good post. Great quote & things to think about regarding our business.  Like Toni says above, working with crabby attorneys all day would bring anyone down.  What a bland bunch they are!

Jul 26, 2012 01:03 AM
Terry Blocher
Village Realty OBX - Kill Devil Hills, NC

Someone once said, "If you do what you love you will never work a day in your life."  How true!

Jul 26, 2012 01:10 AM
Lynda White
Bluegrass Homes & Farms Realty, Agent Know How - Louisville, KY
Admin. Mgr., Keller Williams Realty

You have to make a conscious decision to love your job, no matter what it is. Some of us are lucky enough to love it naturally! 

Jul 26, 2012 01:34 AM
Anonymous
Bill Laraway

It amazes me what some people can take away from the pasta table. Good job Andrew, I enjoyed that. Bill

Jul 26, 2012 04:58 AM
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Andrew Capelli
Troy, MI

Amy: Agreed, very true!

Dennis: Thank you, and hello to a fellow Detroiter!  I was born in Detroit, at Sinai Hospital.  :)

Toni: Ha ha!  I know you're teasing- The best lawyers I know are the passionate ones.  Geoffrey Feiger, a local attorney who has had national success comes to mind- he's very emotional!

Lyn: Thank you, and I would agree that crabby lawyers are worse than crabby people in general because they tend to be better at arguing, anyway.  :)

Terry: Thanks, well said!  :)

Lynda: Indeed, it is lucky when careers and passions coincide!

Bill: Thank you, and yes- in the long run, the lesson was even better than the food!  :)

Jul 26, 2012 05:13 AM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Andrew:

How delightful to hear a pasta chef express her love of her job.  Too often we don't express our joy about doing what we do for a living.  Gotta be positive and smile.

Jul 27, 2012 05:06 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

You are so right.  A positive attitude is great and helps everyone.  I also think we need to appreciate those that may not seem to have the glamor jobs with verbal affirmation for great work.  Notice and appreciate. 

Jul 27, 2012 08:28 AM
Andrew Capelli
Troy, MI

Evelyn: I agree- A smile can cure a lot of ills!  :)

Gene: Very true- Everyone deserves recognition for a job well done- no matter what the job.  Thanks for the feedback!

Jul 27, 2012 11:19 PM
John DL Arendsen
CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments - Leucadia, CA
Crest Backyard Homes "ADU" dealer & RE Developer

Love those pasta bars. We actually hired a pasta catering company to serve fresh and noval pasta dishes at a wedding reception we hosted. It was the bell ringer for sure. Thus far they've probably garnered a years worth of catering assignments just from that one booking. Great biz.

Jul 30, 2012 05:35 PM
Andrew Capelli
Troy, MI

John: It was definitely a hit at the event I attended!  Thank you for the comment!  :)

Jul 30, 2012 11:23 PM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Andrew, great lesson to learn from the pasta chef.  I love teaching real estate classes in Erie, PA.

Aug 15, 2012 11:17 AM