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The people part of this business

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Real Estate Agent with Real estate agent at Oak Real Estate

The more I learn about the real estate industry, the more I realize that it's a "people" business.  It's not just about the properties and dollars being exchanged.  Sure, in the end, the deal is going to depend on the property's location, price, and, of course, appearance (plug here for staging!), but everything up to the end revolves around the personal interactions of the people involved. 

I'm convinced that successful realtors and other industry professionals have to be saints.  Everything I've ever heard and experienced tells me that selling or buying a home is one of the most stressful events in a person's life.  Often times, real estate professionals are dealing with people who are going through other major life changes which are prompting their move - perhaps a new baby, divorce, or a career change.  During these stressful times, people can be (how can I put this politely?) not always on their best behavior.  Add the financial woes of real estate transactions into the mix, and it's possible you're dealing with a real Oscar the Grouch.  As the professionals who are dealing with emotional buyers and sellers, it's imperative for us to keep this in mind - and to realize that we don't always know the whole story of what's going on in this person's life.  John Smith selling his home is probably not the same John Smith whom his family knows and loves. 

How do you deal with a seller or buyer you're not seeing eye to eye with? I'd love to hear how others deal with these situations.  Here are some of my thoughts:

  • Take a step back.  Try to approach the situation from your client's perspective.
  • Ask him or her about the basis of their opinions.
  • Share your opinion on the issue. Give them the basis for your beliefs.
  • Remember that you're the professional, and that they have hired you for a reason. Call on your experience to give your client examples of how things have gone in the past.
  • Lean how to pick which battles to fight, and which ones to concede.

So, along with furthering my skills as a home stager, I'm trying to add a stash of patience and understanding to my arsenal.  

 

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Boulder County REALTOR

www.oconnellhomes.com

303-868-3957

Cindy Lin
Staged4more School of Home Staging - South San Francisco, CA
Host, The Home Staging Show podcast

Hello ;)

 All these are excellent ideas to do so. Also I would suggest to take some time before you respond. Sometimes clients are going to insist on things that you really don't see the point but you will do your best still and make the most of it (remember the SF property?) ;)

cheers,

cindy

i love staging and all things staging!

i stage to sell, live & work in san francisco bay area

www.staged4more.com

http://stagingtipsandmore.com 

 

Jan 11, 2007 08:09 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert
Ann,  when a Buyer gets upset it becomes even more important for me to remain calm.  The worst thing that I can do at that point is to get upset or start yelling back, that only compounds the problem.  I find that if I stay calm the Buyer ends up calming down and then we have a meaningful discussion.
Jan 11, 2007 01:13 PM
Sheron Cardin
California Moods Inc - Selma, CA
ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend!
I have learned that what a client is saying is not necessarily what they are trying to convey. Serious listening will help you get behind what they are saying and if you can help them articulate what they are really trying to say, you will be a genius to them and they will follow you anywhere.
Jan 12, 2007 12:58 AM
Craig Schiller
Trempealeau, WI

This is wise advise... not only for working with home sellers but working with people in general.  The more I live life the more I know that there is what I call "backstory" occuring that people bring to their daily lives.

You never really know ALL that is going on in someones life... so extending kindness will NEVER hurt.

Me

 

Jan 14, 2007 07:54 AM
James Frazier
James Frazier Personal Development Coach - Rockford, IL
I have to remind myself that a home seller can get easily overwhelmed with too much information as well. Concepts that seem obvious to us may be very new for them. So I have to slow down, provide time for them to digest what I am saying, and if possible give them an easily readable report that at least covers the main points I am trying to convey.
Jan 14, 2007 12:08 PM
Home Staging
Reston, VA

Great post Ann.  I think its important to be understanding as a home stager.   I try to always tellmy customers to take everything one day at a time.  I smile alot and I think its comforting for them.  I let them know that I am only a hone call away for any question they may have.

 

Jan 27, 2007 01:11 AM
Dan Auito
www.magicbullets.com - Inverness, FL
Keys to becoming a Top Producer:

http://thenewhealers.com/PositiveAttitude.pdf

Jan 28, 2007 01:44 AM