But why would you want too? How will your speaking up make a difference to the situation? Will it help or hinder?  Most of the time, we have selfish driven motives. Beware too of foot in mouth dis-ease. If beneficial, if you have something to say to someone, say it. You don't need to have a reason and you definitely do not want to be motivated by anger either. Just say it as UN-emotional as possible

 THE RIGHT TO SPEAK

The right to speak up is taking for granted. You have to actually leave the country to find out what it is like to not have that right. Insisting on it while it makes sense may not be the way that country or circumstance is run.

FIRING SQUAD?

Bare in mind too that this "right" came at a high cost too. Speaking up prior to having a bill of rights or a Constitution was to say the least very risky. They called it Treason back then. Treason to the crown if we were under British rule..Keep spouting off and it went to HIGH Treason...whoa

THE MOUTH

I have seen people tell others off and take a questionable situation and make it definitely worse. The mouth can do much harm or good depending on the inclination of the one who powers it. A kind word goes along way while a spicy one stirs the pot of chance

CONTEMPT OF COURT

An act of disobedience or disregard if done under the jurisdiction of a judge is called contempt for the court and at the judges discretion, you can be held to answer for the slight. If arguing with someone outside of court, you risk alienation, retaliation or questionable results if not on solid ground

GOT GUILT?

It is worthy to note at this time that wrong choices causes guilt and while you may be able to exercise the freedom to speak, if done incorrectly or with less than pure motives, you will now have a guilty issue. It becomes your personal problem until you confess the error. Your conscience will guide you here

DON'T GET BITTEN

Use your right to speak up in a healthy productive manner so that it does much good and it doesn't end up taking a bite out of you

 

Richie Alan Naggar          Ran Right Realty       Riverside, Ca

Real Estate Broker and AUTHOR of the popular "PEARLS SERIES" of books on LIFE and LOVE

Richie@RanRightRealty.com         Richie@Pearlsforthesoul.com

PEOPLE FIRST...THEN BUSINESS

 
This post has been included in California Real Estate News

20 Comments on YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO TELL SOMEONE OFF

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Hi Richie,

Lots to digest this morning.

I have to read this post slowly so I understand exactly what's being put forth.

You have good and valid points.

Nice post.

Best, Clint McKie
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Clint...sip it like fine wine and let it wet your palate...thank you Clint for joining me
9:02am • #2
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Richie:  I'm thinking you're a very deep thinker ... and a very good man, my friend.  Many could benefit from following your wise words.  Guess I'm not much of a fighter.  I may THINK something.  But I rarely act quickly ... or speak in a knee-jerk reaction.  Just not my style.  Rare would describe those times I think it worth doing.  What is gained?  What is lost?  Typically more of the latter ...

Gene
9:19am • #3
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Hello Gene...thank you for the feedback which I use to improve the product called ...Richie. Gene, you say you are not much of a fighter, but I would venture that if circumstances presented themselves, you would rise to the occasion. In your heart, you know this. Perhaps you are in a world or a place where that challenge or circumstances is mitigated. My friend, marrow awaits
10:33am • #4
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Hi Richie... I use to speak up and speak out a lot more than I do now... It took years; but Rich finally got through... He taught me not to react with my mouth but to act with my mouth; after I had a clear picture of what results i wanted my words to achieve... It was good advice as is your post...
12:10pm • #5
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Beth...welcome to the ongoing work of a quality human being....I journey with you and enjoy you...carry on Beth
12:12pm • #6
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Richie,

So often the right to speak comes shortly before the brain engages on what should be spoken. It's a lifelong process for me, but I am learning to have more patience.

Rich
2:13pm • #7
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Richie to Rich...patience my dear boy is just another word for love...Now, explore it further, deeper and with renewed strengths
3:00pm • #8
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Great Points.  As my Southern Lady Mother and Grandmother used to say, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" 
7:14am • #9
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Great advice. You sound like my father. He used to say: You get more flies with honey than with vinegar....true words.
7:51am • #10
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Hi there Debbie...The Silver Bee....I like that, I like your grandma and I like you...thank you

Your dad was one of the greats practicing what worked....Now, it our turn to join them too...Best to you BJ

 
12:18pm • #11
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Good morning, Richie..... good post.... I've learned to bite my tongue....I have the scars to prove it!
4:31am • #12
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  Thanks for the Ah-ha moment!
Featured you in my Weekly Post!
5:40am • #13
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Hi Richie, great blog post and I must say, when done in a constructive and non threatening way, making sure you are heard is critical for the soul.  I'm not a tongue biter!
6:25am • #14
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Barbara...I can see having a difference of opinion with you no problem...I also know if you came within hugging distance, I would smother you....

Kathy....This now goes on my resume...Featured mention in a prominent professionals forum...I enjoy you K and that's no stage

 

Joanna...I like your comment...We were not put here to bite tongues, but to direct them and do as much of the right thing as we can when called upon...Continue this practice honing it as you go. I find it attractive and all so human. Thank u J
7:16am • #15
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Richie,

These are golden rules to live by. I'm glad you were featured on Kathy's post because it gave me to read something great and meaningful.

Keep up the great job you're doing on ActiveRain. You are more than just a blogger, you're a scholar and a friend to many. No wonder why you're the best in the business in Riverside, CA!
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Richie-That is a great philosophical position you've taken. I agree that just because we have the right to say something, if it will not lead to improving the situation, do we really need to "tell someone off?"
6:28pm • #17
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Richie, To speak or not to speak, it is our choice! You give is food for thought as to when to open our mouths!
8:06pm • #18
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Ritchie:

Sometimes it is harder not to speak than to speak up.  Holding my tongue has proved to be a good idea in some situations.
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Hello there Patricia...The world becomes a better place as we all share the parts we play with each other...I consider it a privilege to participate...I thank you Patricia and of course little Kathy too...best

Hello Wayne...It gives us reason to practice one of my favorite words...PAUSE....best Wayne

Hello Ellen...Over the years, I have met many people who are slow to respond. I used to think they had nothing to say or were without wit...I now know that they were practicing something greater and more meaningful. I join them

Hello Evelyn...Give this some thought: Pretend that you died this second. Now, look around you. Life goes on just fine. Now, come back and keep this in mind. Leave behind and contribute something that has meaning wherever you go...starting right now...thank you for sharing E
6:42am • #20


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