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Home Is Where Your People Are

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Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster Real Estate VA License # 0225089470

Home Is Where Your People Are

You would think by the number of times that Shadow (pictured on the right) jumps up and lays on my work folders and notebooks, or even on top of calculators and pens, that my desk and everything on it was as soft as a down comforter.  Certainly, as a multiple cat household, there are many places were Shadow could rest where he would be more comfortable.  Unfortunately, his people are not often by those beds.  They are busy working to pay the bills, and so he jumps up and makes himself comfortable wherever we are.

The three year old son of some recent buyers seemed as though he was going to have some trouble adjusting to his new home.  The thought of leaving the only home he's ever known seemed to terrify him.  Yet, on closing day, there he was smiling in his new home with Mom and Dad, Grandma and Grandpa buzzing around him getting things in order.  Changing locks, Cleaning bathrooms.  Hanging curtains.  All the fear of his new home had drifted away.  When I asked him if he wanted to go back to his old home he said, "No.  I want to stay here with Mom and Dad."  The old home was already fading in his memory. 

It's easy to get sucked into having this upgrade or that type of home on a particular lot.  At the end of the day, that's not the stuff that really matters.  It's who is sharing the space with you that makes a house a home.

Comments(15)

Nancy Conner
Olympia, WA
Olympia/Thurston County WA
Home is definitely where your people are! I love it that our children and pets instinctively get that.
Aug 10, 2012 10:18 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

So true, Chris Ann. Your post makes me smile.

Aug 10, 2012 10:52 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Chris Ann...Without the people a house is just a building.  Even one person has a hard time making a house a home without friends and loved ones to share it with.

Aug 10, 2012 11:17 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Nancy:  If only it were as easy for first time buyers to look past the potential glitz of some and lack of it in others and realize the same thing.

Lottie:  I'm glad it did.  That means I've done something right today.  :)

William:  Yep.  When I lived alone in my first condo, I was so disappointed that my brother and mother rarely visited.

Aug 10, 2012 11:42 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

 Chris  Ann, I'll bet your were really great with the little guy!  The children don't sign the buyer broker agreement, but I think they are in many ways our real  clients.

Aug 10, 2012 12:03 PM
Mel Ahrens, MBA, Kelly Right Real Estate
Kelly Right Real Estate - Hood River, OR
Customized Choices for your Real Estate Needs

What a great sentiment. We've moved a couple times while our boys are growing up and they've always been so scared at first, but adjusted amazingly fast. As long as we're together everything will be okay.

Gretchen

Aug 10, 2012 12:51 PM
Leslie G. Rojohn
MoonDancer Realty - Sylva, NC
GRI, ABR ~ MoonDancer Realty

I know that my animals feel that way but I gotta say for me, home is where my animals are.

Aug 10, 2012 01:57 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

So true. I get cranky at my old cat for INSISTING that she's going to be on my desk while I'm trying to work - but at the same time, I'm glad she wants to be where I am.

Aug 10, 2012 02:13 PM
Carol-Ann Palmieri
RE/MAX Executive Realty, Al and Cal Realty Group - Franklin, MA
"Cal" the Real Estate Gal

Hi Chris Ann.  Some children don't realize that their beds, dogs, toys are all making the move with them.    A home is much more than the structure.  

Aug 10, 2012 09:50 PM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Good Morning Chis Ann, Very well said, With my last sale the kids were so happy to be getting their own rooms and a great big pool they asked every day I saw them when they could move in. When i stopped by the other day, the little boy opened the door and said "thank you for my new home" that was worth every bit of work to make it happen. Have a great Saturday.

Aug 10, 2012 11:20 PM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

Is Shadow doing feelies in the air or does Shadow need his toenails clipped? :) My cat Jackson does that, too. Makes a better door than window, right? It's like, hey, lie down and stop blocking my monitor . . . but mommmmm, stop typing and pet me . . .

Aug 11, 2012 01:16 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Chris Ann - Lovely thought about the things that are really important, and not surprising that it's our little furry friends that draw our attention to it. With a couple of acres, rabbits and ground squirrels and birds to supervise, and tons of things to smell, our dogs much prefer being wherever we are - they know.

 

Aug 11, 2012 02:01 AM
Linda K. Mayer
License # 01767321 - La Verne, CA
Realtor, SRES, SoCAL, A REALTOR YOU CAN TRUST

Chris Ann, That's so true, but not only for animals.  It helps clients when they are in the middle of a short sale to be reminded of this fact as well.  Thanks for reminding me as well since we are selling our house, too.

Aug 11, 2012 02:26 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Pat:  After I gained his trust, we got along fine.  His Mom also wanted me to help him understand that he can't go look at any old house when they are out for a walk now.  Had to tell him we were done.  We found the one that he is living in now.

Gretchen:  That's right.  Kids get really wound up about moves, but end up doing just fine.

Leslie:  Same here.  I love my furry family.  Without them and my husband, this house would feel so empty.

Marte:  We get aggravated too...especially with Shadow because he is not graceful like most cats and has a tendency to frighten easily.  If he hears a loud noise, he'll go peeling off the desk leaving all kinds of disaster in his wake.

Aug 11, 2012 03:46 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Carol Ann:  That's true too.  Their experience is so limited, how would they?

Scott:  That's such a sweet story.  That would've made my day.

Elizabeth:  He's doing feelies.  We call it "making biscuits."  As for trimming his nails, he doesn't mind at all but it's difficult because he wants to chew on the nail clipper handles while you are trying to trim the nails.  If you can keep his head restrained while doing it, he is perfectly happy to let us manipulate him.

Dick:  That's right.  They know who loves them and takes care of them.  

Linda:  I am often refocusing my Short Sale clients on this fact.  It can feel absolutely awful to have no choice about selling.  They aren't ready to leave the house.  But they take the memories that happened in that home everywhere.  That was a concept my Mom had a hard time with when we sold our childhood home.  Because she had so many memories of my Dad, she felt she'd be leaving him behind there when she left.  She soon realized that all those memories will be with her forever.  She isn't about to forget the home she spent over 30 years in.

Aug 11, 2012 03:54 AM