There have been a handful of posts, lately, that have gone to that dark place.

I know, I know, it's an election year, and we're bound to end up in that dark place every now and then.  When folk start talking religion, politics, gun control, immigration or more, the flames are bound to fly.

So, what can you do to avoid being flamed (or worst yet, being the flamer?).

When you see someone scritching their igniter against the barrel of their flame-thrower, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit.  Someone in one of those narsty recent posts suggested that "by your comments, you will be known" spoke the truth.

There are plenty of people out there who merely lurk their way through the blogosphere.  And I use the term "lurk" in the warmest way... I love my lurkers.  They don't comment, you don't even know they're there, but they read.  Sometimes they're regular readers, and sometimes they just happen upon your a blog and read your comment the one time.

They don't know you from Adam (or Eve), but they will "know" you by the comment you left. And if the comment you left was 414 degrees Fahrenheit, they're going to think you're a gashole, regardless of which side you come down on the argument, and that's just not conducive to gaining business.. is it?

Careful the comments you leave in your wake, it can become your legacy.


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Either I am naive or I have simply missed or ignored the posts you are referring too. But I agree, there is no reason for any type of heated comments, thanks for the reminder
7:27pm • #41
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Alan:  I'm a mortgage lender.  I have enough excitement in my life.  I also have enough people that think merely by BEING a mortgage lender, that I'm a gashole.  I don't need to add to that list.  I stay clear and keep my opinions to myself.  I also don't go looking for ways to get myself worked-up.  Did I mention that I'm a mortgage lender and that my life is exciting enough???

Gene
7:28pm • #42
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Alan, It could really get a person into some hot water. It's better to stay clear.
7:40pm • #43
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May - I have no idea what the inspiration behind this post was (cough, hair ball), but for practical business purposes ... I deem you correct. 

I may have to institute a "Gene Mundt" philosophy going forward but I know I won't.  That's just me.  Besides, my life ain't nearly that exciting;)

Good advice, my friend.  Even if I may not follow it with some of my antics.
7:43pm • #44
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just lurking and reading, again, but this time I thought I'd let you know

 
8:42pm • #45
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Alan, I'm always the last to know when something has gone on - but I agree. I think before you write anything on the internet you should ask yourself how you would feel if it were on the headlines of your local newspaper?

Sharon
9:16pm • #46
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Alan - Politicis and religion are generally good topics to avoid for a reason.  They're explosive.
10:54pm • #47
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I don't want to be the gashole Alan, let me know if I cross that line.
12:05am • #48
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Hi Alan.  So engage brain before hitting submit?
3:35am • #49
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Patricia - yep... very few good outcomes by flaming.

Evelyn - exactly.... you could create a chasm "wider than a mile".... LOL!

Joy - no, you're not naive.

Gene - and what is it you do for a living?

Debbie - agreed.

Jason - I thought you'd already given that "mortgage brokerage" thing a try.

Tammy - love it twinsie!

Sharon - or would your mother approve?

Christine - they sure can be.

Tom - you'll be the first to know.

Conrad - that's the concept.
5:22am • #50
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lurk.  or was that a burp??
5:57am • #51
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Hi Darlin', I could surely have used this advice the other day.  I could have saved myself a few hours of angst trying to teach empathy to the unteachable.  Oh well.   Live and learn.  Have a great day!
5:58am • #52
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B'Liz - it could have been the Biryani from last night.

Susan - I can't have you angst-ridden.  I just can't.
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While I don't write about politics or religion unless it is a local real estate issue, I have also taken a Fair Housing Pledge. I'm committed to continue in the development of fair housing practices in accordance with my real estate profession which means refusing to tolerate non-compliance. Therefore I would be remiss, if I did not comment to set the record straight on some "dark posts" while still being civil and cordial.

 
8:56am • #54
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Mitchell - you wouldn't be remiss for "not commenting"... the Fair Housing Pledge does not require you to right every wrong that you see occuring around you.  Merely to make sure that your behaviour and activities fall in line with Fair Housing practices.
8:58am • #55
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I've had that disease a couple of times myself.
10:52am • #56
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Alan - as usual, I click onto ActiveRain in my own time warp and miss the excitement or rather negativity... I just search for the enlightenment, the fun, the humor and that is why I am drawn to people like you!
4:43pm • #57
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Very well said. No good comes from arguing politics or religion with the other side, and especially not in a business seting such as Active Rain.   Save it for Ummm, how about never. Or at least until you have your own TV talk show.
3:46am • #58
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Oops.  Guess I should have read this post before I commented on your 'Bad REALTOR' post!!  : )
6:57am • #59
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Tammie - I think we all find ourselves on the wrong side of this issue ocassionally.  We just shouldn't make a habit of it.

Gay - not to mention my rugged good looks.  ;-)

Scott - ooooooh... have you heard something?

Chris - nah...that weren't politics.
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