My friend, David Farkas, The House Healer (check him out at www.househealing.com) sent me this information about a Hawaiian process called Ho'Oponopono whereby through forgiveness and love we are healed. He suggested that I work with it to free up some aspects of my business and personal life that have been challenging. I started the process this morning, so I can't tell you the effect of the work on the outside world yet (although according to this process you all are merely reflections of me and vice versa - I can't think about it too hard or it makes my head spin.) But there are a few things I can tell you already.
I started the process with a particular person who has been a challenge in my life. But shortly after that, I went on to spontaneously apologize to myself for all the things I'd done and brought into my life this past year that made me unhappy. I apologized for eating badly, for not getting out to socialize more, for not showing up in my full power, for being afraid and for many other things as well. One thing led to the next and what I had planned to be a 2 minute trial process turned into 20 minutes of intense requests for forgiveness to myself.
Much like most other people on the planet, I'm much meaner to myself than I would ever be to anyone else. I also accept more abuse from myself than I would ever tolerate from others. I had a lot to apologize for. And I have a lot more to go, but that will have to wait for my next 20 minute window. I plan to continue this process daily. Already I am feeling more centered and grounded. My heart is open. I am at peace in a way that I haven't known before. If this is the result of 20 minutes of time, I can't wait to see what happens after a week of daily exercise.
Here is the information I used to begin this work for myself. Perhaps you might like to try it as well...
This article has been distributed on the Internet for years...
Sat Jul 22, 2006
By Joe Vitale
"Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
"When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
"However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.
"The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.
Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
"Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
"'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe.'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'
"This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'
"'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
"Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
"I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself.
"If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.
"I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
"'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.
"Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.
"Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.
"This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
"Within an hour I got an email from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
"I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.
He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.
"'What about the books that are already sold and out there?' I asked.
"'They aren't out there,' he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. 'They are still in you.' In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.
"Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love."
The words are...
- I love you
- I'm sorry
- Please forgive me
- Thank you
- So, you ask Spirit / God / the Universe to forgive you because you are 100% responsible for everything in your experience. Whether you see that as 'attracting' it, 'creating' it, or just 'allowing' it, it is yours or it would not be in your reality.
- A person who appears to be creating problems for you or is having problems themselves is actually performing a service to you. They are sacrificing being seen as a 'good' or 'healthy' person so that you can experience what you need to experience. They are voluntary participants in your drama to facilitate your learning / healing.
- You apologize to them for having asked them to do be in your experience in that role. You love them for their service to you and because they are a part of you.
- You are also apologizing from the part of yourself that created your difficulty to the part of yourself that experiences the trauma, drama and pain of the difficulty. It's all good, but sometimes it's also hard. You acknowledge that you experienced is exactly what you needed to experience. Life is not tidy.
- To watch a video of Joe Vitale introducing the concepts of Ho'Oponopono...
- The Book: Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More