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Thankfulness and Forgiveness

By Brian & Val Mayer

Real Estate Agent with The Mayer Group of eXp Realty

November 22, 2012 10:54 PM

I love the idea of Thanksgiving. With everything going on in politics, the economy, and worst of all no more Twinkies, its important to keep the proper perspective.

In real estate its easy to get down, resentful, and even feel sorry for yourself at times.

You know, when the client stops answering then you find out they closed with someone else or your friend or relative didn't use you, it hurts...

How about when the agent on the other side is less than cooperative or polite?

Try being a lender!

Then when people are straight up mean or dishonest it can get really ugly. In this business its hard to keep a positive attitude every day and not let those negative thoughts take over sometimes.

When I got an email recently that said basically thanks but I have been ignoring you and I just closed with someone else sorry... I heard this loud voice in my head

Thankfulness and forgiveness!

Thankfulness and forgiveness...

All day I had to work really hard to focus my thoughts on what I was thankful for and forgive those that have hurt me because I have been forgiven.

Resetment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets hurt...

Here is my list, I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

-We live in relative safety in the greatest country on earth

-Access to clean water and abundant food

-The best doctors and hospitals on earth

-Comforts even kings never had; heat and AC, electricity, hot water, vaccinations, and the list goes on and on...

-This year especially I am thankful that my preemie Preslee Rose who was born 2 months early is healthy and happy and my wife is expecting again!

-My wife is loyal to me and loves me

-My business has taken off in 2012 thanks to many of you!

So on Thanksgiving no matter what you are going through or how things are going, we are truly blessed and have so much to be thankful for!

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Wayne Bennett

One Home Team Realty/Charlotte,NC 704-293-3931 - Charlotte, NC

Real Estate...As It Should Be

Brian...well said...we all far too often we get caught up in the day to day activities and forget what's most important in life...love, family, health, and the riches that we're blessed with...hope and pray that you and your family have an awesome holiday season.

Nov 22, 2012 11:38 PM

Nancy Frimann

Eagle Ridge Realty/Signature Homes & Estates - Gilroy, CA

I will miss the the Sno-Balls, but there is so much to be thanksful for as you stated. Add up all the little things, and you have one big thing. Maybe gratitude is a fying attitude. If things are bad, they can only get better. Have a great weekend everybody.

Nov 22, 2012 11:38 PM

Brian & Val Mayer

The Mayer Group of eXp Realty - Huntingtown, MD

Listing Specialist | Realtor in Calvert County MD

~Wayne, well said my friend!

~ Nancy, thank you!

Nov 23, 2012 12:46 AM

Dr. Paula McDonald

Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX

Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Great words of wisdom. Yes you have so much to be thankful of. Hope your weekend continues to be fully blessed.

Nov 23, 2012 12:53 AM

Brian & Val Mayer

The Mayer Group of eXp Realty - Huntingtown, MD

Listing Specialist | Realtor in Calvert County MD

~Puala - Thank you, you too

Nov 23, 2012 02:04 AM

Ellen Kippel

Weichert Realtors - Suffern, NY

Licensed NY and NJ realtor 914-588-2365

Hi Brian - Yes, it is good to be thankful for all you listed. I agree with your list and I agree that it is helpful to use thankfulness to soothe our feelings of resentment when we work so hard for clients who treat us like it is OK to be used and abused. It is, sadly, the nature of our business, but looking on the bright side, like you did in this blog, is a good idea and helps. Have a great weekend. Ellen

Nov 23, 2012 03:58 AM

Brian & Val Mayer

The Mayer Group of eXp Realty - Huntingtown, MD

Listing Specialist | Realtor in Calvert County MD

~Ellen, Thank you have a great weekend as well.

Nov 23, 2012 04:11 AM

Melissa Zavala

Broadpoint Properties - Escondido, CA

Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County

I have not been in your shoes, but I think that we all equally experience both unprofessionalism and inefficiency. That's why we should all be thankful for our wonderful teams ;-) I know that I am.

Nov 23, 2012 04:48 AM

Brian & Val Mayer

The Mayer Group of eXp Realty - Huntingtown, MD

Listing Specialist | Realtor in Calvert County MD

~Melissa, Agreed its nice to have someone share the burden!

Nov 23, 2012 04:51 AM

Evelyn Kennedy

Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA

Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA

Brian:

It is easy to focus on the negative things that happen to us. But it is not worth spending your time and developing an ulcer focusing on something we can't change. I like your mantra. Thankfulness and forgiveness. Congratulation on the baby on the way and your dear preemie Rose.

Nov 23, 2012 06:34 AM

Christina Sanchez Hood

Palo Alto, CA

#SiliconValleyHOODS | Inspired Living

Brian, really good thoughts for the season and most importantly, to live by. Thanks for your post.

Nov 23, 2012 07:37 AM

Myrl Jeffcoat

Sacramento, CA

Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Brian - Ain't it the truth? I feel like elements have come together to create a perfect storm of outrage. Thank goodness the election is over. And although I haven't had a Twinkie in years, I suddenly now want one. One thing I have learned about life is there is power in surrender. That power comes from giving up the struggle you have little control over and cannot win. You can use that energy to focus on the things you can change.

Nov 23, 2012 10:08 AM

Michelle Francis

Tim Francis Realty LLC - Atlanta, GA

Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease

Brian, Love the two sides of this. It's especially important at Thanksgiving, as forgiveness keeps your heart free to be thankful! I'll skip the poison, though its tempting..... All the best, Michelle

Nov 23, 2012 10:10 AM

Tammie White, Broker

Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN

Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Brian, this business can be so frustrating. Sometimes we just have to let things go and move on. I agree. There is so much to be thankful for.

Nov 23, 2012 11:33 AM

Ginger Harper

Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC

Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Words of Wisdom. Thanks so much fore sharing with me..

Nov 23, 2012 12:59 PM

Christine Donovan

Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA

Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Brian- You have a lot of things for which to be thankful, and better yet, you have realized that you do.

Nov 23, 2012 01:03 PM

Charles Stallions Property Manager

Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pace, FL

Pensacola, Pace & Gulf Breeze Property Management

I can relate with all you say and then there are the trainers that say we don't educate the buyers.

Nov 23, 2012 01:11 PM

Sharon Parisi

United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX

Dallas Homes

Brian, finding a silver lining in every situation is a gift. The gifts you have discovered are inspirations for all of us. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom.

Nov 23, 2012 02:40 PM

Jordon Wheeler

The Jordon Wheeler Group - Fairburn, GA

J W Group Real Estate Sales and Service

Hey Brian,

I like the tie-in between being Thankful and extending Forgiveness. Thank you for an excellent post and blessings to you and your family!

Nov 23, 2012 07:22 PM

Brian & Val Mayer

The Mayer Group of eXp Realty - Huntingtown, MD

Listing Specialist | Realtor in Calvert County MD

~Evelyn - Your right but its easy to fall into the trap

~Christina - Absolutely!